I'm in love with my MM

[OWoman]

For anyone who says it's simple, "stay together or divorce," you also need a head check. It is not simple. That would be extremely difficult, especially when there is a 6 yr old in the middle.

 

Shellz, it IS that simple. Many of us have walked away from abusive / bad / unsatisfactory marriages despite having small children. It happens all the time. In my case, it was the best thing to do for my kids, and for myself. It was difficult financially, and in some other material ways, but I have never regretted it for a second, and the kids have never wished that I'd stayed.

 

It's a choice. But whichever way you choose, it's YOUR choice and YOU need to make the best of it, for yourself and the others involved.

[bentnotbroken]

Shellz, it IS that simple. Many of us have walked away from abusive / bad / unsatisfactory marriages despite having small children. It happens all the time. In my case, it was the best thing to do for my kids, and for myself. It was difficult financially, and in some other material ways, but I have never regretted it for a second, and the kids have never wished that I'd stayed.

 

It's a choice. But whichever way you choose, it's YOUR choice and YOU need to make the best of it, for yourself and the others involved.

 

 

Amen. We all make tough decisions everyday. I'm sure it wasn't easy for those who chose to stay in marriage after A's and work on them, and I sure as hell know it wasn't easy to walk away from over 20's of marriage. But it can be done when you stop waiting for the world to revolve around you and feel sorry for your situation.

[Simplycaroline]

Nothing good can or will come of this the your husband and child. How would you have felt when you did love your husband if he would have treated you with the disdain that you have treated him with? What if you found out that he had been saying the things about you that this married scoundrel has been saying about his wife?

 

Children are more perceptive than what you think and I can promise you that your child is soaking up all of this negativity like a sponge and how he relates to women is based on how the most important woman in his life is behaves. How she allows the men in her life to treat her and also HOW she treats men. You do not have much respect for anything that doesn't give you what you want.

 

This mans wife that you seem intent on believing is abusive, let just say for the moment that this man is not lying. I believe he is but that aside lets say that whay he is saying is true. What do YOU think that YOU can do to alter this situation? So far nothing.

 

People in abusive relationships have to make steps to save themselves. I.E. If he wants out then he has to do that on his own and it appears that he is not ready.

 

You will stay miserable and this will not have the happy ending that you desire. You can't keep your husband in limbo either because he will find someone who has more to offer him than you. When you try to have your cake and eat it to you will end up with no cake at all.

[Owl]

Shellz, it IS that simple. Many of us have walked away from abusive / bad / unsatisfactory marriages despite having small children. It happens all the time. In my case, it was the best thing to do for my kids, and for myself. It was difficult financially, and in some other material ways, but I have never regretted it for a second, and the kids have never wished that I'd stayed.

 

It's a choice. But whichever way you choose, it's YOUR choice and YOU need to make the best of it, for yourself and the others involved.

 

EXACTLY!!!!

 

Shellz, it should tell you something when you've got the BS's AND the OW all agreeing here!!!!