Is my wife cheating on me?

[waverider67]

I think my wife is cheating on me. Please! I need some advice. I'm not sure what to do.

 

Please forgive the length of this post:

I'm usually the first to wake up in the morning to get ready for work. I just got out of the bathroom when my wife's cell phone alarm began to ring. She's a very heavy sleeper (she uses 3!!! alarms and usually sleeps right through), so I usually walk up to her side of the bed, turn off the alarms, and begin shaking her gently to wake her up. As I was turning off her cell phone alarm, I noticed that her phone screen was set to the text messaging page. There was a text that was just recently been received that said "Do I still want to see, f_ _ _ k, get freaky, and like u? yes". My heart just plunged! I was shocked and devastated! I didn't know what to do, so I pretended nothing happened and went about my business.

 

For the rest of the week, I was an emotional wreck inside. I did my best to show outwardly that everything was the same, but I was dying inside. My mind began thinking thoughts that I did not want to think. One part of me wanted to confront her, but the other part was thinking maybe I'm making more of this than it actually is.

 

You see, she usually goes out on the town with her girlfriends pretty much every weekend. Sometimes, she sleeps over her girlfriends house if they've been drinking too much. Although this was not my idea, I sort of encouraged this, because she works hard during the week and takes care of the children also. I believed she needed to take a break and maybe relax and enjoy life a bit. Now you all know that a woman in a bar is gonna get hit on. And I realized that from the start and I was ok with that. I even told her that I didn't mind that she flirted a little bit. It would be good for her self-esteem. Up to this point, I never even thought that she would do anything to betray my trust.

 

The clincher was when I went to our phone account online and I saw the amount of correspondence she was having with this guy. They would talk on the phone throughtout the day, and text each other all the time. There was one day when they were texting all night long. Is this just more flirting? Is she just leading the guy on, or is there something a lot more going? Has she been seeing him on the weekends when she's supposed to be out with her girlfiends? And where is she really spending the nights?

 

I don't know if I've given enough information. I'll be glad to volunteer more. I was just concerned about the length of this post and boring you readers. Please help!

[Davey McG]

I think you already know the answer. She is cheating on you. How else could you explain all of this?

 

If you read other threads in this forum and the Infidelity forum you'll see that staying over at girlfriends's houses when they go drinking on a regular basis is usually a sign.

 

Someone will come along with better advice, but start gathering evidence

[saraispiel19]

Oh jeeze. Well I think you should definately be on your guard there is definately something fishy going on. The txt message said about getting freaky, in my POV, yes she is cheating; she may have had sexual relations with the man already or maybe has not and is getting "prepared" for it.

 

I would talk to her if I were you-- there is no point of you being in such emotional distress and her prancing along like nothing. Yes she may work hard and raise the children you've made but that is no excuse to let yourself go in that manner. She made the decision to open her legs and have these kids (accident or planned), when you have sex there is a chance of pregnancy. Don't feel bad for her about doing her job as a mother and working woman- there are millions out there but they are strong and work through every single day even if it gets stressful they find other ways to vent it out-- this is no justification for her actions and I want you to know that.

 

Talk to her- print out the statement you got and any other proof you have of this and ask her what it is all about so she doesn't deny it and she has it in her face. You need to stand your ground you def. have the upperhand in this situation.

 

good luck to ya.

[twice_shy]

I think my wife is cheating on me. Please! I need some advice. I'm not sure what to do.

 

Please forgive the length of this post:

I'm usually the first to wake up in the morning to get ready for work. I just got out of the bathroom when my wife's cell phone alarm began to ring. She's a very heavy sleeper (she uses 3!!! alarms and usually sleeps right through), so I usually walk up to her side of the bed, turn off the alarms, and begin shaking her gently to wake her up. As I was turning off her cell phone alarm, I noticed that her phone screen was set to the text messaging page. There was a text that was just recently been received that said "Do I still want to see, f_ _ _ k, get freaky, and like u? yes". My heart just plunged! I was shocked and devastated! I didn't know what to do, so I pretended nothing happened and went about my business.

 

For the rest of the week, I was an emotional wreck inside. I did my best to show outwardly that everything was the same, but I was dying inside. My mind began thinking thoughts that I did not want to think. One part of me wanted to confront her, but the other part was thinking maybe I'm making more of this than it actually is.

 

You see, she usually goes out on the town with her girlfriends pretty much every weekend.

 

Every weekend she goes out of town with her girlfriends? And she makes time for you when?

 

Oh ya, she is messing around. Going out of town every weekend, getting texts like the one you saw. yes, I'd say she is up to no good. And if she is leaving you every weekend, she isn't a wife in any sense of the word.

 

 

Sometimes, she sleeps over her girlfriends house if they've been drinking too much. Although this was not my idea, I sort of encouraged this, because she works hard during the week and takes care of the children also. I believed she needed to take a break and maybe relax and enjoy life a bit.

 

Thats fine, but not EVERY weekend and not out of town staying the night who knows where. Sounds like she needs to be single and isn't fit to be married.

 

 

Now you all know that a woman in a bar is gonna get hit on. And I realized that from the start and I was ok with that. I even told her that I didn't mind that she flirted a little bit.

 

Wrong move buddy. Even though you only mentioned flirting, you just opened up all the other possibilities for her by saying that.

 

 

The clincher was when I went to our phone account online and I saw the amount of correspondence she was having with this guy. They would talk on the phone throughtout the day, and text each other all the time. There was one day when they were texting all night long. Is this just more flirting?

 

Yes. First off, there is no such thing as harmless flirting.

 

And if someone is flirting, it starts and stops where they are at. It doesn't continue into frequent phone calls and texts.

 

You can be sure she is cheating on you with him. And if she hasn't she wants to and will.

 

Is she just leading the guy on, or is there something a lot more going? Has she been seeing him on the weekends when she's supposed to be out with her girlfiends? And where is she really spending the nights?

 

You are getting warmer. Tell her she needs to spend more time with you on the weekends and maybe she should only go out once a month. then see her reaction. If she gets mad, then there is your answer. She doesn't want to give up her cheating weekends.

 

 

I don't know if I've given enough information. I'll be glad to volunteer more. I was just concerned about the length of this post and boring you readers. Please help!

 

You've given up enough info to know that your wife is no wife at all. You need to nip the weekends out of town in the bud. Not saying she can't have her time, but going away every weekend, all weekend, and out of town??? Unacceptable.

 

But nipping that in the bud is just a start. You need to nip it to see her reaction. I bet she doesn't like the idea of spending her weekends with you at all!

 

If so, you just need to divorce this tramp.

[smoothrider]

You know the truth my friend. She's cheating on you, even if it's not physical yet it's already emotional. No harmless flirting goes on all damn day via texting and phone calls. She's also fed you classic lines of sleeping over at friends when drunk I had a woman who played that line and I said I'd come pick her up right now then a whole bag of BS came from her mouth. Called her friend immediately after hanging up who said she never saw my gf that day found out my girl had been cheating all those "nights at a friend because she was to drunk"

 

It doesn't matter if you have children, or if she's a good mother . People can do anything if they want to. Your getting played big time. Talk to her today get some truth out of her dirty mouth and then seperate, look after the kids if you can or a family member but let this b*tch get her money from her man on the side I hate women that screw good guys. I also equally hate men that do this too when they have good women by their sides and decide to stray some people don't realise how lucky they actually are and get too damn greedy.

 

Human Nature some people say ... well maybe but it's not my nature.

[Stockalone]

I think my wife is cheating on me. Please! I need some advice. I'm not sure what to do.

 

The first thing you should think about is what you would do if she is indeed having an affair. Could you forgive her or is that out of the question?

 

In case you would want a divorce, talk to a lawyer to see what options you have.

 

You are obviously very conderned, and understandably so. Those text goes far beyond flirting, at least I think so. However, talking to her might not be such a good idea. If she is having an affair, your suspicions could cause her to be even more sneaky and careful. She could just lie to you. And would your mind be put at ease if she told you she is just flirting, like you suggested? It could be the truth, would you accept that as her answer?

 

I would hire a PI. If you can't afford one, then ask friends (the kind you can trust) your wife doesn't know to follow her. If she goes clubbing or partying at bars with her girlfriends, following her should be easy. Still, your best bet is a PI.

 

In case you have a joint checking account, and are afraid of her wondering where the money goes (the money for the PI). Then ask your best friend to lend you money for the PI, tell him why you need it and can't take it out of your account with your wife.

 

If the PI doesn't find anything, meaning she is only out with her girlfriends, then talk to your wife about your situation. That you are getting more and more uncomfortable with her weekends with her girlfriends and that you would like her to do it less often and to stop the flirting with other men.

 

 

If a PI confirms that she is having an affair, then at least you will know for sure, even if it means devastating news.

 

There are also ways to deal with the other guy(s) if your wife is having an affair. I know some shady characters from my army days. Guys that owe me big. But that might only be something I would consider, I am very possessive and vindictive.

 

And so far, you don't even know if your wife is having an affair. Think about hiring a PI, that way, you will get confirmation either way.

[Tripper]

Well, WR, something amiss is going on. You don't know if this is an EA or a PA but her actions are indicating some sort of betrayal.

 

Before you pull the trigger with a PI or accusations, I would a) make copies of her phone records, credit card records <she may be charging hotels, meals etc that you don't know about> etc and stash them safely. Same goes for emails if you can access her account. Do this before she deletes or changes passwords. b) make sure your ducks are in a row financially and legally and maybe you have a some $$ stashed away.

 

Then you need to get proof of what you suspect. Confronting her, even with phone records, emails etc is pointless. Cheaters lie and deny. She make up some cock and bull story about "he's just a friend", "it's just a joke" whatever they think works. Lie and deny.

 

Once you have some sort of unequivocal proof you can then confront her. And she still lie and deny.

 

You may want to give some thought to what happens after all hell breaks loose. What's the next step - MC, separation and divorce, forgiveness? Have a plan in mind.

[45Reverse]

I would talk to her if I were you--

 

Talk to her- print out the statement you got and any other proof you have of this and ask her what it is all about so she doesn't deny it and she has it in her face. You need to stand your ground you def. have the upperhand in this situation.

 

good luck to ya.

 

 

HELL NO! DO NOT TALK TO HER ABOUT THIS.

 

Your first task is to confirm as much as you possibly can. The poster who suggested the PI is correct. If you can't pay for a PI, do it yourself.

 

Tap the home phone if you have to and help her "lose" her cell for a day or two. You can tap your home line for $60.00 and a trip to Radio Shack. You'll force her to do her talking on a recordable line {evil grin}

 

Borrow a friend's car and follow her. Does she end up in some dudes car, or house, or a hotel room?

 

Install key logging and screen shot capturing software on ALL of your home computers and check the logs daily.

 

Stash a GPS tracking device in her car.

 

...And If you discover she's cheating you'll need to divorce her...Hate to say it but cheaters never stop...ok DAMN NEAR never stop.

 

Above all keep this under your shirt for as long as it takes for YOU to set yourself up for life "after this". If it's chronic (and cases like this usually are) it'll be hard to keep quiet but you'll need her kept in the dark for as long as possible as you prepare to divorce her.

 

And to those of you who are going shout "foul" at my suggestions. Flake off! You all know that he'll never learn the full truth by talking to her about it. Cheaters lie about this stuff in 99.99% of the cases. Talking to her is a waste of time...He needs to learn for himself.

 

Now is not the time to be bashful or concerned for her privacy buddy.

[waverider67]

Thanks everyone for their advice. It's seems pretty unanimous which is what I was afraid of. I never in my life thought something like this would happen to me. Although we didn't have the most perfect marriage, I thought we were both secure in each other and that we would be able to work out whatever issues came up together.

I suppose it's partly my fault because she's complained before about how I sometimes don't talk enough to her and that I'm emotionally distant. I've tried hard not to be this way but it's really hard when life carries you away (helping with homework, cooking dinner, doing laundry, doing dishes, mowing the lawn, etc.) I get home from work and it seems like a whole other full-time job waiting for me.

I've never turned her down when it comes to sex. In fact, it was her libido that went downhill after the kids. Not recently though since she's been "going out". She's actually been a sex goddess since this change in her weekend lifestyle. At first, I enjoyed this change in her, but now I'm sick to my stomach thinking of the possibility that I've been sharing her with another man.

I came home early from work and began printing the whole month's worth of texting on her phone from out internet phone account. Once I began looking at the info more closely, I became shocked again at the egregiousness of it all. There were literally consecutive days in which they were texting each other all day and all night with only a few hours' breaks in between for other things (such as work??!! and sleep??!!) When she gets home, I will confront her and listen to what she has to say. Wish me luck, everyone.

[smoothrider]

All this PI ****, wire the phone crap. Maybe you people did this but come on your average joe isn't in the mood to do any of this crap, I wouldn't even know where to start to look for a PI I might aswell ask my brother.

Point is most likely like the majority of people ont his forum they aint going to be calling any PI and they wont be tapping any line. He'll investigate this on his own as he has already done.

 

I still suggest you talk to her, hell even lie abit the best way to catch cheaters out is to keep them ont heir toes plus to be honest OP doesnt sound as dense as half the people on the forum who have been fooled for years by their partner I just think he's scared of losing her.

 

It's very simple what to do anyone who disagrees COME ON. If you do this EXACTLY as I say it with no room for her to walk away or something then you'll know.

 

Comfront her, tell her who's this guy she's been talking to and sending texts. If she says some **** like "have you been looking in my phone " or some bull**** to change subject. Say hell yeah and we're going to sort this now, and If I'm wrong Im wrong but if Im right, your ass is out now I have some questions;

 

Why are they conversing so much in text and phone calls, and why is it sexual. Let her talk, most likely she will cover or downplay it. Just let her talk. After she's done unless she's broken down already, most likely she will say it's a friend and harmless. Ask to speak to him immediately because you want to get to know this guy. Infact have his number written down before hand (im sure you have) incase she denies you using her phone to call him at this very minute. If she does deny you, reassure her your not saying anything rude , if she still denies you already know somethings up, she's defending this brand new friend over your well being.

 

Immediately call him on your house/cell phone since you know the number her reaction will say it all. You can then do as you please as to what you say to this guy if shes freaking out you already know shes cheating.

 

If early on she says anything like "this is crazy Im leaving I cant believe you'd suspect such a thing" explain the calls and the proof you've seen and tell her if she leaves right now it's over. Any woman if she does love you would stay and atleast hear what you have to say no matter how outlandish aslong as they don't think your going to hit them or something. If she still chooses to leave I would take that as going to create some cover story with the guy and any friends who will back her up.

 

Basically this whole technique is to corner a cheater, to give them little or no options and it will always reveal the truth.

 

Personally I wouldnt need any damn facts, Unless this guy is her father or brother my girl wouldnt be talking to no man several times a day every day. Just as I wouldnt to ANY woman unless it was a family member and even then what the **** would I be talking about every day.

 

Dump this ho. Don't waste any more money on her and I know you are I can just feel it. I hate to see people like this.

[imagine]

Hey there WR

 

Steal your wifes phone.

 

Text the caller. Tell him - My place 7 o'clock sharp. Bring the wine. Confirm.

 

Make sure her mobile is set to "silent" mode. Text your address if he doesn't already know it.

 

Inform your wife that you are inviting an old friend to a light supper that night at seven. Tell her its a surprise. She must not answer the door until the friend is settled.

 

Invite the dude in. Explain that Lady Waverider is expecting him.

 

Bring your wife in and ask her to introduce you properly. Then ask him how long he has been f----king your wife.

[theobserver]

Hey there WR

 

Steal your wifes phone.

 

Text the caller. Tell him - My place 7 o'clock sharp. Bring the wine. Confirm.

 

Make sure her mobile is set to "silent" mode. Text your address if he doesn't already know it.

 

Inform your wife that you are inviting an old friend to a light supper that night at seven. Tell her its a surprise. She must not answer the door until the friend is settled.

 

Invite the dude in. Explain that Lady Waverider is expecting him.

 

Bring your wife in and ask her to introduce you properly. Then ask him how long he has been f----king your wife.

 

Genius. Although you can't be the emotional type to pull this off, you'd have to remain a hardass the whole time.

[45Reverse]

All this PI ****, wire the phone crap. Maybe you people did this but come on your average joe isn't in the mood to do any of this crap, I wouldn't even know where to start to look for a PI I might aswell ask my brother.

 

You may not buy it...and that's cool. But if you've never dealt with someone involved in an affair you have no idea how great the legnths they'll go to to lie and obfuscate.

 

A person should always have something concrete before confronting a lover about an affair.

 

Why are they conversing so much in text and phone calls, and why is it sexual. Let her talk, most likely she will cover or downplay it. Just let her talk. After she's done unless she's broken down already, most likely she will say it's a friend and harmless. Ask to speak to him immediately because you want to get to know this guy. Infact have his number written down before hand (im sure you have) incase she denies you using her phone to call him at this very minute. If she does deny you, reassure her your not saying anything rude , if she still denies you already know somethings up, she's defending this brand new friend over your well being.

 

Immediately call him on your house/cell phone since you know the number her reaction will say it all.

 

If early on she says anything like "this is crazy Im leaving I cant believe you'd suspect such a thing" explain the calls and the proof you've seen and tell her if she leaves right now it's over.

 

Basically this whole technique is to corner a cheater, to give them little or no options and it will always reveal the truth.

 

No...this won't get to the truth. Not the real truth anyway. This will get the OP a cock-and-bull story and leave him more confused than he was before.

 

Dump this ho. Don't waste any more money on her and I know you are I can just feel it. I hate to see people like this.

 

Best advice he's gotten so far.

[45Reverse]

Hey there WR

 

Steal your wifes phone.

 

Text the caller. Tell him - My place 7 o'clock sharp. Bring the wine. Confirm.

 

Make sure her mobile is set to "silent" mode. Text your address if he doesn't already know it.

 

Inform your wife that you are inviting an old friend to a light supper that night at seven. Tell her its a surprise. She must not answer the door until the friend is settled.

 

Invite the dude in. Explain that Lady Waverider is expecting him.

 

Bring your wife in and ask her to introduce you properly. Then ask him how long he has been f----king your wife.

 

Sheer brilliance. Even if the only benefit to the OP is the emotional slap down this would put on his wife....and maybe the fact that he'd get to put a proper slap down on the OM himself. Man, I'd be tempted to do this.

 

If the dude has kids and any kind of real assetts, he needs to take a more calculated approach though. Trust me people. You can't stay married to an adulterer and you can't go into family court as a man with nothing more than "she cheated on me!" for the judge. The wifey will still get the kids, the house, the retirement...you get the picture.

 

No...he needs to do this whole thing on the DL so he can start to prepare for a life after divorce. He won't get the chance to prepare if he confronts her without a plan and some hard evidence.

 

just sayin is all...

[theobserver]

I even told her that I didn't mind that she flirted a little bit. It would be good for her self-esteem. Up to this point, I never even thought that she would do anything to betray my trust.

 

Now I'm by no means at all saying this was a mistake but... no what am I saying this was your biggest mistake.

 

I'm almost certain your wife is cheating on you in a PA or EA and I don't even know her.

To go over what I said above I feel the biggest mistake you did was give the green light for being flirtacious with men. Don't get me wrong her ladies and gents I'm not into "cans and can'ts" but sometimes there is that line we both know not to cross it's an unwritten relationship code presuming you are both on the monogamy page.

 

Now friendly witty flirting is always ok it really goes no where and it's mostly being sassy but I can't help but feel when you said you didn't mind if she flirts that she just took this abit too far. I bet she met some guy at the bar he pushed the right buttons made her laugh and she thought if I flirt back and keep talking to this guy it's ok because my boyfriend said he doesn't mind not realising that the more this went on this became an emotional affair if not worse by now.

 

"The clincher was when I went to our phone account online and I saw the amount of correspondence she was having with this guy. They would talk on the phone throughtout the day, and text each other all the time. There was one day when they were texting all night long. Is this just more flirting?"

 

 

LOL I think you've read enough replies to know that it's not. He's clearly not a friend either or she would of made efforts to have him meet you I bet she hasn't even mentioned you. It's possible like I said she's hooked in talking to this guy, her self-esteem is at an all time high and he's making her feel so good, and this all started from you giving the green light.

To quote smoothrider "dump the ho" and I hope she actually contributes to the bills youve been paying especially the phone.

 

In the future to all gusy reading here if you feel your girlfriend needs a self-esteem boost YOU should be personally help her feel better about herself not giving her permission to have other guys fulfill that need.

 

You could easily dress up, go to a resturant with her make her look all sexy in the best dress she has. Take her dancing and have men turn their head noticing her BUT with you in her arms as her mate and she can still get that buzz.There's just other ways to go about this sigh.

 

"Sometimes, she sleeps over her girlfriends house if they've been drinking too much"

 

How are people still falling for this? Even if it is true then she needs to stop getting so wasted then and has a problem. No designated driver? Nobody can drive? Then ffs don't drink so damn much so that you can take a taxi to get back home.

Once or twice is somewhat believable but by then a normal person would try to make sure they don't drink so much so they can actually get home.

 

I would say speak to her friends but we humans are so stupid and don't like to snitch and mix loyalty over common decency. Oh well.

 

Good luck whatever you do, I hope you have a clean divorce.

[Sears]

I think my wife is cheating on me. Please! I need some advice. I'm not sure what to do.

 

Please forgive the length of this post:

I'm usually the first to wake up in the morning to get ready for work. I just got out of the bathroom when my wife's cell phone alarm began to ring. She's a very heavy sleeper (she uses 3!!! alarms and usually sleeps right through), so I usually walk up to her side of the bed, turn off the alarms, and begin shaking her gently to wake her up. As I was turning off her cell phone alarm, I noticed that her phone screen was set to the text messaging page. There was a text that was just recently been received that said "Do I still want to see, f_ _ _ k, get freaky, and like u? yes". My heart just plunged! I was shocked and devastated! I didn't know what to do, so I pretended nothing happened and went about my business.

 

For the rest of the week, I was an emotional wreck inside. I did my best to show outwardly that everything was the same, but I was dying inside. My mind began thinking thoughts that I did not want to think. One part of me wanted to confront her, but the other part was thinking maybe I'm making more of this than it actually is.

 

You see, she usually goes out on the town with her girlfriends pretty much every weekend. Sometimes, she sleeps over her girlfriends house if they've been drinking too much. Although this was not my idea, I sort of encouraged this, because she works hard during the week and takes care of the children also. I believed she needed to take a break and maybe relax and enjoy life a bit. Now you all know that a woman in a bar is gonna get hit on. And I realized that from the start and I was ok with that. I even told her that I didn't mind that she flirted a little bit. It would be good for her self-esteem. Up to this point, I never even thought that she would do anything to betray my trust.

 

The clincher was when I went to our phone account online and I saw the amount of correspondence she was having with this guy. They would talk on the phone throughtout the day, and text each other all the time. There was one day when they were texting all night long. Is this just more flirting? Is she just leading the guy on, or is there something a lot more going? Has she been seeing him on the weekends when she's supposed to be out with her girlfiends? And where is she really spending the nights?

 

I don't know if I've given enough information. I'll be glad to volunteer more. I was just concerned about the length of this post and boring you readers. Please help!

 

 

It is a possibility that your wife is having an affair. Based on your info, one can't tell if it is an emotional affair or a physical affair. Her going out of town is not a good thing considering all the text traffic.

 

If you believe she is cheating, do you want to save your marriage? If so, I would suggest you move over to this message board:

 

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php

 

This board is geared towards folks going through divorces and things that you mention. I'm not saying this is where you're heading but be among like minded people.

 

 

If you feel a divorce is coming go here:

 

 

http://www.mysecretdivorce.com

 

 

You can at least get some ideas of prep you should be doing. Keep in mind, this place sells things and presents the worse case scenarios.

 

 

Good luck.

[imbewildered]

Hey there WR

 

Steal your wifes phone.

 

Text the caller. Tell him - My place 7 o'clock sharp. Bring the wine. Confirm.

 

Make sure her mobile is set to "silent" mode. Text your address if he doesn't already know it.

 

Inform your wife that you are inviting an old friend to a light supper that night at seven. Tell her its a surprise. She must not answer the door until the friend is settled.

 

Invite the dude in. Explain that Lady Waverider is expecting him.

 

Bring your wife in and ask her to introduce you properly. Then ask him how long he has been f----king your wife.

 

Freakin priceless !

[Darth Vader]

To the poster of this Thread, your wife having an affair is not your fault in anyway shape or form, even if you neglected her, nothing justifys cheating!

[porter218]

Hey there WR

 

Steal your wifes phone.

 

Text the caller. Tell him - My place 7 o'clock sharp. Bring the wine. Confirm.

 

Make sure her mobile is set to "silent" mode. Text your address if he doesn't already know it.

 

Inform your wife that you are inviting an old friend to a light supper that night at seven. Tell her its a surprise. She must not answer the door until the friend is settled.

 

Invite the dude in. Explain that Lady Waverider is expecting him.

 

Bring your wife in and ask her to introduce you properly. Then ask him how long he has been f----king your wife.

 

that is soooo my style. I did something like that to an x of mine....I laughed about it for years(still do). I was more sneaky though. I set his phone to send messages to 5 girls he was cheating on me with at a time I wouldn't be with him telling them all to come to his house in an hour...I happened to know that he was planning on seeing a girl at his house that night ( a sixth girl he was cheaing on me with:eek:.what a manwhore) 4 of them showed up and he was there with his date. He kicked everyone out and hid in a hole for a month.

[imagine]

Yo there WR

 

NEVER ask why ...obvoiusly they liked it. Rather ask what ... you need to get the whole story. Nothing must ever again come out of the woodwork.

 

Trust has been broken -this is a big deal- transparency must prevail.

 

I would most definitely apologise in blood for the remark "flirt a little". You have disrespected her and your marriage. Hey! you may as well have told your kid to play with snowballs on "Avalanche Hill".

 

That said, it was still her choice to take you literally.

 

Get thee to yon MARRIAGE BUILDERS website and rebuild your marriage!