I am seriously contemplating cheating on my wife

[cant breathe]

I'm new to this site as i'm in the midst of a relationship breakdown (with the man i left my husband for)and saw your post maskedmango.

 

What i ask is that you please listen very carefully to the following.......................I was married for 15yrs(was with him25yrs in total) and had two beautiful daughters. Things had not been great at home for a long time and myself and my husband had not been intimate for quite a while.

 

Like you i met someone at work and the attraction between us was undeniable, we talked ALL the time.....sound familiar?? We made contact outside work at night and weekends.......sound familiar??

 

We were obviously attracted strongly to each other and i truly yes TRULY beleived that this was my destiny, i had finally met my soulmate the man of my dreams and that fate had brought this to me.I had only had one relationship in my whole life and that was my husband.

 

Well...........the inevitable happened and me and my workmate started a relationship which lasted for 2 and a half years. I ended my marriage devastating my husband and two children to have a relationship with this man.

 

I cannot advise you strongly enough not to go down this road as no good will come of it. My relationship with the other person has now ended and what have i got to show for it. NO MARRIAGE ...........MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER WISHING TO LIVE WITH HER DAD......HAVING TO STILL WORK WITH THE OTHER MAN IN A SMALL OFFICE WITH EVERYONE GOSSIPING......AND MOST OF ALL THE FEELING OF KARMA because what goes around comes around.

 

Bear this in mind when you try to convince yourself that this is the real deal, that you and the other woman were meant to be. Yes there are obvioulsy problems in your marriage as there wre in mine and maybe they can't be solved. If that is the case leave before you even think of getting involved with someone else beacuse the guilt you will feel for the infideltity will overwhelm you. Another piece of advice...........BAD IDEA TO GET INVOLVED AT WORK IN FACT BAD IDEA ALL TOGETHER. Sort yourself out before it's too late. PLEASE!!!

[imagine]

Thanks for sharing that CANT BREATH God Bless.

 

Now write your ex H exactly what you told us. But don't hold your breath. Give him and yourself closure.

 

Maskedmango

 

You did good to vent on this site rather than succumb to temptation.

 

Sadly, you're still not out of the woods. Get out of there! Change jobs if you have to...

 

Share the reason for transfer/quitting with your wife. She may then truly appreciate how serious the situation is and what you are prepared to do for the sake of the marriage.

 

Disclaimer: I cannot guess the mind of any woman....!

[maskedmango]

Well the good news is that the OW is on vacation for the next week and we both just agreed to cut out talking to each other. Even txt or email. We both owe it to our S.O. to fix both of our marriages. It did help to vent this out on this website. It feels good to get some of this pent up emotion out.

 

Thanks for all of the advice.