Two questions that need answering.

[MaxManwell]

1) Is there any point in caring about people ? They don't care about me, only what they can get from me, so why should I care about them ?

 

- I guess that one is refuted to some degree by the existence of this forum but this forum does not represent all people, and I think that there are many more people who do not care about others.

 

2) How can I have respect for women ? They fall into a few groups, mostly.

 

- Good looking women and women who basically freeload through life using womanhood to avoid having to ever work hard.

 

- Women who are just plain stupid, ignorant and oblivious.

 

- The good ones that understand the world, are open to ideas, and will accept the two groups above do exist, unfortunately, these women are almost always overweight or ugly. These women are also the keepers, however most keepers tend to fall into category one often to a large extent.

[Geishawhelk]

1) Is there any point in caring about people ?

Yes.

 

They don't care about me, only what they can get from me, so why should I care about them ?

perception is often deception.

 

- I guess that one is refuted to some degree by the existence of this forum but this forum does not represent all people, and I think that there are many more people who do not care about others.

It takes one to know one.

 

2) How can I have respect for women ? They fall into a few groups, mostly.

 

I would respectfully suggest you stop pigeon-holing people and categorising people according to your own blinkered and narrow view.

It's like me saying that men fall into two categories.

 

Those who are sex-mad and think with their trouser furniture, and just want a woman for what they can get out of them - subservience and sex,

 

or

they're spineless wimps who are great pushovers and just good for wiping your feet on. get them to spend your money on you, and use them for whatever you can get.

 

Both views are utter rubbish.

 

I suggest you get off this forum, mix with real people and be nice to them. try to see the good and worthwhile in them, and eventually, they might start to recognise it in you.

 

Whilst you project nothing but billshut, that's all you'll get back.

[MaxManwell]

I'm already nice to everyone.

 

I don't put all women into one of those groups. But I meet a lot of people who do fall into one of those groups and it affects my judgment.

 

I hope you are intelligent enough to understand that or I will have to put you into one of the above categories.

 

'All people a different'

the vast majority of people are predictable.

[Geishawhelk]

I'm already nice to everyone.

No, actually, you're not.

 

I don't put all women into one of those groups. But I meet a lot of people who do fall into one of those groups and it affects my judgment.

as I tried to illustrate, that's not their problem. it's yours.

 

I hope you are intelligent enough to understand that or I will have to put you into one of the above categories.

I can't tell you how absolutely petrified you make me.

so I suppose I will have to put you into one of the two categories I illustrated, then.

This of course, would not make me correct.

Just as you putting me into one of yours, would not make YOU correct.

 

'All people a different'

the vast majority of people are predictable.

 

Well, having been around for, I would guess, probably twice as long as you have, I can categorically tell you people are not predictable.

I never cease to be amazed, for example, how continuously obtuse and blinkered some people can be.

[carhill]

OP, try something novel.

 

Give of yourself what you choose to give freely and honestly, without expectation. Be yourself and accept your boundaries as true to you.

 

Watch for the people in your life and who come into your life who are like-minded. Amongst them you will find compatibility. Amongst those you may find attraction. A healthy relationship may result.

 

This is a key result of MC for me. Acceptance and valuation of those who are interested in me and value me, rather than pursuit of those whom are elusive and distant. The same dynamic which applies to a healthy M applies to a healthy R.

 

1. Yes. Why? Because it brings you joy to do so

 

2. You can have respect for women firstly by respecting yourself. Self-respect breeds respect for others. Understanding that respect, both for self and others, and desire/compatibility aren't synonymous but perhaps more parallel paths can be key to understanding this dynamic.

 

Once you achieve this clarity, all the rest is just a process. A process which you approach from a place of joy, rather than ambivalence, which is what I'm hearing from you now.

 

Such are my thoughts