Tony T Posted March 12, 2000 Share Posted March 12, 2000 Your first kiss will have a different meaning for you than it will for him. Each person assigns his or her own meaning to it. Since a first kiss is generally an expression of how the evening is going or the direction you want the relationship to go, make it a nice one but don't let it last too long. It is essential that you make him want more of you. If you give it your all the first time, you've pretty much left nothing on the plate but sex...and I don't think that's what your after at this point. To keep a guy interested, you always have to leave him wanting more. The kiss itself is an expression of affection and interest. Don't let him know just how interested you are at this early stage of dating. Now, if you are really interested in this guy, you won't stand by the phone and answer every time he calls. When he asks you where you were, tell him you were out with friends, at the mall, or wherever. If he knows you are constantly thinking about him and standing by the phone waiting for his call, his interest will decline. Guys want a girl that has a life. They may not say this. There is nothing that drives a man more cracy than to call a lady several times and get an answering machine...or learns she is not home. And don't accept every date request. Sometimes when he asks you out, tell him you have other plans but suggest another night. THIS WILL DRIVE HIM EVEN MORE NUTS. Follow my directions and that first kiss will lead you to heaven!!! And, by the way Karli, give my regards to Tiffany. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tony T Posted March 12, 2000 Author Share Posted March 12, 2000 Polly: Opinions aren't stupid...they are opinions. This isn't a forum for being rude and judgemental. It is a forum for trying to help people out. Now, if I may be a bit critical for a second, your post does not address Karli's very simple question. At least mine does, even if it is "stupid" to you. Love is a serious but gentle subject and I hope you will exercise your right to give advice here as you feel it rather than comment on the advice given by others. Let those who seek advice take it in and process it for themselves. You really take away from your own credibility by calling other people's opinions stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
Faraway Eyes Posted March 13, 2000 Share Posted March 13, 2000 Dear Karli, My opinion is that you may want to follow your own heart regarding matters of the heart, and if you're ever not sure about something, then you can always ask God to help you through the situation (go with the flow), or just perservere and wait for the right moment. I still don't think it's right to play games- to keep planning the next move. In a relationship, it's important that you feel you can be totally open and honest and if you are in the beginning, then that person will always trust you. I apologize to Tony because he felt he had to write me to tell me he has a Ph.D. in psychology. (I'm only assuming that he's not used to taking criticism, because most patients I've helped act intimidated around doctors and don't tell them everything, which can affect their care.) I've always found that by placing my problems in God's hands, I can always see changes being made leading to my answer. He does wonderful miracles everyday that human beings just aren't capable of. I believe things will work out for you if you listen to your inner voice and do what you feel is "right." i JUST STARTED DATING THIS GUY AND WELL I WANT OUR FIRST KISS TO SAY MORE THEN GOODNIGHT SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME SOME TIPS!! Link to post Share on other sites
Harold Emick Posted March 14, 2000 Share Posted March 14, 2000 Hi karli, my name is harold, and i don't know how old you are but don't be in a rush, because matters of the heart need to be taken slow thats what makes love special. sit down with the one you care about and lay down some ground rules first. let him know what you are looking for, tell him how you feel find out about each other, such as likes, dislikes, goals, dreams, wants, needs, feel each other out. i may not have all the answers to help you because not everybody is the same, but i've been there 6 times and i have learned from my mistakes, and now i help other people with their relationships all over the world. if you want to respone e-mail me at <e-mail address removed> harold i JUST STARTED DATING THIS GUY AND WELL I WANT OUR FIRST KISS TO SAY MORE THEN GOODNIGHT SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME SOME TIPS!! Link to post Share on other sites
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