n9688m Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 The objective is to win without pain, without anger, without suffering. Odds are there is an OM. In that case the pain, anger, and suffering are inevitable even if he reconciles. Do you want to heal and overcome, or do you want to hurt and suffer feelings of hatred and disgust? Choose for yourself. All of the above - and none of it is possible without the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simon Leon Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 If there was another guy....I don't want to know. What good will come from me knowing. I think I am going to plan on moving on. I read that when a marrage gets to the point of having to negociate it's continuation....it is already doomed. I am a realistic guy...I realize that there is pain/loss associated with all breakups, but I don't want to drag it on for more then it has to. If our relationship got to the point where she had to look for attention and affection elsewhere, then maybe it is time to close this chapter. Life is a book full of chapters and I intend to make mine a good read. I'm really glad I found this site. Writing is really helping me out a lot. Thanks guys. Link to post Share on other sites
n9688m Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 If there was another guy....I don't want to know. What good will come from me knowing. It may change your legal situation since it sounds like you are planning to divorce. For example, in some states adultery removes or reduces the other spouse's obligation for spousal support. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simon Leon Posted June 25, 2008 Author Share Posted June 25, 2008 She earns more then me and we have no kids. We will sort this out via a mediator. I don't think there will be spousal support/alomony in our situation (unless she has to pay me). Link to post Share on other sites
TrustInYourself Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 She earns more then me and we have no kids. We will sort this out via a mediator. I don't think there will be spousal support/alomony in our situation (unless she has to pay me). You have a good head on your shoulders. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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