Texas2004 Posted June 22, 2008 Share Posted June 22, 2008 I am a male and have two good friends (a husband and wife) who want me to participate in a threesome with them (nothing gay, just with her). I am conflicted by this. I find her attractive (and would like to have sex with her). They also have experience doing this, so it works for them. On the other hand, I really don't want to have sex with a woman with another guy present (particularly one I know so well) and I am concerned about long-term ramifications of our friendship. I am looking for advice for people who have been through this. Thoughts, suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted June 22, 2008 Share Posted June 22, 2008 If you do this, your friendship will be over. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted June 22, 2008 Share Posted June 22, 2008 Done this, but with another girl not a man. I too agree that 2 men having sex in the same room with the same woman in really weird...this is why we went with a woman. Don't do it, your doubts about it is enough. Never do something like that if you aren't 100% sold on the idea because this can strain your friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 No one can say that it will end your friendship or even put a strain on it.. we cannot predict the future.. but I am concerned about YOU.. you don't seem to be comfortable with the idea.. then don't do it.. simple... they have done it.. and they are comfortable with it.. I doubt it would change the friendship 'on their part'.. but it's you that seem unsure.. so unless you are completely sure about this.. don't.. wait and see how it goes. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 Don't do it unless you're 100% comfortable with it and from your post obviously you're not so don't do it, you'll regret it. You'll have images of your male buddy in your mind and who knows if there an "accidental" member touch that could happen.. Tell them thanks but no thanks, that their friendship means more to you than a roll in the hay. Link to post Share on other sites
ABrokenWing Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 I am a male and have two good friends (a husband and wife) who want me to participate in a threesome with them (nothing gay, just with her). I am conflicted by this. I find her attractive (and would like to have sex with her). They also have experience doing this, so it works for them. On the other hand, I really don't want to have sex with a woman with another guy present (particularly one I know so well) and I am concerned about long-term ramifications of our friendship. I am looking for advice for people who have been through this. Thoughts, suggestions? Texas, you already stated you didn't want to have sex with someone in front of you, so I think you have your answer. Don't do anything you wouldn't feel comfortable with. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 IF you're not into threesomes, then don't do it. It might create an situation later on. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 I am a male and have two good friends (a husband and wife) who want me to participate in a threesome with them (nothing gay, just with her). I am conflicted by this. I find her attractive (and would like to have sex with her). They also have experience doing this, so it works for them. On the other hand, I really don't want to have sex with a woman with another guy present (particularly one I know so well) and I am concerned about long-term ramifications of our friendship. I am looking for advice for people who have been through this. Thoughts, suggestions? It will ruin the friendship, guaranteed. Link to post Share on other sites
vanilla87 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 I am a male and have two good friends (a husband and wife) who want me to participate in a threesome with them (nothing gay, just with her). I am conflicted by this. I find her attractive (and would like to have sex with her). They also have experience doing this, so it works for them. On the other hand, I really don't want to have sex with a woman with another guy present (particularly one I know so well) and I am concerned about long-term ramifications of our friendship. I am looking for advice for people who have been through this. Thoughts, suggestions? Well I'm on the flip side of this, cause I (female) was the one who had the boyfriend who wanted a threesome with a friend of mine at the time (female). It can cause problems, it did for me a bit, but if the friendship is strong enough, then there shouldn't be a problem. Some people are comfortable with their sexuality in front of their friends and okay with showing skin, cause they may be more comfortable with their bodies and don't care what other think. I also get what your saying though, about how it might affect, it could, but more so the female involved, because if she enjoys it enough, who knows she may request again, which is always interesting, but questionable to the friendship down the line. You just have to ask yourself if the sex is more worth it then your dignity, the friendship, and the after effects of the event? Link to post Share on other sites
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 I can and have done a threesome with a girlfriend and her best friend and I think most women can deal with this. Now, on an extremely good day, I might participate with a MFM threesome, but the guy would have to be someone we don't know. I would be too tramatized to have in my memory a night of passion with my SO/spouse, a friend, and me. That would be too ackward for me. I would not even do it when my best brother mentioned that his girlfriend wondered about it. I think it would have to do with the alpha male thing. We as men more than likely see our male companions as equal alpha males for the most part and strange males as nothing. There is a real danger when two alpha males share something. DNR Link to post Share on other sites
Rooster_DAR Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 It will ruin the friendship, guaranteed. Not true! I did this last year with one of my best friends and his wife, we are still friends. Honestly, afterward she starting texting and calling me wanting to hook up on the side, but that would have definitely end our friendship. She was a little upset when I said I could not do it, but I think she appreciated that I would not go behind my friends back. Needless to say, were all still friends. Link to post Share on other sites
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