Can anybody tell me how to become fun and exciting to be around?

[guestess]

Can anybody tell me how to become fun and exciting to be around? How to connect with people and make them comfortable yet excited, when with me? Or is it something one has to be born with? thank you.

[longlegzs80]

I am not sure if I can help you or not. I strongly believe that it is all about your personality. You know there are some people who have that friendly, fun, exciting way they act around people to make others respond to them in a positive way. But you could be the kind of guy who is shy, laidback, and as much as you might have fun when you go out or with friends it might not show. Not sure. Anyways, it is hard to give advice on how to be fun and exciting. Just be yourself. Go out, do things you enjoy, maybe try to step out of your box.

 

Now, I don't know you as a person or how your personality is, but just do your thing and enjoy your surroundings and the people your with.

 

I know with myself, I find that I can be two different ways. I can be the shy girl who is reserved and don't talk to alot of people which that is kinda how I am now, or I can go out of my box. Stepping out of the boundries by pushing yourself to do things you like and your friends like even if your not interested in it. Learn to accept yourself or be willing to change some things about yourself.

 

You mention you want to be more of a fun person, do something daring. Be crazy, take risks, be the kind of guy you have always dreamed about. But don't go hay wire. Be you, that is all you can be, if you want to change somethings to better yourself, do it because you want to do it, not because you want the people around you to feel comfortable and excited when they are around you. Just be yourself. Or do what I said, and step out of the box.

 

But too you mentioned you want to be fun and exciting when people are around, you can do that. Think of fun things to do. Don';t change your ways completly where people don't know really who they are dealing with anymore. But just enjoy yourself, and if people can't accept it, then that is their problem. Do whatever is going to make you happy. If you want to be that fun loving guy because YOU need a change, then go for it. There are many things you can do. There are many things you can get involved in that can make you interesting to others, like if you like to rock climb or if you like to travel or whatever. When your around friends, suggest something daring to do. Not anything that can kill anyone or injure, but something that will keep them interested and be fun for the whole group. Try to broaden your horizens.

 

Too, everyone is different. So, maybe some people might think you are a fun loving guy to be around from the get go. Maybe this is all in your head, or maybe you just need alittle action going on in your life. Do whatever is going to make you happy, but don't go to extreme to change yourself. WEll, I hope this helps and I hope I made sense. Take care.