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so heart broken: says that she doesn't hang out with any of her old friends anymore


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Ok I've posted in other forums. Heres a long story short

Me and this girl were friends..then best friends..then we went out. Im 18 and have known her since I was 10. Be4 we left for college we got into a fight. She stood me up...didnt talk to me or return my calls. I cursed her out for it. She ignored me for awhile. Then we made up a year later. and now this has happened:

 

Well we were talking and stuff. And I was asking her to hang out with me and she said this: " dont worry we'll deff hang out be4 the summer is over". Then a week later I ask her to chill with me and she says: " Look Im sorry you have no one to hang out with but its not my fault". And then she says that she doesn't hang out with any of her old friends anymore. She says " If my new friends saw me hanging out with my old friends they make fun of me and not wanna see me". Then Im say " Im not a dork" She says : " your still all ghetto and stuff though". (Im black shes white...she comes from a rich background....I come from a slightly more then average back ground".....then I say how its not right to judge me. And how ghetto pple dont care about old friends. I mean I dont act ghetto. ANd I say it makes me mad to be judged by pple. And she says " welcome to the real world"...then she says " Look I just dont hang out with pple like you anymore".....guys she sounds so different then what she was be4. But everytime I get mad at her she mentions that time I slipped and blew up at her. What do I do?.....I feel so terrible I wanna shoot myself. I dont wanna live feeling depressed like this. I feel suicidal. I mean I wont go through with it. But I just dont wanna live and stuff. If I leave her alone..I'll be depressed. If I stay with her I'll feel depressed. I say do you want me to leave you alone she says: " I dont know.....why cant we just leave it to talking online". and Im like " will you ever wanna chill with me"....she says " I dont know...I dont think so".

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GoldenWonder

It seems like you need to forget her. If she were a friend at all, she wouldn't care what anyone thought about your friendship. She seems immature and hassle you could deal without. If she is so fickle to judge you on material issues and what you've come from, then shes not worth your time or care.

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If she's still punishing you for blowing up at her a long time ago, she's not a good friend. And she sounds incredibly shallow and immature--and maybe racist--calling you "ghetto," and saying her new friends would make fun of her if they knew about her old friends. She's being cruel.

 

If I were you, I'd cut off contact and concentrate on finding new friends. You sound like a caring guy, and you're obviously deeply attached to her. There's no easy way to get through the hard part of detaching from someone you love. At least you aren't stuck wondering whether she secretly wants you. She's being very clear with you. Just keep reminding yourself that you deserve better. Stay busy. Try taking a class or starting something--a new sport, a foreign language, a road trip, whatever--that makes you feel good about yourself.

 

If you're really in agony, tell yourself you'll do this to impress her. By the time you've made some positive changes in your life, you probably won't care as much about her opinion. Have fun with the rest of your summer instead of chasing this girl who only wants to put you down.

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This lady is one rude wench you don't need to have anything to do with. I seldom hear of any person treating another this nasty. Write her off and have nothing to do with her. She is trash from the word go.

 

You need to pay attention to the way people treat you. If somebody says they don't want to be your friend anymore because their new friends won't like them, run away as fast as you can. Not only is she rude but she's playing you for a dumb sucker.'

 

Yes, it's painful to lose a friend. But I saw a quote one time and I think of it often: "You can never lose friends...you can only find out who they are."

 

This lady was never really your friend. I'm so very sorry. Take power over your emotions and find some true friends who aren't rude and insane. If buttholes could fly, this bxtch would be a jumbo jet!!!

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