sedgwick Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 The comment, "I just think I need to be with a musician" was pretty well proof that he didn't find me attractive. If I were attractive, he'd have stayed. He used to tell me all the time how he loved my body and I was amazing and there was no sexier woman and blah blah blah. But it was all lies, like everything else he said. I'm so lame, I totally used to think bellydancers were sexy! I mean, I personally still think that, but I know now that guys don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 I didn't say guys didn't find belly-dancers attractive. I said that people usually judge the person, not the job. It is the same as saying "Wow, you work in a library - you must be a silent, mousy type!". People are who they are, and while their job and hobbies are part of that, they are not all defining. Judging somebody simply by their profession, be it musician or belly-dancer or secretary or fire-eater, is short-sighted. If your boyfriend didn't make a specific remark about your attractiveness then you are hurting yourself, on your own account, for your own reasons. You do this to yourself. It's not his words, those are yours. Which is sad. You are a lively, interesting, vibrating woman. But you chose to crap all over yourself. I don't know how to help you. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 The comment, "I just think I need to be with a musician" was pretty well proof that he didn't find me attractive. If I were attractive, he'd have stayed. He used to tell me all the time how he loved my body and I was amazing and there was no sexier woman and blah blah blah. But it was all lies, like everything else he said. I'm so lame, I totally used to think bellydancers were sexy! I mean, I personally still think that, but I know now that guys don't. I remember you from before, sedgwick. If Fiddleman doesn't think belly dancers are sexy then the same must be true of all men? Come on! From what I recall, this man's ideal woman would be able to replace broken fiddle strings with the hairs she plucked from her own leg. It's unlikely that he'll be setting any universal standards regarding feminine beauty any time soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Peter_pan Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 belly dancers are hot Link to post Share on other sites
tinke Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 sedgwick, I had noticed that in your posts, YOU often describe yourself....belly dancer, tatooed, BPD, wrote a book, etc. Please don't misinterpret my intentions, all this is great, however THESE do not define you. There is much, much, more. More that others are able to sense from you, I'm sure. I guess I just want to say that you can just be you without the glitter and that is enough! Basically, you are a woman, and hurting as many of us here are. Just try to accept that "the all of you" is enough. Link to post Share on other sites
selena_cat Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 Thanks Kis, although i slightly disagreed with you on another post but this one takes the cake! thanks for the self esteem booster.may i say lets BRING SEXY BACK! Link to post Share on other sites
selena_cat Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 Look, as far as I'm concerned, I am the greatest guy in the world. Sounds grandiose, right? Here's what I mean: I provide such consideration and care, talent, honesty, humor, great sex, good vibes, "Golden Rule"... I really can't imagine a greater guy than me. Oh, did I mention I'm humble? This point of view may be exaggerating to some, but I am not only sure my ex can't find a guy as great as me... NONE of you chicks could find a guy as great as me! Ha... go ahead and call me an egoist. These are things I tell myself to build myself up, when no one else will. ummm...can i have your email address? Just kidding!! i need to write that list down for me, its so true you have to feel positive about yourself and believe it. I've been reading real positive book out there about LOA LAW of Atraction,basically positive books to help me think that way and believe in myself. now about that phone number! haha great posy,i'll be printing this! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kizik Posted July 21, 2008 Author Share Posted July 21, 2008 Look, as far as I'm concerned, I am the greatest guy in the world. Sounds grandiose, right? Here's what I mean: I provide such consideration and care, talent, honesty, humor, great sex, good vibes, "Golden Rule"... I really can't imagine a greater guy than me. Oh, did I mention I'm humble? This point of view may be exaggerating to some, but I am not only sure my ex can't find a guy as great as me... NONE of you chicks could find a guy as great as me! Ha... go ahead and call me an egoist. These are things I tell myself to build myself up, when no one else will. Selena, the above is now embarrassing to me. While I do think I'm a catch, the above is overkill - I think I was really caffeinated. There are plenty of guys "greater" than me, I just like myself is all and feel I have much to offer in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
selena_cat Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Selena, the above is now embarrassing to me. While I do think I'm a catch, the above is overkill - I think I was really caffeinated. There are plenty of guys "greater" than me, I just like myself is all and feel I have much to offer in a relationship. no i dont thinkits overkill, you are right when you said that the ex percieved you a different way really does something to your self esteem. Its hard not being wanted by someone you value and whom you would spend your life with,sometims its surreal. no ned to be embarrassed, maybe we should all concentrate on saying good things about ourselves when we feel down,no harm done : ) Link to post Share on other sites
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