Gold Dust Woman Posted June 26, 2008 Share Posted June 26, 2008 I've been married for eight years. Two kids, ages 3 and 6. I've been unhappy in my marriage for about 7 years. I've become emotionally detached in the marriage for about 2 years. I suggested to H several times over the years that we should separate but we've stayed together. We've both sought counseling and made futile attempts to work on things. Even though we live in the same house, we pretty much have separate lives and don't do much together. About a month ago and told H that I wanted to separate. After we talked and decided to separate, I felt very much at peace with the decision. H is getting an apartment next week and will move out in about two weeks. Yesterday, I felt so guilty about my decision to separate that I cried for an hour. I realize it is such a life changing event and I guess I am mourning the fact that the relationship is over? I'm very surprised at my reaction at this point. I really don't know why I feel so sad now. I called H this morning to tell him how sorry I am for this to happen and he commented that part of him is excited about being out on his own and dating. Is this normal? To want to separate (and feel that it is a good decision) yet when the time comes to do so, to feel so sad and upset about it? Link to post Share on other sites
RubyTuesday Posted June 26, 2008 Share Posted June 26, 2008 I don't know because im not separated from my husband. However, I have considered it and am considering it for the distant (2-3 years) future. I think that is a very normal feeling to mourn that a part of your life is over. Even if it is the right decision there will always be guilt. The pain and guilt will go away, and I know you will feel so much better soon. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
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