flbuckeyefan Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 This is an unusual situation. I have recently been reunited with a woman that was like my best friend in High school. We were so close that we talked every night as freshman and no classes together, or regular involvment drew up apart. We were both shy and thought the other did not like each other for more than brother/sister type friendship. Eight years ago we ran into each other and that SPARK was there. We were both married at that time but that friendship and SPARK just lit us both up inside. After staying in touch, for a while, I chose to break it off because I felt it was causing her problems. She was married with 3 kids. Well, I divorced recently last year and we ended up talking via computer with our 25th high school reunion nearing. We to this day just became great friends again. Here is the problem. We finally met in person this past week, we live far apart. We were with other people and our relationship has never gotten sexual even back in HS. She says that she has always thought of me and us together since we first met. She has always loved me and cared for me. I have realized that since I have seen her, I am ALIVE AGAIN, and just all smiles. I have always heard that the chemistry between some couples is REAL. I wrote her a note, I do not want to mess up her life. She has 3 great kids who adore her. Her husband is a good man. She really has a good life, I do as well just alone at the time. She really does love me and I really do love her and know that Ill never ever be with someone again without that SPARK. It is wonderful. What do I do. We continue to talk and both know that we must BEHAVE and that nothing can happen between us, but in honesty emotionally is already has. Should I stay in touch and wait to see what happens or should I talk to her and convince her it is best we stop, or do I just walk away. My heart aches for her and I love how her spirit and presence makes me feel? Lost in FL. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 walk away. she's married. to continue when you are this emotionally involved is inappropriate for her marriage. nothing but pain will follow if you continue to proceed... Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 My heart aches for her and I love how her spirit and presence makes me feel? Tell her precisely what you wrote above and stop communicating. Go your own way and leave her to her family. Link to post Share on other sites
me003 Posted July 1, 2008 Share Posted July 1, 2008 Walk away and quick. You can always tell her and have her choose to be with you once she is out of her marriage. Make it her decision, but remember she has 3 kids. Would she want to give them up even if its part time for you? WOuld you be able to deal with that? Also wether or not she loves you she may end up resenting you for turning her whole life around. I know its hard to walk away, but if you continue to have more contact with her it will bring both of you a lot of pain. Link to post Share on other sites
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