Emotional abusive mother

[Princess Kairi]

It's really late and i'm tired to go into detail but I really feel alone so I was wondering if anyone here has an emotional abusive mother? I feel like I am the only one because all my friends have bad fathers. Whereas I have an amazing father, but my mother has been very emtionally abusive and she is continuing to make my life a living hell... *sigh*

Well i guess I'll just start with what made me so angry today. My mom requested for a divorce 2 years ago. I live with my dad but my sister who is 4 lives with my "mom" she was supposed to fly her where me and my dad live to visit us and she didn't. I am just so angry because she didn't do what the judge said and she's not in jail... My mom has done a whole bunch of things but one of the things she does is hang up in my face when I call her. She also keeps the phone lines busy or she'll hang up when me or my dad want to talk to my sister. I'm 17 btw When I did live with my mom she wouldn't let me talk to anyone on my dad's side of the family and now she is tyring to keep my sister away from me and my dad and I'm tired of my mom getting away with murder. And i'm sorry to say this but i am sick of the court always showing favortism to these women. Justbecause they had the children that doesn't always make them a good parent. And it annoys me that talk to people that just have this mother favortism and so when I tell them how crappy my mother is their like "oh but she will always be your mother" but **** that, she not being a mother she's not part of my life whatsover all she's ever done was make my life a living hell especially with this divorce she filed for behind my back. I'm glad i don't live with my mom anymore but damn she keeps contempting to court and getting away with it and i don't know how much more i can take and another thing that is bothering me is that i'd like for my dad to have full custody of my sister but it's so hard... Well that's just a small piece of what;s been going on. I just really would like to know if there's anyone out there that has an emotional abusive mother like me... So at least I don't have to feel alone anymore.

[Ssheena]

Yes, read some other threads in this forum. There are, unfortunately, many of us who have had mothers in name only. It is very hard because society tells us our "mothers" are to be always loved and respected but some of them just don't deserve it.

 

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[Chrome Barracuda]

Parental Alienation Syndrome.

 

look it up and do resaerch. Go get your father a new lawyer.

 

Go have them change venue to a judge who's pro-father's rights and not only sue for custody but go all out. Sue the district in their enabling the mother to get away with this. If the mother is found in contempt of court, and yet the judge does not take the charge seriously the state judicial law system deserves to be sued for their incompetence.

 

I bet that'll light a fire under their ass!!!

[Princess Kairi]

Yes, read some other threads in this forum. There are, unfortunately, many of us who have had mothers in name only. It is very hard because society tells us our "mothers" are to be always loved and respected but some of them just don't deserve it.

 

P.s. Paragraphs are your friend to getting more responses..

 

 

Oh okay I'm sorry about that... >.<

 

Parental Alienation Syndrome.

 

look it up and do resaerch. Go get your father a new lawyer.

 

Go have them change venue to a judge who's pro-father's rights and not only sue for custody but go all out. Sue the district in their enabling the mother to get away with this. If the mother is found in contempt of court, and yet the judge does not take the charge seriously the state judicial law system deserves to be sued for their incompetence.

 

I bet that'll light a fire under their ass!!!

 

Well we've talk to a new lawyer but she said that somehow we could still get my sister flown down here because she could fly with her, that's really nice and all but plane tickets are so exspensive and it's not fair for us to have to get plane tickets last minute because my mom hung up in my face when I asked her about her plans for bringing my sister to visit us.

 

We have to wait till our lawyer is off his "vacation" and hopefully maybe we can file for contempt of court but still get to visit my sister...? I don't know, but I do know I don't want my mom getting away with this like she has been getting away with everything else. >.<

 

Such as the car tags, my mom lives in louisiana and she has exclusive use of the car but she's riding around with the wrong state car tags and the police has done nothing about it.

[katie1487]

your not alone with having you mother like this, although this doesnt make you feel any better i know.

 

its hard trying to explain to people how bad you mum is when everyone else has mums making the dinner and calling when they feel sad.

 

my mum was (and still tries to be) extremely abusive but i find now that i am starting to realise...the only reason it hurts you so much is coz she knows exatcly what hurts you and how to land the blow!

 

my mum did the same to my dad and it hurts.

 

but i have to say... (iv only recently realised this ) for every bad thing she does/says/tries to do to hurt you or your family - take this as an indication of how much she is hurting inside. for whatever reason that may be.

 

try to keep smiling. and just think....when you have kids...you wont know what to do....but you'll know what NOT to do.

 

take care

[Chrome Barracuda]

Well we've talk to a new lawyer but she said that somehow we could still get my sister flown down here because she could fly with her, that's really nice and all but plane tickets are so exspensive and it's not fair for us to have to get plane tickets last minute because my mom hung up in my face when I asked her about her plans for bringing my sister to visit us.

 

We have to wait till our lawyer is off his "vacation" and hopefully maybe we can file for contempt of court but still get to visit my sister...? I don't know, but I do know I don't want my mom getting away with this like she has been getting away with everything else. >.<

 

Such as the car tags, my mom lives in louisiana and she has exclusive use of the car but she's riding around with the wrong state car tags and the police has done nothing about it.

 

Your lawyers and judges sound like incompetent jackasses! Vacation??? Cmon how quaint!

 

Your mom hangs up on you, so dont call her. let her know her idiocy wont be tolerated. You have to have self respect just because she's your mom does not give her the right to walk all over you.

 

Dont sweat the other things such as the car. You just make sure that the lawyers have proof and you know what it's better if you filed the lawsuit in her district to get things poppin!!!

 

Stay NC with her and lets see what happens. Your sister is probably missing you guys alot and your mother is gonna ruin her life by aleinating her from you guys. I'm surprised that the court system hasnt moved faster, maybe you can oil the gears by taking your story to the local newspaper or some politician with a political power base.

[Princess Kairi]

your not alone with having you mother like this, although this doesnt make you feel any better i know.

 

its hard trying to explain to people how bad you mum is when everyone else has mums making the dinner and calling when they feel sad.

 

my mum was (and still tries to be) extremely abusive but i find now that i am starting to realise...the only reason it hurts you so much is coz she knows exatcly what hurts you and how to land the blow!

 

my mum did the same to my dad and it hurts.

 

but i have to say... (iv only recently realised this ) for every bad thing she does/says/tries to do to hurt you or your family - take this as an indication of how much she is hurting inside. for whatever reason that may be.

 

try to keep smiling. and just think....when you have kids...you wont know what to do....but you'll know what NOT to do.

 

take care

 

 

Thank you. I try to find things to keep me happy, I really do but lately I just haven't been able to get out of this depression and not to mention these nightmares of being paralyzed in my sleep. I just want this case to be closed in our favor and over with.

 

Well we've talk to a new lawyer but she said that somehow we could still get my sister flown down here because she could fly with her, that's really nice and all but plane tickets are so exspensive and it's not fair for us to have to get plane tickets last minute because my mom hung up in my face when I asked her about her plans for bringing my sister to visit us.

 

We have to wait till our lawyer is off his "vacation" and hopefully maybe we can file for contempt of court but still get to visit my sister...? I don't know, but I do know I don't want my mom getting away with this like she has been getting away with everything else. >.<

 

Such as the car tags, my mom lives in louisiana and she has exclusive use of the car but she's riding around with the wrong state car tags and the police has done nothing about it.

 

Your lawyers and judges sound like incompetent jackasses! Vacation??? Cmon how quaint!

 

Your mom hangs up on you, so dont call her. let her know her idiocy wont be tolerated. You have to have self respect just because she's your mom does not give her the right to walk all over you.

 

Dont sweat the other things such as the car. You just make sure that the lawyers have proof and you know what it's better if you filed the lawsuit in her district to get things poppin!!!

 

Stay NC with her and lets see what happens. Your sister is probably missing you guys alot and your mother is gonna ruin her life by aleinating her from you guys. I'm surprised that the court system hasnt moved faster, maybe you can oil the gears by taking your story to the local newspaper or some politician with a political power base.

 

 

Well it looks like I won't be seeing my sister at all this month. *sigh*

 

The reason why the car issue is so important is because the car is in my dad's name, it's his car, but my mom has "exclusive" use of it.

 

Our lawyer STILL hasn't called us back yet. So we are going to try calling him tomorrow morning.

 

What I am worried about is if we get a new lawyer I know it's going to take awhile for the new lawyer to take over but I want to go back to court before school starts because it's my senior year and I have hard classes and I want to be able to enjoy my last year of high school and not be all tired. I'm depressed and exhausted enough as it is.

 

*sigh*