bones1 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Feel free to disagree, but as a man I know. Many older women I chatted with invited me over just to have a sexual relationship. 99% of the time I turned them down. Younger women want to go out, date, etc. How on Earth can you speak for younger men? lol Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Feel free to disagree, but as a man I know. Many older women I chatted with invited me over just to have a sexual relationship. 99% of the time I turned them down. Younger women want to go out, date, etc. How on Earth can you speak for younger men? lol Feel free to disagree, but as an older woman I know... How on earth can you speak for older women? Link to post Share on other sites
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Well, Cate Blanchett probably looked much better when she was 20. I'm 40 years old now, and I know I looked better in my early 20s. Just a fact. ha ha it would be hard for her to look any better. I look a lot more elegant and a lot of men are into that, rather than the 20 year old look. Link to post Share on other sites
bones1 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Yes Lizzy.. Younger men all want to settle down and marry a woman 20 years older and never have a family. They then want to introduce this woman to their friends, family, and parade her around town. I am not speaking for older women, I am speaking for younger men. You are the one claiming to know why younger men like older women, and what for. I am not claiming to speak for why older women date younger men. See the difference? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Yes Lizzy.. Younger men all want to settle down and marry a woman 20 years older and never have a family. They then want to introduce this woman to their friends, family, and parade her around town. I am not speaking for older women, I am speaking for younger men. You are the one claiming to know why younger men like older women, and what for. I am not claiming to speak for why older women date younger men. See the difference? I'm not stupid.. I know that MOST younger men want to settle down and have a family.. but you can't say that ALL men want that.. some don't... the one I've been seeing for the last 6 yrs doesn't.. He has dated younger women.. but he prefers much older... Some say that they won't marry a younger woman just to have kids.. if it never happens.. well then it won't happen.. You cannot 'command' love. Link to post Share on other sites
bones1 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Well i don't know the nature of your relationship, but I can only guess, and I would probably be right. The difference is younger women would not allow him to be on and off with them for 6 years. So they like the fact they can never have kids, like a less firm body, and when they are 45 they envision themselves with a woman that is 65? Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 ha ha it would be hard for her to look any better. See, before (pic) and after (pic) Link to post Share on other sites
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Well personally I don't want to date a guy more than 5 years older than I am but I get a lot of men a lot older AND a lot younger who are interested. However, my age gets guessed at about 31. However, to each their own, and yes, there are lots of men who have serious relationships with women a lot older than themselves. Just because you don't prefer it yourself, doesn't mean others don't. Also older women are working out and still having the firm bodies. You can't tell me that Cate Blanchett doesn't have a rockin' bod. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Eyed Brain Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 The reason I can offer why a older woman may not take a younger man seriously, is because I have been hit on by many younger men. (From 24 to 30). They are nice, kind, etc. but I do not accept their advances. I am friendly but not interested in a romantic or sexual relationship. That's the difference. A woman with experience knows what she wants. The reason a younger woman will date a guy her age is that she DOESN'T know if she will like him and therefore tries him on. See the distinction? Link to post Share on other sites
imbewildered Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Yes you could try and meet him again... who knows.. my bet is that there will be no chemistry (in person)... but that's just me. Maybe you should apologize for being so quick to judge him... What did you expect after bragging that you had 'help' ? This guy was a keeper and you tossed him back - he had a sense of HUMOR....Secondly, change your login name.. "Alpha Female" seriously sucks. What a turn off. What are you a professional wrestler or a wannabe marine ? There is no such thing as an Alpha Female. Link to post Share on other sites
lemony fresh Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 See, before (pic) and after (pic) In one she is just made up more, I don't think she looks significantly better, just different. Lots of men at any age would still think she's hot at her current age, that's just a fact. You really have issues with this, lol. Sensitive topic to you. Sorry but I am 39 and am good looking as most "cute" 20 year olds. Sorry if you take issue with that. Link to post Share on other sites
bones1 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Bewildered, I agree with the alpha female comment. And men think in the moment mostly, especially when it comes to sex. A part of them definitely thinks of the future. Once again, it can't last because a 45 yr old man then will want, or can have a 35 yr old woman. That is a big difference from a 65 yr old woman. Comments? Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 In one she is just made up more, I don't think she looks significantly better, just different. Lots of men at any age would still think she's hot at her current age, that's just a fact. You really have issues with this, lol. Sensitive topic to you. Sorry but I am 39 and am good looking as most "cute" 20 year olds. Sorry if you take issue with that. No, you are the one that doesn't want to believe that younger people look prettier than older people. Very difficult concept. Link to post Share on other sites
bones1 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 lizzie, you dated this guy 6 years. Did he propose yet? After 1 year the younger woman most likely would not be waiting around if it wasn't headed that direction. I find many older women to be very beautiful and sexy, trust me. But is that enough to build a future with? Once again, a future where you are 45 and she is 65? or 50 and 70? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 lizzie, you dated this guy 6 years. Did he propose yet? After 1 year the younger woman most likely would not be waiting around if it wasn't headed that direction. I find many older women to be very beautiful and sexy, trust me. But is that enough to build a future with? Once again, a future where you are 45 and she is 65? or 50 and 70? Wow.. on what planet are you living sweetie... a younger woman (from what I read here) are mostly insecure, clingy.. and YES they will wait even longer for the one they love.. I always said that I do NOT believe in long term relationship when the age gap is +15 yrs (read all my posts if you want)... no matter if it's a male or a female.. No, this guy never proposed.. by one did (my last ex)... he was 32, I was 45 when we met... he wanted to marry me at my 50th birthday.. I left him before that... I've never married and never will... I am against marriage unless it's a kind of financial 'contract' between two people.. Link to post Share on other sites
bones1 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Are we on the same planet? A young guy says he will marry you when you are 50(5 years away) and you take that seriously? But you didn't address the rest of my question. Do you think a younger man wants to look at his future, and envision himself with a woman that is 60 when he is 45? Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Are we on the same planet? A young guy says he will marry you when you are 50(5 years away) and you take that seriously? But you didn't address the rest of my question. Do you think a younger man wants to look at his future, and envision himself with a woman that is 65 when he is 45? I'm pretty sure a guy can fall in love with an older woman. There's many things that can make a guy fall in love. He gets to talk to her, finds her interesting, they connect, similar stories, empathy etc etc. It's not very common but it happens. And Lizzie is a beautiful woman. (I believe people can be beautiful at any age also) Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Are we on the same planet? A young guy says he will marry you when you are 50(5 years away) and you take that seriously? That was 6 years ago... he's my 'ex'. Of course he was serious... we were head over heels for each other... he probably is the man who loved me the most.. We still see each other... But you didn't address the rest of my question. Do you think a younger man wants to look at his future, and envision himself with a woman that is 60 when he is 45? Yes I did... I told you that I do NOT believe in long term for large age gap... (+15 yrs)... There are men out there that have been with an older partner for longer than that.. (they are rare though) but it happens... Suzan Sarandon is one.. I know one couple in RL.. who have been together for over 10 yrs... she is almost 60 and he is 48... She still look fabulous... and he looks older for his age.. so they look the same age... Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 I'm pretty sure a guy can fall in love with an older woman. There's many things that can make a guy fall in love. He gets to talk to her, finds her interesting, they connect, similar stories, empathy etc etc. It's not very common but it happens. And Lizzie is a beautiful woman. (I believe people can be beautiful at any age also) Ahhh thank you Ariadne... Link to post Share on other sites
bones1 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Well I thought we were talking about everyday average people. I am sure you can find an exception for anything in the world. Are we speaking of movie stars? I think older women and younger men are a cool dynamic. I just don't think it works long term 99.9% of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 Well I thought we were talking about everyday average people. I am sure you can find an exception for anything in the world. Are we speaking of movie stars? I think older women and younger men are a cool dynamic. I just don't think it works long term 99.9% of the time. Then we agree 100%... I've always been saying that. I wasn't talking about Hollywood only.. I know one couple in RL.. and if I think hard.. I'm sure I can find more.. Plus it happened to me... There are more and more older women/younger men relationships... seems to be a new phenomenon... and I looove it.. Link to post Share on other sites
bones1 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 I guess it depends on how you define relationship. I knew a girl that would have a guy come over once a week at 3 am when he was drunk, and she would refer to him as her boyfriend. I define relationship as someone whom you love and want to build a future with. But obviously everyone defines it how it best suits them. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 I guess it depends on how you define relationship. I knew a girl that would have a guy come over once a week at 3 am when he was drunk, and she would refer to him as her boyfriend. I define relationship as someone whom you love and want to build a future with. But obviously everyone defines it how it best suits them. Well I lived 5 years (common-law) with my ex.. so I define it as a relationship... Link to post Share on other sites
Independence_Day Posted July 5, 2008 Share Posted July 5, 2008 I think more than 6-8 years age difference in either direction is robbing the cradle. And I have to agree with the whole "entre broma y broma la verdad asoma" theory. When people joke there is often a particle of truth to it. Also, just wondering, have you met this guy in person before? Link to post Share on other sites
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