A Question About My Divorced Ex

[AnLandy]

My ex and I just called off our engagement last week. Since the beginning of the relationship, there has been one issue that I have always been curius about: he kept his old wedding ring on his bedside table.

 

His marriage ended seven years ago. He met her when he was 24, moved in with her four months later, and got engaged right after that. After two years of avoiding the issue, she finally demanded that he marry her, so he agreed to elope to Vegas. After four years of constant fighting and total hell, he left her.

 

If the marriage was so horrible, then why did he still have the ring right there in plain view in his bedroom? I brough it up a couple of times, and he just told me that it was there because it was a reminder of his past. I finally asked him to move it because I found it a little creepy to be having sex with my fiance while looking at his old wedding ring just sitting there on his bedside table. He did move it, after asked three times.

 

Why would he keep that ring? Can anyone help me understand this?

[Curmudgeon]

Why would he keep that ring? Can anyone help me understand this?

 

I don't know. Don't have the first idea and certainly don't understand it myself. Sounds like bad juju to me.

 

I was married 25 years, had children, got divorced, had the ring cut off and threw it into a field. I neither need nor want any reminders. Some things you just don't forget, unfortunately.

[Trimmer]

Why did you call off the engagement? Were there other issues beyond the ring? If so, and if you are confident it is over for other, more dominant reasons, why put your energy now into figuring this out?

 

Not to say that you aren't entitled to wonder, but I'm curious what is the context of this question.... Was the ring thing a part of the breakup, or was it symptomatic of other issues, or just one more in a list of many problems?