mona77 Posted July 7, 2008 Share Posted July 7, 2008 I've been talking to a man i met online for a year. He knows I like him and I think he likes me, but we've always kept it friendly because I wouldn't want to get lovey dovey with someone and then meet them and be hugely disappointed. I have brought up the topic of meeting up, but when I do, he'll start joking around saying he'll go hide and when I tell him I'm serious about wanting to meet him, he'll try to change the topic. Well, I stopped bringing up the subject for a while until today. Yesterday, he dedicated a love song to me which was very odd and unusual for him to do. First time he's ever done something like that too. I thought maybe if I ask today, I might get a different response. Well...same old crap. He joked around he was going to hide. I told him I was serious and what was he afraid of and he just kept joking around and trying to change the subject. I don't think he's married or has a gf. I mean we talk for up to 11 hrs straight and I just dont think someone with a wife or gf would have time for that. I know he has some self esteem issues and from what he's told me, I dont think he's really good with women. It really hurts though. All I want is to meet this man in person and spend some time with him. Nothing else. Why doesn't he want to meet me? Link to post Share on other sites
Elyssa Posted July 7, 2008 Share Posted July 7, 2008 Perhaps he just considers you a pass time. It will probably hurt you to read this, but unless you've talked about the subject and understand each other's feelings and expectations, you're not really in a relationship with him. I suggest you put your foot down and ask him what he wants from you. Then, tell him what you want from him. Put all cards on the table and do not allow him to wiggle out of the conversation by joking around. Once you figure out what he wants and what you mean to him, it will be easier for you to make a decision. If he refuses to have this conversation and he continues acting like this, you should move on and forget him. Don't allow him to string you along by doing little things like dedicating you a song. It doesn't really mean anything unless he backs it up with actions! -E Link to post Share on other sites
HisLove Posted July 7, 2008 Share Posted July 7, 2008 Maybe he is painfully shy, not confident in himself, afraid of disappointing you. Sending you a love song is pretty sweet, and seems to say more than just friendship. Mona, what are your gut feelings about him? Do you know where he lives? How would he react if you said well I've booked a flight/bus and hotel and will be in town on XXX, so I'm expecting you to pick me up from the airport/station and be my tourguide for those few days. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 7, 2008 Share Posted July 7, 2008 but we've always kept it friendly because I wouldn't want to get lovey dovey with someone and then meet them and be hugely disappointed. If you've held him at an emotional distance, why would he want to meet? Link to post Share on other sites
SaraLovesHerAndy Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 i think you should him what he feels about you and if he would ever want to meet. If he doesnt reply to that then you could kinda tell he dosnt wanna meet up xxxx Link to post Share on other sites
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