ioncebelieved Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 Just curious to all out there when things were over, who all lost their dignity? That could be a host of shameful things: crying; begging; bribing; yelling; assaulting; calling repeatedly; staking; doing dirty things to their new lover or spouse (depending on situation); writing them letters trying to reason with them... I mean anything that you are embarrassed about now! WHAT SHAMEFUL THING(S) DID YOU THAT YOU NOW REGRET??? I did several of the mentioned things above. I did NO ACTS of violence though or threatened none as well. Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 Just curious to all out there when things were over, who all lost their dignity? That could be a host of shameful things: crying; begging; bribing; yelling; assaulting; calling repeatedly; staking; doing dirty things to their new lover or spouse (depending on situation); writing them letters trying to reason with them... I mean anything that you are embarrassed about now! WHAT SHAMEFUL THING(S) DID YOU THAT YOU NOW REGRET??? I did several of the mentioned things above. I did NO ACTS of violence though or threatened none as well. I am not certain about dignity, but my self confidence defitintely took a strong body blow Link to post Share on other sites
confused and broken Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 I definitely lost my dignity...... To my friends and family mostly for taking him back so many times, and playing make up break up... So in other words I would tell everyone how terrible he was and then get back together with him (which was pathetic) ... Now noone including myself has any faith in me when it comes to relationships... And I felt really cheap at the end... giving in to him I want my dignity back for sure Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 None of the above. Poster Child! Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 I agree. Kizik truly is the poster child for strict N/C. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 You flatter me, sid. Let's not forget about my stupid email: "I wish you the best. I know you're going to be a great teacher"... PUKE! SHUT UP! NICE GUY! PATHETIC! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 You flatter me, sid. Let's not forget about my stupid email: "I wish you the best. I know you're going to be a great teacher"... PUKE! SHUT UP! NICE GUY! PATHETIC! Hahaha. dude, that is really nothing in the grand scheme of breaking no contact you didn't grovel, beg or tell her you missed her. You've been doing amazing. Link to post Share on other sites
foxh1234 Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 For the first 2 weeks I sent her sappy emails professing my love for her, I called and told her she was the only woman I will ever love, I saw her twice and we both cried like babies, I bought her a gift before we broke up and I still gave it to her after she cheated on me. How f**king pathetic is that one, lol. After that, I held things together pretty well. I am coming out of this funk slowly day by day and I don't really care anymore how stupid I was right after the break up. It's water under the bridge now. I also don't care what she thinks, I will never talk to her again. Link to post Share on other sites
wareagle Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 Yea I lost my dignity, self respect, identity many times over the year and half that we spent on and off! Not this time though this was the final straw, I had enough and enough is enough, so I am slowly regaining my dignity, self respect and Identity back to the level it was before I met her! Nc is and always will be the way to achieve getting our character back! Link to post Share on other sites
Crazy.S Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 I cried, beg, pleaded, wrote poems, blame myself, wrote emails, trying to win her back with the best sex. Seriously it was some serious sex, but it was only temporary. I pretty much loss my manhood. I kept going back for more and more, only to get rejected. Unrequited love sucks balls. Four years we had together, but I am not even sure how much of it was sincere. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 I don't really care anymore how stupid I was right after the break up. It's water under the bridge now. I also don't care what she thinks, I will never talk to her again. There it is. Whatever we may have done, as long as we learned from it - there is nothing to be ashamed of. North, thanks for the compliment. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 Seriously it was some serious sex Nice. Women are impervious to the power of c*ck. Ever seen Magnolia, with Tom Cruise's pony-tailed as*? Respect the c*ck, tame the c*nt! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 For the first 2 weeks I sent her sappy emails professing my love for her, I called and told her she was the only woman I will ever love, I saw her twice and we both cried like babies, I bought her a gift before we broke up and I still gave it to her after she cheated on me. How f**king pathetic is that one, lol. After that, I held things together pretty well. I am coming out of this funk slowly day by day and I don't really care anymore how stupid I was right after the break up. It's water under the bridge now. I also don't care what she thinks, I will never talk to her again. Whoah fox! You stormed out the gate and kept on moving forward! You go! Link to post Share on other sites
Crestfallen_KH Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 My dignity, along with the Acura TL, were the two things I kept. Link to post Share on other sites
inulg Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 unfortunately... the first breakup there was tons of begging and crying... the second time around... there was more crying... more begging... more 'barganing' ha. and i wanted to break us up ( because he didnt want to get married...) but... not only that he was so distant... i became desperate and clingy because i could see he was no longer interested in me. I cant believe i was trying to give up my want of marriage for him.... i was so ready to do anything to have him stay... so sad. even wrote the billion emails saying how sorry i was for being so 'desperate' and 'wanting marriage' ect.. sigh. leaving the voice mails saying i missed him and that we could work it out. i'm so pathetic. i dont know why, but i think it had partly to do with the fact that he had fallen out of love with me. I wanted so bad to change things. when you cant change something like that. i think joining a dating website / sexy cam chats with a good friend (ohhh i wish he didnt live so far )have been the only things keeping me sane right now. the only things reminding me that i have a future with someone else!! and to enjoy my single life!! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 The positive side to all this is that all of you won't do it again, right? Link to post Share on other sites
inulg Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 The positive side to all this is that all of you won't do it again, right? NEVER!! I dont feel horrible that i declared my love to him.. i just should have stopped after the first time. lol more than once is too much and gets desperate... and i dont need to be desperate with so many fish in the sea! i think i'm slowly learning that even if i never share anything significant with another again, i still have myself... ( plus i just re-discovered gardening again!! ITS SO GREAT!! i forget EVERYTHING! ) Link to post Share on other sites
foxh1234 Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 Whoah fox! You stormed out the gate and kept on moving forward! You go! Thanks TBF, I feel GREAT!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 NEVER!! I dont feel horrible that i declared my love to him.. i just should have stopped after the first time. lol more than once is too much and gets desperate... and i dont need to be desperate with so many fish in the sea! i think i'm slowly learning that even if i never share anything significant with another again, i still have myself... ( plus i just re-discovered gardening again!! ITS SO GREAT!! i forget EVERYTHING! ) Absolutely! Glad to hear you're learning to replug into something you enjoy. Great start! Thanks TBF, I feel GREAT!!!! That feeling of taking yourself back is awesome! Such a rush! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 8, 2008 Author Share Posted July 8, 2008 Nice. Women are impervious to the power of c*ck. Ever seen Magnolia, with Tom Cruise's pony-tailed as*? Respect the c*ck, tame the c*nt! OH SNAP!!! That was a truly wonderful movie!!! I loved it when he was in his tighty whitey's rolling around on the floor before giving the interview. The movie had a lot of stuff going on and I first saw it right when I met the woman that is causing me so much grief...HOW IRONIC you bring it up!! Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 Oh snap is correct, my friend. Oh snap, indeed. Anyway, good thread! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 8, 2008 Author Share Posted July 8, 2008 I am not too proud to say that I did some ego crushing things to win her back. Now that I reflect back I am REALLY stupid for doing all of them and maybe the love I had for her and the wonderful things I did because I loved her so was to show me that I was capable of loving a person so deeply and next time around with the right person comes around, I will recognize the feeling and want to treat her like a woman and my lover! I am serious I cried like a little bitch in the past and I would be embarrassed to have been seen doing it too. It hurts like hell to be jacked around and screwed up by the person you trusted with your heart. I will for now on be guarded with my fragile heart. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 I am not too proud to say that I did some ego crushing things to win her back. Now that I reflect back I am REALLY stupid for doing all of them and maybe the love I had for her and the wonderful things I did because I loved her so was to show me that I was capable of loving a person so deeply and next time around with the right person comes around, I will recognize the feeling and want to treat her like a woman and my lover! I am serious I cried like a little bitch in the past and I would be embarrassed to have been seen doing it too. It hurts like hell to be jacked around and screwed up by the person you trusted with your heart. I will for now on be guarded with my fragile heart. There's nothing wrong with caring deeply for someone. When they don't return it, is when we have to start guarding our hearts. Be glad that you're capable of deep emotions. Not everyone is capable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 8, 2008 Author Share Posted July 8, 2008 It is sad but true Trial!!! At least I have the ability to show that deep of an emotion. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 Every guy should lose his dignity over a woman at least once. It's a rite of passage. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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