Citizen Erased Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Seems like that shouldn't count. Maybe you're still a virgin. Perhaps. Want to find out? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Leon Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I cried, tried to reason, promised to change, apologized for everything under the sun.....but I don't think this is losing one's dignity. This is normal behavour for someone who has just been dumped. You do need to get over this stage and move on to the stage of accepting that this is their decision and is completely out of your control. The quicker you can move on to a position where you can be objective and respectful to the situation.....the more healthy the communication can be moving forward. You can always apoligize for the initial period of crazy, insane irrational behavour, as long as it ends and you can then act like an adult rational person. I know how tough this is. You can always act crazy behind closed doors....but you need to keep this away from your ex. The last thing you want then to think of you is that you are an idiot. You need to have some pride in your self...PRIDE. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 9, 2008 Author Share Posted July 9, 2008 called her 3-4 times and told her to break up with me in person I got that too! A break up of sorts over the phone from 365 miles away!!! How much of a coward can you be???? I am there with you on that one. I wanted a finally goodbye of sorts. I did not want that sorry a$$ goodbye over the phone. I KNOW I DESERVED better than that! I called a few times and sent some emails requesting a proper goodbye. Still have not got it, but have got some of the silly games like request to see me on the webcam and calling me when I am out of town. It was a LDR over 360 miles one way. Link to post Share on other sites
pickingupthepieces Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I was BAD.. crazy even. I lived and breathed "getting him back". I called, I cried, I showed up unannounced... begged. Was a mess for a VERY long time... I was horrible!! My pride just sank... to the bottom. The only thing I DIDN'T do was become violent. It is weird how it doens't even feel like that was me. I didn't even get a breakup... weird complicated story.. well I guess not that complicated, because we still arn't together. We have had contact for a while now and I am happy to say that I have not acted like that .. THANK GOD! You defenitly learn alot from it! Link to post Share on other sites
roghornio Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 This last time round - thankfully i kept my cool other than asking her to come away with me for a weekend after we plit. Oh and telling her she had a nice butt by text aftre she was worried about being fat, one time when i was drunk lol... so no worries there... in fact i think ive turned into the dreaded "lovely guy" ex. Though pervious ex - in fact my first girlfriend i cannot look back without cringing at some of the stuff i did - i was really young though - but turning up at her work close to tears asking for a final kiss was not my finest moment. I also remember being at a party with her and her new boyfriend and trying to hold her hand LOL. Man... cring cringe cringe!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
iwish Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I think i'm probably the worst person on here for breaking NC and losing my dignity. I cried, i texted, i chased.. all that crap.. But there's a flip side to my situation.. She did the same things at times. She cried, she chased, she texted.. We actually got back together only for her to dump me again.. I was better the second time around.. NC for 2 weeks!! then we saw each other and i reached my lowest point. I cried in front of other people!! I was so drunk absolutely pathetic.. I made a right idiot of myself and am not proud of that night.. We saw each other the next day, and we kissed.. So, she holds no grudges.. and you know what, **** her!! Still miss her though Link to post Share on other sites
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 9, 2008 Author Share Posted July 9, 2008 It's really amazing what loving someone can turn us into. I am starting to reflect back on all the times I did certain things and think to myself, "You really let her get the best of you!!!" I think that I truly learned myself the hard way on this go around, but I do not ever think that I will allow myself to get lost in a person again like I did this $hit head. Man I took some serious deal breaking stuff from her. Really, I think it has prepared me for the right person and after several months of a few weeks here and there NC, I am NC for good! She does not deserve me. Link to post Share on other sites
PhoenixFromTheFlames Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Who lost their dignity? Me, Me Me! A thousand times over. I tried to reason with him? I wailed like a banshee, lots of times, yelled, screamed and even slapped him! Utterly disgusted with my own behaviour. I apologised in all sincerity for my behaviour, which is more than I got back in return. I reacted badly, but he acted badly. He never would have met banshee lady if he's just been a decent human being. Link to post Share on other sites
critter909 Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I acted great for the first two days and then got drunk and lost it on day 3. Cried like a baby, begged, reasoned blah blah blah, all on deaf ears of course! Since then though I have expressed my feelings honestly, I still love him, miss him, but no more begging and crying, I'm proud of myself. And NC unless he contacts me! I'm proud of that too, never thought I could do it. Link to post Share on other sites
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