JP77 Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 Did it ever occur to anyone, how I felt when I got those drunken messages? 'Love ya??!" How tacky was that? Oh please. He shoulve asked me, during that time he sent that love ya message. He shouldve planned it earlier to make sure I was free. We know we both work very busy jobs. Thats the least he couldve done. It was tacky and you should have acted like an adult and ignored the message. If someone sent me that, I'd have just either altered the conversation or ignored that particular text. You are behaving as if you are overly sensitive, perhaps you are; I don't know you, so I cannot say. We all should do things at a particular time, but we don't, why? We are human that is why, if you want the perfect man, you'll wind up a spinster. H e hasn't asked you, because he thinks you are not interested, because you are ignoring him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Myst Posted July 10, 2008 Author Share Posted July 10, 2008 We all should do things at a particular time, but we don't, why? We are human that is why, if you want the perfect man, you'll wind up a spinster. H e hasn't asked you, because he thinks you are not interested, because you are ignoring him. No where in my messages did i say i wanted a 'perfect man'. No guy is perfect. But I still have the right to expect a guy to treat me with respect and consider my self esteem. Is that too much to ask? Link to post Share on other sites
JP77 Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 No where in my messages did i say i wanted a 'perfect man'. No guy is perfect. But I still have the right to expect a guy to treat me with respect and consider my self esteem. Is that too much to ask? All he sent was "love ya" in a message, talk about going OTT. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Myst Posted July 10, 2008 Author Share Posted July 10, 2008 All he sent was "love ya" in a message, talk about going OTT. It was a drunk message, that was the point. I have too much self respect to answer those. Link to post Share on other sites
JP77 Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 It was a drunk message, that was the point. I have too much self respect to answer those. Yeah and I don't blame you for not responding, as I said I wouldn't have replied either, but you are overreacting and in return jepordising something which could turn out be good and lasting, this is my point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Myst Posted July 10, 2008 Author Share Posted July 10, 2008 Yeah and I don't blame you for not responding, as I said I wouldn't have replied either, but you are overreacting and in return jepordising something which could turn out be good and lasting, this is my point. Then maybe he shouldve thought about that too? Sending a drunk message instead of asking me for that coffee like we planned when we were talking last Sunday? Where were his priorities? Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 Oh for goodness sake! It's just a few messages! he probably thought that as you're so young you're into having a bit of fun, and a laugh, with no big commitment or view to anything serious! So he was drunk! so what!? That's probably why he called you a snob! Because you're acting like one!! You're not getting anywhere here, because we're all telling you to chill, and you're still acting as if it's worse than the outbreak of WWII - !! Lighten up, let it go, and wise up! The only respect you'll get from anyone is if you start treating people like humans, and not expecting huge things straight away! Go away and cool down a bit, let it go, and buy a book titled "How to let my hair down and enjoy life without being Anal"! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 Just so I'm on the correct page here, have the OP and her intended not yet been out on an official date? If he really was into me he'd make sure to ask me out before anyone else does. Perhaps I read this wrong. I based my "flirtatious" suggestion on the premise that they were just friendly and flirting back and forth and weren't dating. Is that right? If yes, wish him safe travels and entertain other gentlemen's attentions which you find to be more appropriate Link to post Share on other sites
emjayc Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 if he hasn't called you, it is probably his way of letting you down easily. He probably hopes that you will find someone else to arouse your attention. I am a gal and I have told guys the same sort of thing...."Oh sure I will call you...we will meet up and go out....Yeah...next weekend..." It is nice to know someone is into you, and yet at the same time not be into them...and it may not be because you are unattractive or anything like that but for something as simple as him being uncomfortable with the age difference. Some guys like younger women, others don't simply because they are really looking for someone they can settle down with whom they can relate to and is closer to their own age. From my experience...because I have mostly guy friends and have all my life...around ages 25-35 that IS the case. I hope this helps. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
JP77 Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 Just forget it. He asked you for coffee and didn't follow up. But I don't think there would have been anything wrong with texting him back and saying (jokingly) 'Luv you, 2. When are we having that coffee you asked me out for?' Sublime, has just given you sublime advice. Listen to it and follow up. next time. Link to post Share on other sites
CommitmentPhobe Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 Hate a guy because he promised you love, bedded you and then left. Hate a guy because he cheated on you. Hate a guy because he cheated on you with your best friend. Hate a guy because he broke up with you via email. Hate a guy because he beat you up. You have no reason to hate a guy because he can't make up his mind whether to go out with you or not. Try reducing your expectations. If he asks you out, he asks you out, if he doesn't he doesn't. In the meantime just see where it goes. Not exactly harmful is it....tbh he's probably put off with your anxious attitude, i would be. Link to post Share on other sites
elaina Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 Then maybe he shouldve thought about that too? Sending a drunk message instead of asking me for that coffee like we planned when we were talking last Sunday? Where were his priorities? I understand why you didn't like that drunk message, though yeah the post about making it a joke and writing back "love ya 2" is a cute idea, but I get why that made you mad. Have you thought about just writing him a text saying something like, "if you are really interested in me, then please meet me for coffee? Thanks." Is that not a good idea? I don't know... I'm sorry I wish he had taken you for that coffee!!! If he doesn't seem to care though, then it's actually a good thing in my opinion to move on, cause wishy-washy men who can't make up their minds could give you heartbreak... Peace Link to post Share on other sites
Dharmaa Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I wouldn't have responded to a drunk text after midnight either. It's the equivalent of a drunk booty call. I don't understand texting over a real phone call either. I agree with the OP here, however I can see that you are taking this very personal because he has dissapointed you. I think a daytime text response stating frankly that if he was interested, he needs to contact you sober would have been appropriate. These are early days so take what you now know about his behavior into account before deciding to continue with this man. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 It's ok...Myst kinda abandoned this thread when she realised she was just blowing it all out of proportion, and taking everything waaay too seriously........ I guess she's probably over it by now...... 3............2.............1...... Link to post Share on other sites
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