Makemesmile Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 Hi everyone, havnt posted for a while, been trying to sort my relationship out and thought it was going great until today! I popped back to my s/o at lunch to check my mail (was waiting for somthing to do with work) opened his laptop and there on the screen a message from a girl addressed to " The love of my life" lots of miss you's, why havnt you wrote for a while, i love and will come and visit soon. Love your Girlfriend...... My world fell apart! I looked in his sent iteam and the last message was sent to her on 18.05.08 the night b4 this we spent the night together had a meal, sex you know a great night. His message read: I dearm of the day we meet, i have attached a sexy photo for your eyes only, lots of generaly stuff along with things about "He gets boared very easyly sexualy and emotionaly, thats why his previous relationships never last. We have had a 7yr relationship, broke up for a mth or 2 and we have bin trying to work things out for the last 3mths!!!!! Then! He walked in............. I handed him the laptop and walked out! HELP i'm in bits x He says i was wrong to read it, but it wasnt like i hacked into his email to find it. He then said anyway we are not together! I asked what the last few mths have bin about then..... He said he wanted to keep his options open, but hasnt contact her since that last mail! What do i do? Link to post Share on other sites
electric_sheep Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 That really sucks. It doesn't matter whether it was wrong to read it. If your house burns down you don't worry about whether you had left the TV on or not. I'll go ahead and state the obvious... unless you guys had some sort of arrangement, it sounds like he was being duplicitous. I'm not sure if I could trust someone after this. Even if I could, I'm not sure if it would be a good idea. It's going to be painful, but I think you know what you need to do. Remember, time in the great healer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Makemesmile Posted July 8, 2008 Author Share Posted July 8, 2008 Thats the thing tho i dont think i was wrong, it was in my face, i couldnt help but read it! I know what i need to do, but i'm sat here crying into a key board.................. Thinking did i over react? He say's he realised a few weeks ago that the internet dating thing was getting him know where and he wanted to make a go of things with me...... This girl lives on the other side of the world, does it make it any different? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 Did you overreact? No. Does it make a difference that she is across the world? No. Is your R with him over? Yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Makemesmile Posted July 8, 2008 Author Share Posted July 8, 2008 No we didnt have any kind or agreement! I wasnt doing and didnt expect him to. Thanks peeps...... I think i just need to cry this out and lock myself away with a bottle of wine for a while! But even tho it was 4weeks ago? He says it didnt mean anything I'm so messed up Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 The fact that the word "love" is being used by either one of them is enough to end it for good. No matter where this girl lives, he has formed some kind of attachment to her. Let it go, get gone. Time for a disappearing act. Link to post Share on other sites
electric_sheep Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 Thanks peeps...... I think i just need to cry this out and lock myself away with a bottle of wine for a while! If I lived any closer, I'd come over and help you drink it. I'd love to hit the pubs in London, and take a piss in the Thames. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Makemesmile Posted July 8, 2008 Author Share Posted July 8, 2008 Electric-sheep your welcome anytime........ Not sure about pissing in the Thames is a great idea tho lol I know the right thing to do its just hard doing it and my insides feel ripped up and kicked about! I loved this guy gave him my world and he's just stamped all over it....... Back to the break up forum for me i think and second leg of NC Link to post Share on other sites
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