CaliGuy Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 After 2 weeks of NC, this morning on her way to work, she called me. She heard a song on the radio and wanted to see how I was doing. I told her good. Then we just talked about some random stuff, i told her i wanted to drop off her stuff to her friends work, she said to leave it and she will pick it up sometime. I also told her I heard she had a new boyfriend, she said yes, but didn't sound like she was as thrilled about it as I thought she was according to her myspace page. Anyway we talked a little about how our break up went and how sudden it was. She said when I wanted a break, she thought she needed to see what else is out there for her too. I wish I wouldn't have answered the phone, then I would have some cards in my hand too, instead we talked for 15 min and I tried to act cool, but i feel that she still holds all the cards and called, to see if she still had me on the line. I don't know what to do if anything. I personally would have let it go to voicemail. Even taking the call, I would have made it extremely short and ended the call as soon as possible. You can't say the wrong thing if you aren't talking to her I would also try not to meet with her but just drop her stuff off at a friends -- unless she is scheming a way to meet with you. I dunno. Anyway, don't beat yourself up over it. Just be cautious around her. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 This is just a thought but something seems strange to me. Immediately when you break up she has a new loving boyfriend. Did it ever occur to you that maybe she was seeing this guy behind your back and used this opportunity when you asked for a break to be with him? I do not think she is being quite honest with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oregonbigc Posted July 23, 2008 Author Share Posted July 23, 2008 Of course I thought that, and i talked to her about it. She swears she never cheated on me and that she didn't start talking to him until after we broke up. I don't think she cheated necessarily, although she may have, I do think she was talking to him for a while though on the sly. F&$# that girl. I am so pissed that she isn't the girl I thought she was. I dropped off her stuff today at her roommates work. So maybe that's that. I don't freakin know. We spoke last night for a while and she was saying she wants to date, and maybe get together with me at a later time. she is not sure what she wants. Damn, Damn, I just started having serious, deep feelings for her a couple months ago, if i could've held them off a couple more months. Link to post Share on other sites
CHANTRESS Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 I think you know where you messed up. There is nothing you can do to change it now. Have you told her you regret asking for a break and you are sorry? If she hasn't heard these words, I can understand her position completely. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oregonbigc Posted July 24, 2008 Author Share Posted July 24, 2008 time and time again. Sincerely. Link to post Share on other sites
mscomplex Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I am new to this posting thing: Not to bring my own personal issues to this post but but I have a friend who wanted to date me for 20 yrs. (we were never single at the same time) I gave him a chance about a yr ago and he recently told me he sometimes wants to be single and is not sure and thinks he wants a break. I gave it to him and wish he were trying as hard as you were to get back. I was hurt and told him not to contact me. He sends an occasional text and it makes me feel better. (I have to be honest) It sucks to be blindsided by the "break." I cannot say I agree with the way you ex has handled things. Then again I am a lot older than she is. I think the whole myspace thing is just ploy to make you jealous. If my ex used the computer like I did that would surely be a way to hurt him. From reading your posts I know you did not mean things the way they turned out. I am so pissed with my ex not only for the loss of the relationship but the friendship. I hope you find some happiness but do not be surprised when she tries to come back. The fact that she was not in a hurry to get her things. My ex tried the same thing and in an attempt to hurt him (I know childish) I took everything to him. I am pulling for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author oregonbigc Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 i took everything to her roommates work a couple days ago. Her hair stuff, toothbrush, cards she had given me and pictures of us, and a few other things she left here. I wish she was trying to make me jealous, but i am no longer her friend on myspace and she is trying to hide the new guy she is dating, although now she knows that i know and she still seems so cold hearted, so crazy, because she was so warm for the entire relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 i took everything to her roommates work a couple days ago. Her hair stuff, toothbrush, cards she had given me and pictures of us, and a few other things she left here. I wish she was trying to make me jealous, but i am no longer her friend on myspace and she is trying to hide the new guy she is dating, although now she knows that i know and she still seems so cold hearted, so crazy, because she was so warm for the entire relationship. Sorry to say but I'm somewhat unsympathetic to your feelings right now. You made the mistake of teasing her and asking for a break (twice) and now that she's gone, you're placing all the blame on her and accusing her of perhaps having cheated on you? You seriously need to have an ego check. The fact that you made the mistake and pushed her away should've been a lesson to you, not another for you to call her a dumb h*e just because she's with someone else. If you truly hate her that much, then go NC on her. Complaining about how she's treating you just makes you whiny. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 she was saying she wants to date, and maybe get together with me at a later time apparently, she doesn't know what she wants, so now she's yanking your chain by telling you to keep options open for her even though she ensured the break. dude ... it's time to walk away. Because you two will just continue to play games, and that's not good in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oregonbigc Posted August 21, 2008 Author Share Posted August 21, 2008 Her rebound after me lasted about 1 month, now she is single again. Saw her out 2 weeks ago, said hello, thats about it. I have texted her 2 times in the past 2 months, one happy bday and one, be careful in the tropical storm. She texted me back short thank you's. I want to call her to talk, i miss hanging out with her. SHould I give it a shot or wait to see if she contacts me, or add her back to my myspace or just forget about it????????? Link to post Share on other sites
vivrantflo Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Leave her alone. If you want her back romantically, you'll have to wait for her to make the first move. You dont want her using you as a rebound off of this NY guy. You saw her out, and said hello. She hasn't made an attempt to contact you since then.. even with her being single. You must continue to move on with you life, and don't count on her coming back. And if she does come back, don't make it so easy for her to. She had to bang another dude for a month for her to realize she wants you back.. and this is IF she comes back. Continue to live your life, and leave her be. Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 When someone leaves for someone else(i.e- banging others) 10% theyare coming back. And these types of break ups happen 90% of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
nowhereman82 Posted August 23, 2008 Share Posted August 23, 2008 Did you all know that 83% percent of statistics are made up? Haha, just playen, reminded me of that joke though. Link to post Share on other sites
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