Tomcat33 Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Well, I have two, so if you need one I'm taking bids for my spare. I just have to warn you, I am a BW, you never know the kind of conflict that will go on in your brain if you take me up on the offer. I believe in full disclosure and my brain cell will be sold as is. If I call now will I receive a free bonus gift? Maybe you'll surprise me with "if you pick up the phone and call us now we will send you TWO, not one, but TWO brain cells" (always trying to get a little more...) Link to post Share on other sites
angie2443 Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 They see Daddy! Yep. I've been there. This is exactly what they see. Although, at that young age (16,20) I didn't fully realize that. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Oh goody!! Let's break out the cans of whipping cream! Oil. I prefer watching all of you in the ring - oil wrestling!! :bunny: I might jump in!! Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Red Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 I wuv my LS sistas. I'm so entertained as I sit with my swollen feet up & read to occupy my time. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 white flower, I am assuming your not a kid under 21, right? Naw, I'm early 40s;) Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Woody Allen - older than God - his adopted daughter (ewwwwww) 21?? Sorry I know it's pedantic but I just can't let this pass! Woody Allen never adopted Soon-Yi Previn. She was the adopted daughter of Mia Farrow with her ex-husband, Andre Previn. Mia Farrow and Woody Allen never lived together - they maintained strictly separate flats throughout. Soon-Yi would have known Woody as her mother's lover, and nothing else. Her father was Andre Previn. Technicially - whatever other "ewwww" factors are involved (who finds a nebbish sexy, fgs? ) - there was nothing incestuous about the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 after reading all comments it has become really clear to me at least...there is a sort of rottenness in all the tones of the ow ...might be an indicator as to why youre the ones alone on the holidays... Sorry sweetheart - I've never been alone on holidays, ever. Even before MM left his W, she was the one alone on holidays, and we were together. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Yeah. Just read all the threads. Every OW comes out of every affair so happy! Perhaps not every OW - just like not every M is happy - but some of us do. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Loving and screwing are two vastly different things. I do believe that's what the other poster was trying to say, really. Two people screwing does not a relationship make. And when the screwing ends in unhappiness for the OW, how is that "getting the best?" IME it's usually the OW getting the loving AND the sex, as well as the gifts, holidays, spoiling and prioritising, and the BW getting the laundry, the dishes, the cleaning, the shopping, the fobbing off whenever "something (more interesting, ie an opportunity to see the OW) comes up", the holidays alone, the waiting, the wondering, the knitting alone next to the radio... Perhaps other people's choices are different, but I know which I'd pick out of that list as "the best"! Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 its also alot easier to have a physical relationship...you can do it with any random piece of !#@# planning a life and getting caught up in stupidity is an entirely different thing...how many ow become the serious anything? not many...they usually move on to the next one or realize how good they truly had it to begin with...its usually lose/lose for the ow...good thing ill never be that to anyone elses hubby It was win / win for us all round and hopefully the BW one day too. I'm sorry you're in such a hurt, angry place and hope that you will recover one day. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Huh. Well, you're free to call my exH any names you like but he cheated on me with a 22 year old when he was 35. The affair last nearly (at least? who knows) a year, and continued for a little while longer after I divorced him. It was absolutely sexual and she wasn't the least bit intimidated by his age. On the other hand, he was her boss. Again, feel free to say "ew." I did. But, she didn't. So I wouldn't make a lump statement about the age thing. Simply not true. Agreed. I've always preferred older men. I have never had the patience for kids. And when I was that age - an undergraduate - that would have been my exact target range. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 You are too proud to sleep with an ex boyfriend yet not quite proud enough that you would have no qualms in sharing someones husband? makes perfect sense! I didn't share - I had him all to myself. But I don't think she's much into sex anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author savethedrama Posted July 11, 2008 Author Share Posted July 11, 2008 My H knew she was 21 because he asked her. I SWEAR to you, when I talked to her she sounded and acted WAY younger that even 21. She, in turn, did NOT ask him how old he was and didn't know he was 35. I told her he WAS and I also informed her that she was 9 y o when we got married and 11 when we had our son!! She was very surprised to hear it put that way. She had only seen him that one time (when she gave him her #) and he was wearing a hat. He looks very young when he wears a hat. We (the OW and I) actually bonded a little when I told her about his bald spot and his Hemmeroid!!! She was certainly saying "ewwwww" by the time I was done! And she was calling me by my first name by the time we were done with THAT conversation!! See? I can bash the Cheating H too. I would like to remind you that in my OP I said I had bashed MY personal H's OW and my friend's H's OW (who is a serious psycho). I DID not bash any OW who frequent this site. It was a vent - for sure. I am guilty of venting. It was also a plea, but I did not disrespect anyone here. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 They see Daddy! I don't know if that would apply to me - I've always considered my father "nice" in the same way you smile at a "nice" guy when you're introduced but you're already looking over his shoulder at the hottie who's just walked in. Frankly I've never understood what his OW saw in him and why she was prepared to wait so long for him, but she did and they're happy and I'm happy for them... But would I want _that_ for me? No way! Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 She had only seen him that one time (when she gave him her #) and he was wearing a hat. He looks very young when he wears a hat. OK I'm still trying to wrap my head around handing out your number to a guy you've just met, but perhaps she's just a little on the naive side... but the hat thing, together with: We (the OW and I) actually bonded a little when I told her about his bald spot and his Hemmeroid!!! She was certainly saying "ewwwww" by the time I was done! OK, let's lose the haemarrhoid part of it (I've just gotten myself some coffee) and focus on the bald spot. This seems to divide women sharply - for some, baldness is such a turn off, and for others, it just pushes those hormones into overdrive. I must confess I have a thing for balding / bald guys. Maybe it's the high testosterone levels that it signifies, or maybe it's because it makes their heads look like, well, the other head, but I've always had the expectation that bald/ing guys will have huger libidos and be more sexually savvy, and I've yet to be disappointed. (I like body hair on men, too - which I know is another definite turn-off for some women. But to me, like the bald/ing thing, it's so virile, so testosterone-drenched, so hawt! I can't bear men that, say, have no chest hair - to my mind that looks pre-adolescent and I'm just not into paedophilia. I like my men to be men!) Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 I must confess I have a thing for balding / bald guys. Maybe it's the high testosterone levels that it signifies, or maybe it's because it makes their heads look like, well, the other head, but I've always had the expectation that bald/ing guys will have huger libidos and be more sexually savvy, and I've yet to be disappointed. (I like body hair on men, too - which I know is another definite turn-off for some women. But to me, like the bald/ing thing, it's so virile, so testosterone-drenched, so hawt! I can't bear men that, say, have no chest hair - to my mind that looks pre-adolescent and I'm just not into paedophilia. I like my men to be men!) :laugh: I didn't know that about balding men - huger libidos and more sexually savvy. As for me, I can't say that I like balding men, maybe cause most of the men I know, they have thick hair on their head (the one with the face). If my man is balding then, I'll still love him . Oh and if it's balding, there is no way I am going to tell him to get it fixed! Chest hair - I love it but as long as it's nothing like Steve Carrell's in 40 Year Old Virgin, I'm fine!! Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Chest hair - I love it but as long as it's nothing like Steve Carrell's in 40 Year Old Virgin, I'm fine!! I didn't see that movie - was it like shaggy carpet, like David Hasselhoff ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author savethedrama Posted July 11, 2008 Author Share Posted July 11, 2008 OK I'm still trying to wrap my head around handing out your number to a guy you've just met, but perhaps she's just a little on the naive side... They worked a special event together here in the area. They hung out with a group of about 10 people all day. By the end of the day she gave him her phone number claiming she needed advice about a horse.... He called her three days later....UGH As for the other subjects: If a guy is bald I perfer he just shave it off. I like completely bald/shaved. I was pretty sure, though, at the age of 21 the bald thing wouldn't be a good thing for the OW... I think my H's bald spot is kinda cute cuz it's pretty new and really you have to look hard to see it as it is more a thinning out.... But it didn't hurt to play it up for the sake of my point which was "he's bald and has a 'roid on his a$$, but girl, he's mine and I love him" as I said in my OP, I was trying to say he's more to me than just a cute guy.... I honestly didn't know the thing about bald men being sexier or whatever....is this common knowledge? Oh, and I'm sorry to bring up the 'roid thing. I know it isn't lady-like... I don't go around telling others about it IRL or anything but for some reason I blurted it out to the OW and we both actually started giggling. I guess I was wanting to point out my H's physical flaws or something but how funny of me to think of that! I guess I was trying to make him sound old so she would see what she was dealing with !! She is 21. I bet it grossed her out. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
jj2007 Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 they're not MY rules......... read the TOS I know the rules hun, But why did you take it upon yourself to try to enforce them? Seems to me like you've got a little too much time on your hands. Like I said, who are you to decide what"s A "fit" in this forum anyway? That better Miss forum police? just sayin'.............. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 I bet it grossed her out. LOL I'll bet it did too, whether she had coffee at the time or not Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 I honestly didn't know the thing about bald men being sexier or whatever....is this common knowledge? Ssssh! Let's hope not Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 IME it's usually the OW getting the loving AND the sex, as well as the gifts, holidays, spoiling and prioritising, and the BW getting the laundry, the dishes, the cleaning, the shopping, the fobbing off whenever "something (more interesting, ie an opportunity to see the OW) comes up", the holidays alone, the waiting, the wondering, the knitting alone next to the radio... Perhaps other people's choices are different, but I know which I'd pick out of that list as "the best"! Do you have any idea how stupid this sounds? It's like you are trying to sell people how great it is to be an ow. Sorry honey I'm not buying it. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 wait so are we doing "whipits" with the cans or are we going to wrestle in whipcream? Because if do whipits we simply can't talk any more crap than we already do. Hey, I've got the market cornered on flingin' whipped cream! I'm a pro! Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 IME it's usually the OW getting the loving AND the sex, as well as the gifts, holidays, spoiling and prioritising, and the BW getting the laundry, the dishes, the cleaning, the shopping, the fobbing off whenever "something (more interesting, ie an opportunity to see the OW) comes up", the holidays alone, the waiting, the wondering, the knitting alone next to the radio... Perhaps other people's choices are different, but I know which I'd pick out of that list as "the best"! Of course, in your situation. But most A situations are a far cry from the category your falls under. A quick perusal of this forum speaks loudly and clearly to that truth. Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 I know the rules hun, But why did you take it upon yourself to try to enforce them? Seems to me like you've got a little too much time on your hands. Like I said, who are you to decide what"s A "fit" in this forum anyway? That better Miss forum police? just sayin'.............. ummm as I"m not a mod I can't "enforce" anything LOL I just nicely mentioned it.......(I even said please) Link to post Share on other sites
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