ousoonerfan4life Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Hello everyone but anyways my ex wants me back after us getting a divorce. I really love her and still care for her alot. The thing is the reason why I divorced her was because she started having contact with a friend from her highschool that she graduated with. At the time of the divorce I was working night shift at my job 8hrs a day 5 days a week i would come home and she would go to her moms house when I got home at 8am in the mourning apparently this guy calls her at her mothers house. Then out of the blue I get a letter addressed to our addy and it was a letter from him it said that he loved her and couldnt wait to see her beautiful face, also that he would support her finacally. Well that right their made me realize she was playing a game with me and I just ended it before I ended up with more hurt. I know I wasnt the best to her I got mad at her alot and took things out on her that I shouldnt have. Well its been about 9 months since our divorce and in that time she dated this so call guy of a lifetime that ended up using her and next thing you know she was comming over. One thing led to another and she started staying over my house. She hasnt said anything exactly about us getting back together but when she left for basic training in the military she started writing me letters saying she missed me alittle bit. Then the next thing I know I got a phone call from her she said shes getting discharged out of the military and talked about us getting remarried. I told her that it seemed like a good idea but I would have to think about this. The thing is I dont know if she is just wanting me back temporary or for good because if its temp. im just going to move on any help is greatly appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 she don't seem to have a great track record for stability.either marriage wise or career wise.i'd stay far away from her. christ, have a kid or two, and she runs to the next "love of her life". Link to post Share on other sites
orangesean Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Yeah I think partners who are capable of infidelity should never be trusted again. Especially if they did it to you. In fact if I were to ever date someone who let me know they cheated on some past ex, that would be it there. Some people might be able to change their wandering eye but I seriously doubt it. I think people who go as far as to cheat on a spouse or SO have a serious problem with selfishness and inflicting hurt, far more than anything else I can imagine. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 What, you don't think she got enough out of you from the first Divorce? So, you going to marry her again, so she can take even more away from you? Leave this Chick in the dust, and get a much better modal! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ousoonerfan4life Posted July 10, 2008 Author Share Posted July 10, 2008 yeah i was thinking that because i feel like if she was to comeback it would be good for alittle bit and then get bitter. she didnt work that much when she did she complained i did everything for that woman i even bought her a new car and when we divorced well it got repoed. Yeah when I went to get the divorce i called her i did it without out her knowing until the the actual phone call she was like i cant believe your doing this. I told her because of the letter she was like you would believe him over me well i told her why would a guy write i love you and crap if you didnt initiate that. She always made excuses for her actions the only thing she could come up with was the same thing how would i believe that she didnt do anything wrong. I think what im going to do is date her awhile and test the water and if it starts boiling that could be bad and since i wouldnt be married to her i could just leave and that would be that. Link to post Share on other sites
orangesean Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 Don't even do that in my opinion. Do nothing, get rid of her. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Don't even do that in my opinion. Do nothing, get rid of her. Yeah, ok, that. Do that! Link to post Share on other sites
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