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Overeacting? Catching My Long Term BF Looking at Porn.

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blind_otter Established Member

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ya, I would rather be there, and we had this convo and he agreed.. I dont so the big deal if he agreed..

 

I think people will say a lot of things to make their partner happy, or to avoid an argument.

 

To be honest - if my partner told me that I was not allowed to masturbate when he is not present, I would be very angry with him; I might reconsider my relationship with him. He has no right to control my sexuality. What I do in my private time is my business, and if it doesn't interfere with our sex life, then it has absolutely nothing to do with him.

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I think people will say a lot of things to make their partner happy, or to avoid an argument.

 

To be honest - if my partner told me that I was not allowed to masturbate when he is not present, I would be very angry with him; I might reconsider my relationship with him. He has no right to control my sexuality. What I do in my private time is my business, and if it doesn't interfere with our sex life, then it has absolutely nothing to do with him.

 

so your telling me that you could go have sexual intercourse with someone else? since its your "private business"?

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so your telling me that you could go have sexual intercourse with someone else? since its your "private business"?

 

Your not understanding... HE PROMISED. Do people not have any commitments these days? or is it just words?

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so your telling me that you could go have sexual intercourse with someone else? since its your "private business"?

 

How is masturbation the same is having sex with someone else?

 

Masturbation is a solo sexual activity, by definition. Sex with someone else requires another person to be physically present.

 

I own my own sexuality. My partner does not own my sexuality.

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How is masturbation the same is having sex with someone else?

 

Masturbation is a solo sexual activity, by definition. Sex with someone else requires another person to be physically present.

 

I own my own sexuality. My partner does not own my sexuality.

 

Im not talking about sexuality here, Im taking about mis-trust. two different things.

blind_otter Established Member

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Im not talking about sexuality here, Im taking about mis-trust. two different things.

 

I was merely responding to your question. Sorry.

 

I don't really understand why your BF masturbating is betraying your trust.

 

Carry on. Hopefully someone else will be able to help you.

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I was merely responding to your question. Sorry.

 

I don't really understand why your BF masturbating is betraying your trust.

 

Carry on. Hopefully someone else will be able to help you.

 

No, thats no problem I was just simply trying to explain what I was trying to say, your opinion is great and I appreciate it :) I just wanted it to be clear so no one would be confused :)

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No, thats no problem I was just simply trying to explain what I was trying to say, your opinion is great and I appreciate it :) I just wanted it to be clear so no one would be confused :)

 

hes been home for the past 1 and a half and he hasn't even once asked to sit down and talk to me.. should I move out? Im so confused and hurt right now.

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hes been home for the past 1 and a half and he hasn't even once asked to sit down and talk to me.. should I move out? Im so confused and hurt right now.
(we haven't talked since it happened)
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hes been home for the past 1 and a half and he hasn't even once asked to sit down and talk to me.. should I move out? Im so confused and hurt right now.

 

 

You want to move out becasue he hasn't asked you to sit down and talk?

 

Maybe you could ask him to sit down and talk?

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No, thats no problem I was just simply trying to explain what I was trying to say, your opinion is great and I appreciate it :) I just wanted it to be clear so no one would be confused :)

 

You don't need advice. It's no use because you don't want to listen anyway. Maybe you should just find another old fashion guy like you are. If there's no more trust in your relationship then why are you still together?

 

Gurl, there's so much you have to learn about men. Whoever man you will be with (old or young), he will MASTURBATE! He will watch porn! With or without your presence. I think it's selfish for you in the first place to make him promise NOT to do it. You need to learn to give him his own private space. It's not about doing something behind your back. It's about him having his own private moment. And again, you need to learn the difference between SEX and MASTURBATION. Geez! You're not even married yet!

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You don't need advice. It's no use because you don't want to listen anyway. Maybe you should just find another old fashion guy like you are. If there's no more trust in your relationship then why are you still together?

 

Gurl, there's so much you have to learn about men. Whoever man you will be with (old or young), he will MASTURBATE! He will watch porn! With or without your presence. I think it's selfish for you in the first place to make him promise NOT to do it. You need to learn to give him his own private space. It's not about doing something behind your back. It's about him having his own private moment. And again, you need to learn the difference between SEX and MASTURBATION. Geez! You're not even married yet!

 

Well Im sorry you feel that way, but Thats not how I work.

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Your post title asked "Overreacting?"

 

Almost everyone in this thread has said "Yes! Yes you are!"

 

Yet you aren't listening. Sounds like you just want support from other people to feel outraged, but unfortunately you're not going to get it unless Rainfall & Jersey Shortie get here.

 

You're doomed to a long life of painful breakups and deceitful relationships unless you can get a handle on this insecurity issue w/ porn.

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Well Im sorry you feel that way, but Thats not how I work.

 

grow up!

 

based on your posts i see that you have so many issues. You might consider getting some help. You go to a dating site just for attention? Geez! And you get mad at your bf for watching porn behind your back. Girl, you're too insecure. Get some help!

 

And then now, you guys are not talking because your bf won't sit down and talk to you. Of course, I don't blame your bf. Why would he talk to someone so close-minded?

 

I 100% agree to everything that Enema said.

 

You overreacted. Then come here in this forum to seek for advice and yet you don't listen. I'd say it again, please please for your own sake, GROW UP and GET REAL!

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grow up!

 

based on your posts i see that you have so many issues. You might consider getting some help. You go to a dating site just for attention? Geez! And you get mad at your bf for watching porn behind your back. Girl, you're too insecure. Get some help!

 

And then now, you guys are not talking because your bf won't sit down and talk to you. Of course, I don't blame your bf. Why would he talk to someone so close-minded?

 

I 100% agree to everything that Enema said.

 

You overreacted. Then come here in this forum to seek for advice and yet you don't listen. I'd say it again, please please for your own sake, GROW UP and GET REAL!

 

bitch go **** your mother you ****ing whore, you dnt know **** about me!!

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bitch go **** your mother you ****ing whore, you dnt know **** about me!!

 

Oh are you hurt? tsk! tsk! tsk! Sorry girl, truth hurts! I don't have to know you. Your posts say alot about you. :rolleyes:

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Oh are you hurt? tsk! tsk! tsk! Sorry girl, truth hurts! I don't have to know you. Your posts say alot about you. :rolleyes:

 

OK thanks for all the support.

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Anyways, just come back here and tell us if there's anything good that your OVERREACTION and close-mindedness has brought to your relationship. Goodluck! :lmao:;)

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bitch go **** your mother you ****ing whore, you dnt know **** about me!!

 

Now what is name calling going to solve?

 

If it bothers you, you could always have the thread closed or stop replying. People are not trying to be harsh, but you did ask for about what you should do and if you were over reacting.

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Anyways, just come back here and tell us if there's anything good that your OVERREACTION and close-mindedness has brought to your relationship. Goodluck! :lmao:;)

Im far from closed mindnesses .

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Im far from closed mindnesses .

 

You are extremely close minded. to the point where anyone who tried to point out how controlling you are trying to be and how futile your attempt is bound to be, you resort to name calling.

 

Yes. You should move out and go back home to your parents until you can grow up and join the adult world.

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Honestly, you and he should probably save yourselves a lot of trouble and just break it off quickly and as cleanly as possible. Neither of you are capable of being what the other needs.

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You are extremely close minded. to the point where anyone who tried to point out how controlling you are trying to be and how futile your attempt is bound to be, you resort to name calling.

 

Yes. You should move out and go back home to your parents until you can grow up and join the adult world.

 

you obviously have an issue aganist MASTURBATION!!! get over it, seriously just cause your hubby does it an youa ccept it, dosen't mean I have to, Im FAR from controlling, stop assuming.

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you obviously have an issue aganist MASTURBATION!!! get over it, seriously just cause your hubby does it an youa ccept it, dosen't mean I have to, Im FAR from controlling, stop assuming.

LOL sucks to be you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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You are extremely close minded. to the point where anyone who tried to point out how controlling you are trying to be and how futile your attempt is bound to be, you resort to name calling.

 

Yes. You should move out and go back home to your parents until you can grow up and join the adult world.

HOW TH *UCK is getting your feelings hurt controlling?? your psycho!!!!!

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