Overeacting? Catching My Long Term BF Looking at Porn.

[JackJack]

LOL sucks to be you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

this is the second time I have seen this...why are you quoting the things YOU have said and replying back to them?

[blind_otter]

you obviously have an issue aganist MASTURBATION!!! get over it, seriously just cause your hubby does it an youa ccept it, dosen't mean I have to, Im FAR from controlling, stop assuming.

 

Actually, from what I'm reading you have an issue with masturbation - you do not accept it, and you attempt to control your partner by telling him he is not allowed to masturbate.

 

If you were not controlling, and did not have an issue with masturbation, then it would not bother you if he did it or not.

 

The fact that he hides his activities from you should be a huge sign that you are being overly controlling.

[Loxylox]

this is the second time I have seen this...why are you quoting the things YOU have said and replying back to them?

 

 

are you playing at club 54 tonight? cause its a waste of there time If you cannot give respectful opinions without going overboard, do not reply. Simple and plain. I don't see what your issues are. I guess its an internet thing, thus is why I do not take it personally.

[Loxylox]

Actually, from what I'm reading you have an issue with masturbation - you do not accept it, and you attempt to control your partner by telling him he is not allowed to masturbate.

 

If you were not controlling, and did not have an issue with masturbation, then it would not bother you if he did it or not.

 

The fact that he hides his activities from you should be a huge sign that you are being overly controlling.

 

LOL!!!!! its called RESPECT. you and your partner , I guess do not know what that means. I SAID WHAT I HAD TO SAY IN MY COMMENT. READ IT AGAIN & AGAIN.. maybe than you will understand!

[Loxylox]

LOL!!!!! its called RESPECT. you and your partner , I guess do not know what that means. I SAID WHAT I HAD TO SAY IN MY COMMENT. READ IT AGAIN & AGAIN.. maybe than you will understand!

 

 

Bunch of low life "boys" ganging up on me... lol how typical.. refer to my post !

[sally4sara]

you obviously have an issue aganist MASTURBATION!!! get over it, seriously just cause your hubby does it an youa ccept it, dosen't mean I have to, Im FAR from controlling, stop assuming.

I don't have an issue against masturbation; I do it too. Most healthy, normal and well adjusted people do. You are trying to control him into not doing something normal.

Who has issues with what now?

AHHH I won't accept it! I don't have to! Don't watch porn! Okay you can watch it so long as I can watch you! Stop assuming! You have issues. I have no issues! I don't I don't I don't! I don't care whats normal! I'll decide for him whats normal! But that doesn't mean I'M CONTROLLING!

 

Cripes!

[JackJack]

are you playing at club 54 tonight? cause its a waste of there time If you cannot give respectful opinions without going overboard, do not reply. Simple and plain. I don't see what your issues are. I guess its an internet thing, thus is why I do not take it personally.

 

WTF? Your reply made no sense at all. I asked a question...I didn't give an opinon.

[patientwife]

this is the second time I have seen this...why are you quoting the things YOU have said and replying back to them?

 

LOL you're right, I noticed that too! I told you she's got issues heh. I guess she's the only one who doesn't see that. Talk about denial. LOL

 

She was talking to herself. LOL It does suck to be her.

 

Ok I'm seeing this girl is either close-minded or just plain DUMB that doesn't understand what everyone is saying here.

 

Oh well, goodluck again! I hope your attitude will make your relationship last (which I highly doubt).

[blind_otter]

LOL!!!!! its called RESPECT. you and your partner , I guess do not know what that means. I SAID WHAT I HAD TO SAY IN MY COMMENT. READ IT AGAIN & AGAIN.. maybe than you will understand!

 

Why are you "laughing out loud"? You're obviously not very happy or amused.

 

I'm pretty sure I understand respect, since I respect my partner's right to his own body! What right do I have to tell him what he can and cannot do with his own penis?

[JackJack]

LOL you're right, I noticed that too! I told you she's got issues heh. I guess she's the only one who doesn't see that. Talk about denial. LOL

 

She was talking to herself. LOL It does suck to be her.

 

Ok I'm seeing this girl is either close-minded or just plain DUMB that doesn't understand what everyone is saying here.

 

Oh well, goodluck again! I hope your attitude will make your relationship last (which I highly doubt).

 

Whew...thank goodness someone esle sees it too.

 

Shes quoting the things SHE has said...and then replying back to them like shes upset at someone else , bet yet its her ownself she is taking it out on.

 

She replied to me asking if I was playing to club 54? WTF?

[patientwife]

She replied to me asking if I was playing to club 54? WTF?

 

Yep, i find her replies pretty DUMB too. Oh she just wants to TALK TALK and TALK without listening or even reflecting things to herself.

 

She doesn't make any sense at all, seriously.

 

Seems like a retard! LOL

[sally4sara]

The thing I don't get is that she comes on here with a thread title that asks our opinion about whether or not she is over reacting. Then when she is told by nigh everyone that YES, she is indeed over reacting, she freaks out about it.

 

Anyone want to take some bets as to how long it will be before we see a "Why did my BF call me controlling and dump me?" thread?

[JackJack]

The thing I don't get is that she comes on here with a thread title that asks our opinion about whether or not she is over reacting. Then when she is told by nigh everyone that YES, she is indeed over reacting, she freaks out about it.

 

Anyone want to take some bets as to how long it will be before we see a "Why did my BF call me controlling and dump me?" thread?

 

Maybe she was looking for others to side with her and justify how she was feeling on the whole thing. But you know, there are some people who don't like to be told the truth, and when they are they go to pieces.

[Loxylox]

The thing I don't get is that she comes on here with a thread title that asks our opinion about whether or not she is over reacting. Then when she is told by nigh everyone that YES, she is indeed over reacting, she freaks out about it.

 

Anyone want to take some bets as to how long it will be before we see a "Why did my BF call me controlling and dump me?" thread?

 

 

you cant bet me 1 millon dolllars if you'd like, if you even have it

[Art_Critic]

IMO your thread title says it all...

Overeacting? Catching My Long Term BF Looking at Porn.

 

You don't CATCH your BF watching porn.. that insinuates that him watching porn is a bad thing that he shouldn't be doing.

 

You walked up and saw that he was watching porn..

 

CATCH... what else are you going to try and CATCH him doing ?...

 

You both seem to play off each other's insecurities.. not a healthy way of interacting with your SO...

 

I would suggest that you speak more with him about it and discusses each other boundaries before you each CATCH another cheating.

[blind_otter]

Ladies and gentleman, we have officially entered....the twilight zone....

 

I hate it when people inappropriately use smiley in some lame attempt at sarcasm.

[Loxylox]

Maybe she was looking for others to side with her and justify how she was feeling on the whole thing. But you know, there are some people who don't like to be told the truth, and when they are they go to pieces.

 

 

justifying?? excuse me?? how is someone promising you and telling you that they love you,give you the right to turn aganist that and go behind your back?

[Fun2BMe]

what? I dont go behind his back and do things he dosen't want me too.. I don't understand why your attacking me? I do nothing to hurt him nor mis trust him.

 

I didn't mean to come across as attacking you, but I do think you are attacking your bf. What if YOU think eating junk food like a candy bar, is a no-no and YOU make your bf promise not to have any, even though it won't hurt anyone if he has it once a month or less. Then you catch him about to take a bite of a candy bar.

 

Do you own his body because you love him? Just because he agreed to something that doesn't harm you doesn't mean you have to turn it into a trust issue. If he was sneaking another girl into the house behind your back now that would be another issue, but I think the answer to your quesiton "Overreacting?" is "yes." Do you think so? What if you don't like the sound of the toilet flushing and you make him promise not to use the toilet while you're home but he does and just as he's about to flush the toilet you walk in on him... You have to put things in perspective. Maybe you can put parental control settings on his computer and on the television? Aren't the violent video games he plays on PS3 worse than a few seconds of porn he was going to use to get himself off with? Or is masterbation worse than blowing people off?

[Loxylox]

I didn't mean to come across as attacking you, but I do think you are attacking your bf. What if YOU think eating junk food like a candy bar, is a no-no and YOU make your bf promise not to have any, even though it won't hurt anyone if he has it once a month or less. Then you catch him about to take a bite of a candy bar.

 

Do you own his body because you love him? Just because he agreed to something that doesn't harm you doesn't mean you have to turn it into a trust issue. If he was sneaking another girl into the house behind your back now that would be another issue, but I think the answer to your quesiton "Overreacting?" is "yes." Do you think so? What if you don't like the sound of the toilet flushing and you make him promise not to use the toilet while you're home but he does and just as he's about to flush the toilet you walk in on him... You have to put things in perspective. Maybe you can put parental control settings on his computer and on the television? Aren't the violent video games he plays on PS3 worse than a few seconds of porn he was going to use to get himself off with? Or is masterbation worse than blowing people off?

what some of you are not understanding is that I would watch it with him than behind his back. PERIOD. its disrespectful.

[patientwife]

justifying?? excuse me?? how is someone promising you and telling you that they love you,give you the right to turn aganist that and go behind your back?

 

As I said, keep being what you are. Stand on your stupid beliefs. And NEVER EVER let your boyfriend masturbates because YOU made promise NOT to. Then come back here and tell us if that brings any good to your relationship or to any of your relationships in the future.

 

That's how you roll? Carry on! I guess you don't want any learning or any growing up to do. So, goodluck!

 

PS. Are you still expecting that your bf will apologize to you? And are you really expecting that your bf will NEVER EVER do it again in case you guys are getting back together? You need to have some reality check here girl.

[sally4sara]

you cant bet me 1 millon dolllars if you'd like, if you even have it

 

And these retorts.... they are like that of a nine year old. How old are you and what grade of education have you completed?

 

Loxy, we can't help you if you are unable to remain calm enough and open enough to consider what advise is given you. A relationship is about two people's happiness. The quickest way to ensure neither of you are happy is to start placing irrational restrictions on each other. You are manufacturing an unnatural circumstance that sets your BF up to fail by you. Your only real concern should be whether or not your NEEDS are met in this relationship. You don't NEED him to not masturbate and you don't NEED him to only watch porn with you if you are generally getting the amount of physical intimacy and sex that makes you happy.

[Fun2BMe]

what some of you are not understanding is that I would watch it with him than behind his back. PERIOD. its disrespectful.

 

But he obviously wanted to do it alone. Why do you have to be so controlling to the point he can only get off on it with you sitting next to me, which frankly is worse than letting him do his business on his own. Do you let him have lunch without your prsence or do you have to sit and watch him eat too. I mean some things people like to do alone sometimes and other times he can do with you, especially if it's something you don't have a problem with considering you say it's ok if he watches it with you. Why is it disrespectful??? I'd find it more disrespectful to watch him watching a naked women to get off on and would prefer he do it on his own if he wanted to instead of forcing him to have me watch him watch another woman every single time! That's very immature and controlling and over the top and shows how insecure you are. It doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive.

[sally4sara]

what some of you are not understanding is that I would watch it with him than behind his back. PERIOD. its disrespectful.

 

Here it is again.

You want it YOUR way PERIOD and declare anything less to be disrespectful. It is controlling to not allow for some compromise.

[Loxylox]

As I said, keep being what you are. Stand on your stupid beliefs. And NEVER EVER let your boyfriend masturbates because YOU made promise NOT to. Then come back here and tell us if that brings any good to your relationship or to any of your relationships in the future.

 

That's how you roll? Carry on! I guess you don't want any learning or any growing up to do. So, goodluck!

 

PS. Are you still expecting that your bf will apologize to you? And are you really expecting that your bf will NEVER EVER do it again in case you guys are getting back together? You need to have some reality check here girl.

The future brings? listen, Im sorryn your marriage sucks, but don't bring your crap on me, I am who I'am and you don't know. so move along!!! Im very happy with myself,my career as a lawyer etc. I don't need to hear you crap!

[Fun2BMe]

Some people keep porn running in the background cuz it's so not a big deal. If you were to go to take a shower, you'd make him turn it off because he can't watch a minute of it without you by his side like his mother? Weird. But your discomfort with it is also important so you do have to express how much it bothers you, and let him tell you upfront that if he can't keep his word to not watch it then it's going to cause a problem in your relationship. He can't promise not to do something just to keep things peaceful but go ahead and do it anyways - that's obviously wrong.