Does NC really send a msg? have regrets

[BackonTrack]

I've been doing NC about 5 months now. Initially I broke up with my ex but then she broke up with me so I think I got dumped.'

Around the end of month 4 I was pretty much healed.

 

I think I am suffering. It feels like a part of me is missing.

 

Our relationship never matured, sometimes I wonder if I was the rebound guy.

 

But sticking with the orginal topic of NC.

I don't know if it sends a message or not, I don't have enough experience in this department. I think all NC does is sends a message that you no longer care. Thats the worst feeling a person could show someone who loves them.

 

My EX truely didn't care & why should she?

She already had my replacement ready to go.

[selena_cat]

You and me are on the same NC timelength and I'm glad its helping you.

oh its so easy to try to break it, and email him articles, or send smoke signals but al it will do is tell him, hey you crapped on me and havent contacted me for months not even on my bday but hey i'm still here.

I feel for you too Back,it will take time to heal and more healing will come if you push forward like i am,but make sure you get out there, even if its not dating, (well it would be nice to do tht if you meet someone you really like!) hope youre keeping yourself busy like i am and go to greatconcerts,thats the best!

I went to an awesome gospel concert and i swore the spell of longing,pining was broken. You'l see,i do have good and bad days thats why i come here and help others too.

sometimes i wonder if NC did send him msg or if he cares,

i am very sure that even if exes doesnt contact us thats doesnt mean they forgot about us,things do catch up, lik e if they wronged you, i do believe in what goes around comes around. but from what i gather from No Contact s says, hey i like myself and wont stick around to settle for your crumbs or let you push me around so you dont want me, fine, see ya. hope you get this msg, Back!

[mscomplex]

Hey Selena_cat. Haven't checked in with you lately. I have been really keeping myself busy and staying away from home alot more than I had been lately. I am pleased to see that you are still hanging in there. I am personally proud of you because I have been there and know how hard it is. I just wanted to remind you again that you are making a good decision for yourself and will one day look back and say "who does he think he is? I am better than that." You will have moved on and will one day love again. Bottom line is, if he did come back now or contact you now but has not changed any or gotten help for that rotten attitude, he will return and do the same thing. Take comfort in knowing that he is somewhere wreaking havoc on someone else. I had an ex like that. He was so verbally mean and had an awful temper. All I kept saying was that I felt sorry for the girls he dated after me. Oh yes, he dated but they never lasted long enough. He would stay away and did not contact me because after the initial breakup he tried and I blocked him in every way. (this was before texting and e-mail was popular) He did find ways to let me know he was still around but showing up at my church every once in a while. I would go out of my way to avoid him. Based on what other people told me years later, he had not changed one bit. I thanked God helping me dodge that bullet and you do the same. 15 yrs later he is a distant memory. I think of him when someone says, hey what ever happened to ______? Anyway, you continue to hang in there and start making yourself more open to meeting new people. The 1st time you go out and turn a head or two you will again start to believe in life after an ex. Not saying you will not think of the ex from time to time but it will get easier. Take care and keep it up!

[BackonTrack]

My ex took my crap for very long time.

I was a nice guy and all but in the end she grew fed up & cheated on me with plans on leaving me.

 

I don't think her intention was to leave me but I think she fell in love with the OM. Eitherway, Its been 5+ months since the break. I woke up today thinking to myself "wow, my ex was having oral sex with the guy before she had sex with him" she even sad things like "cum on your face is good because it has protein", wow she was so stupid, then again she knew what she was doing.

 

What can I say now? Nothing really, it doesn't hurt anymore, I have good days & not so good days. The good days is starting to outnumber the bad and I am recovering slowly. Its still going to take me a couple more months to get over it.

 

For a relationship that was so short lived, I'm still not 100% over it. I have another few months to go. I don't even think about the ex calling or returning, she's not coming back. She shamed herself weather she admits it or not.

 

Me personally I shamed myself in the end, I still feel bad about my actions but what can I do, you live & learn. I don't know what kind of relationship we had, but its over now, seems so long ago yet the memories are still haunting me.

[selena_cat]

Ms. complex and Backontrack

first i'd like to say hi again ms. Complex,

nice to see you back , i myself try to keep away from the internet and keep busy whenever i can, but this site and you and everyone offering support has really helped,,so i cant help checking to see what you or others wrote.

i really appreciate your encouragemen! its nice to know there are people out there who are and have been through the same things, and they can offer some advice or two.

Last year i was a wreck knowing that he was with someone else,that he came clean and it hurts

so backontrack,

i totally undersatand how you feel wondring,ok what is he doing w/his new girl today,oh its Saturday i bet they are spending the weekend together,this was last year! And it was soo miserable knowing that they are w/someone else and not you.

so since i havent heard from him since early this year via his garbage email I still wonder if he's still with her and its true, he is most probably showing his true colors like he did to me and wreaking havoc

but many times i stuill imagine him crawling back to me and me telling him off

One Thing it Does get Better everyday,so its not such a pressing matter, part if me says good a$$riddance!.

So please dont be hard on yourself Back, relationships takes two peopleand while you understand your flaws, most probably she's (your ex) is no perfect angel either,sounds like she met this guy before she broke up w/youy sounds so typical.

Keep writng let me know how you are doing,

and to you too Ms complex, cheers girl!