taking time off from relationships to find oneself

[my body is a cage]

I want to do this but I am unsure how to go about it. How exactly does one do this?

[whichwayisup]

Just be honest and talk to your partner about what's going on inside you and that you need to have time to find "you" again.

[georgejungle]

Don't enter another relationship until you DO indeed

find yourself. It's not fair to you or the other person to

go in with a dirty kitchen so to speak.

 

I have no idea how to go about telling someone that you need to

"find yourself" because if i had to, i'd feel terrible giving

that as an excuse. The "I need to find myself" excuse for leaving

a relationship isn't a good excuse and usually results in resentment

from the other person. It can come off as selfish and it hurts the

other person

 

BUT, if you're asking how to find yourself once you're single again,

then i would just take the time to try new things on your own.

Nothing social really, social things usually lead to hanging out with

friends and then depending on where you are, you'll meet someone

again and then next thing you know you're dating someone...again.

 

I'd take the time to be alone for a while, try some self help books,

read, find some inner peace and really find out what truly makes

you happy.

 

Finding one's self (to me) usually means that youre scared you

havent done all you can for YOU. YOU haven't tried things or

done things for YOU. You're afraid to give your attention to

someone else because you haven't quite found your "thing" yet.

The thing that makes you happy in life.