kimba Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I was reading the thread "we agreed on casual sex, so" and "darkn romantic said the following in response to the thread (and I quote) Sex between most people is hardly casual. Even if we believe it is. There is ALWAYS feelings involved. I don't believe that people who hook up for casual sex on a regular basis have feelings. If they are just hooking up for sex, even if they do it regularly and over many months, I still dont believe there are feelings. Men just view it as sex. as a "transaction' Does anyone agree with me? Or disagree? Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I've never done it, to be honest. Unless I'm really interested in a girl, I really don't want to have sex with her. There are women I really dig, and the rest are like my sister. Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 There is only one kind of male sex toy. It's a silicone hole. Simple, but effective. That's all the guy needs. A hole. If it's warm, it's a plus. I rest my case. Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 There is only one kind of male sex toy. It's a silicone hole. Simple, but effective. That's all the guy needs. A hole. If it's warm, it's a plus. I rest my case. Charming. You restore women's faith in men the world over. Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Charming. You restore women's faith in men the world over. Okay, I take that back. There must be some kind of nut tickler out there, even if it's only a prototype. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedGirl Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Sex for women is almost never causal. Sex for men is different. They are better at separating the two. I know that when I'm strongly sexually attracted to someone(as a woman), there are always other feelings involved. I have gone through years of heartbreak thinking that it's the same for men. I have since learned that men can be really attracted to me physically while not giving a s%it about me as a person . Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Okay, I take that back. There must be some kind of nut tickler out there, even if it's only a prototype. Well, I feel so much better now. I was getting concerned about your limited options. I like the pic of the heart cup, though. Kinda misleading coming from a 'plastic hole' kinda guy, huh? Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Sex for women is almost never causal. Sex for men is different. They are better at separating the two. I know that when I'm strongly sexually attracted to someone(as a woman), there are always other feelings involved. I have gone through years of heartbreak thinking that it's the same for men. I have since learned that men can be really attracted to me physically while not giving a s%it about me as a person . I've always had the opposite problem - I can't get rid of them. This is why I learned that I need to get to know a person before hopping in the sack with them. Did you know that it's a scientific fact that women produce a chemical that causes us to become attached to the person we sleep with? This is why it's so hard for women to have the proverbial casual relationship. We are genetically geared to become attached. As I once read, "women think clearly before sex, men think clearly after sex." Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 there's a difference between 'casual' and 'mechanical'....I guess....? Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 there's a difference between 'casual' and 'mechanical'....I guess....? Absolutely. Mechanical implies the relentless pursuit of perfection, whereas casual is just something one does to fill in the time until their favourite TV program comes on. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 do you think Prostitutes are in "the relentless pursuit of perfection...." ? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Sex for women is almost never causal. Sex for men is different. They are better at separating the two. I know that when I'm strongly sexually attracted to someone(as a woman), there are always other feelings involved. I have gone through years of heartbreak thinking that it's the same for men. I have since learned that men can be really attracted to me physically while not giving a s%it about me as a person . I agree with this, sans heartbreak. If I get the feeling they're only looking for sex, I'm gone. This doesn't mean I haven't been fooled before. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kimba Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 There is only one kind of male sex toy. It's a silicone hole. Simple, but effective. That's all the guy needs. A hole. If it's warm, it's a plus. I rest my case. This is how I think men view casual sex. i dont think they have any feelings at all for the woman. Ofcourse this is the case in one night stands, but also the case in casual hookups that are regular with the same person for many months. Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 do you think Prostitutes are in "the relentless pursuit of perfection...." ? It's the lucky ones that get paid for doing something they love. For the rest of us, it's a bit of a grind. Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 This is how I think men view casual sex. i dont think they have any feelings at all for the woman. I think I know what you're saying. Still, I would hate it if I lost my silicone hole. I might even cry. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Did you know that it's a scientific fact that women produce a chemical that causes us to become attached to the person we sleep with? This is why it's so hard for women to have the proverbial casual relationship. We are genetically geared to become attached. As I once read, "women think clearly before sex, men think clearly after sex." I didn't know this but have personally experienced strong bonding when sleeping with someone. It's why I can't have casual sex unless I'm convinced that my partner is wanting me as an entire person v. superficial lust. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 I think women are capable of one night, or maybe a few nights, of casual sex without attachment, but no more than that. Men could probably do it forever if she let him. Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 One shouldn't have to dress up every time they want to have sex. Casual sex isn't necessarily lowering one's standards. Link to post Share on other sites
Peter_pan Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Okay, I take that back. There must be some kind of nut tickler out there, even if it's only a prototype. you joker. you make me crack up so much Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 I was reading the thread "we agreed on casual sex, so" and "darkn romantic said the following in response to the thread (and I quote) Sex between most people is hardly casual. Even if we believe it is. There is ALWAYS feelings involved. I don't believe that people who hook up for casual sex on a regular basis have feelings. If they are just hooking up for sex, even if they do it regularly and over many months, I still dont believe there are feelings. Men just view it as sex. as a "transaction' Does anyone agree with me? Or disagree? Yes I totally agree with you.. women AND men can have casual sex with NO feelings involved.. of course... it's nonsense to think that we ALWAYS have feelings EVERY single time with EVERY partner... Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 I've always had the opposite problem - I can't get rid of them. This is why I learned that I need to get to know a person before hopping in the sack with them. Did you know that it's a scientific fact that women produce a chemical that causes us to become attached to the person we sleep with? This is why it's so hard for women to have the proverbial casual relationship. We are genetically geared to become attached. As I once read, "women think clearly before sex, men think clearly after sex." I didn't know this but have personally experienced strong bonding when sleeping with someone. It's why I can't have casual sex unless I'm convinced that my partner is wanting me as an entire person v. superficial lust. It was BO that educated me on this one. The chemical is Oxytocin. http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/modern-love-8/biology-of-love?page=3 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytocin Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 It was BO that educated me on this one. The chemical is Oxytocin. http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/modern-love-8/biology-of-love?page=3 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytocin I knew that Oxytocin messed you up but didn't realize it was the bonding culprit!! Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 One shouldn't have to dress up every time they want to have sex. Casual sex isn't necessarily lowering one's standards. I prefer 'business casual' sex myself. It can be had during those long, boring meetings. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 No.... Men are from Earth, Women are from Earth. Get over it. (I wish that was my quotation, but it isn't...!) Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I prefer 'business casual' sex myself. It can be had during those long, boring meetings. Absolutely. I love to be lengthily bored during a meeting. And my position can change many times during the session. Link to post Share on other sites
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