Brady_to_Moss Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 What are good ways to flirt by touching her? Link to post Share on other sites
thebrunette Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I think women can get away with touching men in flirting more than men can by touching women. I'm not saying that's right 100% of the time though. How well do you know her, because if it's not that well she may feel as though you are invading her space and that will make her wary. A good no-contact way until things get going is eye contact and coy smiles. I don't like it when guys I don't know very well touch me, even if it's just a casual touch. If however she is a friend that you like then you could tell a joke and brush her arm whilst laughing, and gage a reaction. Don't touch her face or hair. Subtle and respecting boundaries goes a long way. Link to post Share on other sites
KinAZ Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I think how you do what and why depends on the setting, and what you're going for. There's the guy at the check out who touches your hand (obviously on purpose) when he takes the money from you or something. If you can't tell that she's interested, you might not want to go for that, or you'll just creep her out. To me, the attraction and flirtation has to be obviously mutual before attempting something like that successfully. Flirtatious touch isn't always what I would call playful. Flirtatious touch is putting your hands (usually) on someone when it's not necessary. You're holding the door open for a friend, and put your hand lightly on her back as she walks through the door. Touching someone's arm when you talk to them, or even touching to get their attention and say hello. Like if you're approaching from behind or the side and you touch the person on the back or arm (lightly). It's usually very subtle, and the person probably won't make anything of it the first time. But, once you've done it two or three times, they may make something of it, and act accordingly. Move away or show discomfort, or they may start touching back or otherwise flirting. Don't keep your hand on the person though, as it may seem creepy. It's like the three second eye gaze, too long and it just becomes weird. It's just a light touch, just to make physical contact. They may lightly brush against you when close to one another or as they pass. (Her arm brushes your arm, etc.) That sort of thing... Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I think women can get away with touching men in flirting more than men can by touching women. I'm not saying that's right 100% of the time though. How well do you know her, because if it's not that well she may feel as though you are invading her space and that will make her wary. A good no-contact way until things get going is eye contact and coy smiles. I don't like it when guys I don't know very well touch me, even if it's just a casual touch. If however she is a friend that you like then you could tell a joke and brush her arm whilst laughing, and gage a reaction. Don't touch her face or hair. Subtle and respecting boundaries goes a long way. I totally agree. I wouldn't touch her at all unless you already have a long-standing friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
KinAZ Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 LOL, yeah... I should have been more clear. If you touch a stranger on the back to say hello, she'll make something of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Yup, another one for not touching a girl unless she's initiated physical contact first or you're on a date. Link to post Share on other sites
thebrunette Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I think if you gave us more backstory we might be able to help you more on other ways to interact with the girl you like . Link to post Share on other sites
JP77 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Go behind her and squeez her peachy butt and then ask her to dance to some Justin Timberlake. Link to post Share on other sites
KinAZ Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I'm going to slightly disagree with some things here, but of course, everyone is different. If I made eye contact with a guy, and we exchanged flirtatious smiles or something, I would not be put off if he came over and touched my arm to get my attention. But if a stranger held the door open for me, and touched my back or shoulder to usher me in, that might weird me out even if I smiled at him previously. Girls can probably get away with it better than guys can, but I don't think there's any harm in a light half second arm touch. The cute guy at the store, while the hand thing was a little forward (but I think he was just trying to see if I would giggle), when he touched my shoulder to walk around me while helping me out, it did solidify for me that the eye contact and cheesy smile from him were flirtation, and not just your regular customer service. Link to post Share on other sites
thebrunette Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 ^ I agree that touching someone to get their attention is fine, especially if it's a noisy environment such as a club or something. Link to post Share on other sites
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