foxh1234 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Hi folks. About 2 hours ago my cell phone rang and I was busy and couldn't get to it. I looked at it 20 minutes later and it was a missed call from my ex. No voicemail. I did not call her back. 10 minutes ago I receive an email from her saying how she misses me and cannot stand not being in contact with me. It has been around a month of total NC ( I am not keeping count anymore) I should have just deleted it instead of reading it. Anyway, I deleted it and will not respond. She cheated, told me she wasn't in love with me anymore, has a new BF, moved in with him, so why the f**k contact me ? I will never understand this woman. It really doesn't matter because I WILL NOT CONTACT HER OR REPLY TO HER CONTACT. After the things she has done to me, just go away and leave me alone. Thanks to everyone here for giving me the advice and strength to not reply to her and remain NC. I must admit that I am quite happy with myself right now. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 If you ex already has another, continue NC. If you need to, have a friend screen your voicemails and delete those from her. It seems like you are moving forward and doing fine without her or needing help from another friend to screen the voicemails. You're doing fine! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Gotta' love turnaround!! You go fox!! Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Hi folks. About 2 hours ago my cell phone rang and I was busy and couldn't get to it. I looked at it 20 minutes later and it was a missed call from my ex. No voicemail. I did not call her back. 10 minutes ago I receive an email from her saying how she misses me and cannot stand not being in contact with me. It has been around a month of total NC ( I am not keeping count anymore) I should have just deleted it instead of reading it. Anyway, I deleted it and will not respond. She cheated, told me she wasn't in love with me anymore, has a new BF, moved in with him, so why the f**k contact me ? I will never understand this woman. It really doesn't matter because I WILL NOT CONTACT HER OR REPLY TO HER CONTACT. After the things she has done to me, just go away and leave me alone. Thanks to everyone here for giving me the advice and strength to not reply to her and remain NC. I must admit that I am quite happy with myself right now. The games are on!!!! Man I know you are seriously perplexed by this!!! I know I would be, but it is really good you are good with you!!! Not sure if you want her back or not, but make her work like she is building Rome!!!! I would so love to be in your shoes right now!! Not for the confusing matter of it, but for the gain of lost power!! Stay strong my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Hi folks. About 2 hours ago my cell phone rang and I was busy and couldn't get to it. I looked at it 20 minutes later and it was a missed call from my ex. No voicemail. I did not call her back. 10 minutes ago I receive an email from her saying how she misses me and cannot stand not being in contact with me. It has been around a month of total NC ( I am not keeping count anymore) I should have just deleted it instead of reading it. Anyway, I deleted it and will not respond. She cheated, told me she wasn't in love with me anymore, has a new BF, moved in with him, so why the f**k contact me ? I will never understand this woman. It really doesn't matter because I WILL NOT CONTACT HER OR REPLY TO HER CONTACT. After the things she has done to me, just go away and leave me alone. Thanks to everyone here for giving me the advice and strength to not reply to her and remain NC. I must admit that I am quite happy with myself right now. Good man for not replying. She's obviously fishing for attention. She sounds like a bad person, and not someone you want in your life. Keep it up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 The games are on!!!! Man I know you are seriously perplexed by this!!! I know I would be, but it is really good you are good with you!!! Not sure if you want her back or not, but make her work like she is building Rome!!!! I would so love to be in your shoes right now!! Not for the confusing matter of it, but for the gain of lost power!! Stay strong my friend. I do not, I repeat DO NOT want her back. I just don't understand why she would bother to contact me when she has a BF. I think she will try and contact me a few times and then get the message. I will not respond in any way to her ever again. As soon as she had sex with another man, she lost me forever. I mean that with every fiber of my being. See ya, wouldn't want to be ya. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Just spit in her face and laugh! lol. Naw I'm J/k. really I am. the best thing you could do is ignore her she isnt worth your time. She made your choice. and she has to deal with it. Why dont she tell the boyfriend how much she's missing you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 Gotta' love turnaround!! You go fox!! Thanks TBF, I am a little confused by her, but I feel really good. I know deep down that she is just trying to manipulate me. I just want to keep moving forward and hopefully she will not continue to contact me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 If you ex already has another, continue NC. If you need to, have a friend screen your voicemails and delete those from her. It seems like you are moving forward and doing fine without her or needing help from another friend to screen the voicemails. You're doing fine! Thanks jerbear, I do feel fine today. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Thanks TBF, I am a little confused by her, but I feel really good. I know deep down that she is just trying to manipulate me. I just want to keep moving forward and hopefully she will not continue to contact me. Don't be confused. She's pulling the ego-stroking stunt of juggling men, rubberbanding back and forth. She cheated on you and now she wants to cheat on the new guy. I'm so glad you're moving on. This woman is bad, bad news! Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 Good man for not replying. She's obviously fishing for attention. She sounds like a bad person, and not someone you want in your life. Keep it up. I guess the new man isn't showing her enough attention.:laugh: I will keep it up, don't worry. :D Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 Don't be confused. She's pulling the ego-stroking stunt of juggling men, rubberbanding back and forth. She cheated on you and now she wants to cheat on the new guy. I'm so glad you're moving on. This woman is bad, bad news! What's so incredible to me is how quickly someone can change. If you had told me at Christmas that all of this would have happened, I would have called you crazy and bet my house against it. I have learned alot about people in the last 5 months. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Do yourself a favour - Block her email address, this way you won't even be tempted to read the crap she emails you. Link to post Share on other sites
tealeafbud Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Hi fox, may I recommend a nickname for you? How does Superman sound? Do you like it? I think it fits you because you are so tremendously strong for ignoring her that you deserve a powerful nickname. Seriously, I envy you for ignoring her and having the attitude that you have. You're very inspiring to some of us that constantly battle NC and battle those remnant feelings we have for our ex's and either answer our ex's, reply to them, or initiate contact. Keep it up man. Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 What's so incredible to me is how quickly someone can change. If you had told me at Christmas that all of this would have happened, I would have called you crazy and bet my house against it. I have learned alot about people in the last 5 months. It is quite amazing how things can change in only a few months, isn't it? A lot of people are ultimately selfish, not seeing the big picture and it's only when they've made their new bed and lay in it a while, they realize it's not as comfortable as they'd imagined. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 Hi fox, may I recommend a nickname for you? How does Superman sound? Do you like it? I think it fits you because you are so tremendously strong for ignoring her that you deserve a powerful nickname. Seriously, I envy you for ignoring her and having the attitude that you have. You're very inspiring to some of us that constantly battle NC and battle those remnant feelings we have for our ex's and either answer our ex's, reply to them, or initiate contact. Keep it up man. Hi Tea, thanks for the kind words but I am no stronger than any of you. I have just chosen to put her behind me and move on. Once it sunk in my head that she lied, cheated, disrespected me and continued to play games with me, it became alot easier to forget her and ignore any contact. I also know she is just trying to screw with me for her own selfish reasons. I will not reply because it would help her and hurt me. I have also become selfish during this crazy situation, I am looking after number 1 from now on because looking after and caring for her got me nowhere. We all have to take car of OURSELVES and forget about the ex's. They sure as hell don't worry about us, or at least mine doesn't. I say screw her and her new man. He is going to be in for quite a relationship with this chick.:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 It is quite amazing how things can change in only a few months, isn't it? A lot of people are ultimately selfish, not seeing the big picture and it's only when they've made their new bed and lay in it a while, they realize it's not as comfortable as they'd imagined. You are right north. I think my ex might just be starting to realize I'm really gone and I won't be coming back. I use to wait for her to reply to my pathetic emails and calls and when she didn't I would be crushed. For once, she knows how it feels. I kinda like that . She deserves everything she gets for what she did. Link to post Share on other sites
wareagle Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Proud of you Fox!! Stay strong my friend! Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 Proud of you Fox!! Stay strong my friend! Thanks alot war, I must say, I feel pretty damn good today. Link to post Share on other sites
justaman99 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I do not, I repeat DO NOT want her back. I just don't understand why she would bother to contact me when she has a BF. The other dude isn't working out. There are things in him that aren't working for her and are quite possibly qualities that you had with her in the relationship. Maybe she's getting bored. Maybe she regrets what she did. Maybe you were better in the sack. Maybe the other guy is bored with her. It's gotta be something right? Either way she's being extremely selfish. Her cheating on you was all about her and her contacting you now is all about her. -Just Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 The other dude isn't working out. There are things in him that aren't working for her and are quite possibly qualities that you had with her in the relationship. Maybe she's getting bored. Maybe she regrets what she did. Maybe you were better in the sack. Maybe the other guy is bored with her. It's gotta be something right? Either way she's being extremely selfish. Her cheating on you was all about her and her contacting you now is all about her. -Just Well said just, that is exactly why I will never respond. I just want her to do her thing and leave me to do mine. Simple as that. Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 The other dude isn't working out. There are things in him that aren't working for her and are quite possibly qualities that you had with her in the relationship. Maybe she's getting bored. Maybe she regrets what she did. Maybe you were better in the sack. Maybe the other guy is bored with her. It's gotta be something right? Either way she's being extremely selfish. Her cheating on you was all about her and her contacting you now is all about her. -Just "We pursue that which retreats from us" - Tao of Steve Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 "We pursue that which retreats from us" - Tao of Steve The only problem is I don't want her to pursue anymore. 2 months ago I probably would have taken her back and really f**ked myself. Now that my head is clear and I see her for who she is NOW, I want nothing more to do with her. I really mean that folks. People say it all the time, but I really mean it and it feels good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 The other dude isn't working out. There are things in him that aren't working for her and are quite possibly qualities that you had with her in the relationship. Maybe she's getting bored. Maybe she regrets what she did. Maybe you were better in the sack. Maybe the other guy is bored with her. It's gotta be something right? Either way she's being extremely selfish. Her cheating on you was all about her and her contacting you now is all about her. -Just I was pretty good in the sack. Link to post Share on other sites
sunshinegirl Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Fox, do you find that the contact itself puts you in a different mental space? A regaining of power, a restoration of your ego, anything like that? I would love to hear from my ex just for the above reasons - at this point, not to take him back. But he's probably too prideful to ever knock on my door if/when things with the hooch go to hell. Link to post Share on other sites
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