serendip Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Hi folks, she emailed me again late last night. This is the 3rd email along with 2 phone calls. I might have made a mistake but I responded this time and said. Please don't email or call me again. We are done and I don't want you in my life in any capacity, friend or lover.You made the decision, now live with it. Goodbye. This was the hardest thing I have done in a long time. I just don't want to think about her or this break up anymore. This should be the end. She won't contact me again. I feel OK this morning but I still have her in my head. Did I make a mistake ? I think the hardest thing is letting go Fox...I still have trouble with it. But we both have to let go...life is too precious to waste. I still deal with sadness and pain...the sadness for what we had....and the pain of what she did. Funny thing is...some days I still can't believe that she actually did the things she did...this after a year All we can do is move on and find the right people for us. Link to post Share on other sites
foolednm Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 "We pursue that which retreats from us" - Tao of Steve Dude!! NO one I know knows about the Tao of Steve!! What a great movie!! I'm glad to see someone else has seen and appreciated a great, funny relationship movie as this one! This made my day!! I am still trying to get over my ex bitch, and she moved on and is screwing a new guy and staying at his place every weekend. I am trying to be strong like you guys and not look back. You are right, once they sleep with someone else, it's over. Done. Damaged goods. Tainted P*ssy. No longer sacred or special. It has been forever stained and is now toxic. Stay away from the exes, there is no good to come from trying to get them back. Link to post Share on other sites
sunshinegirl Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Fox, I am very impressed with you. And envious that you've gotten such clear evidence of her crumminess via the contact. Stay strong. You are doing soooo great!! Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Hi folks. About 2 hours ago my cell phone rang and I was busy and couldn't get to it. I looked at it 20 minutes later and it was a missed call from my ex. No voicemail. I did not call her back. 10 minutes ago I receive an email from her saying how she misses me and cannot stand not being in contact with me. It has been around a month of total NC ( I am not keeping count anymore) I should have just deleted it instead of reading it. Anyway, I deleted it and will not respond. Good...she does not deserve a response. I'd change emails so she further gets the hint. She cheated, told me she wasn't in love with me anymore, has a new BF, moved in with him, so why the f**k contact me ? Actually, does the bf have an email and do you know it? If so, forward the email to him. Or print it out and mail it to him. Or better yet, catch him out sometime, give him the printed out email and say, "tell your gf to leave me alone". Oh then the sparks will fly when he gets her back home! I will never understand this woman. Nothing to understand about cheaters except they are selfish cake eaters. You are a cake she can't have any longer. So she wants you. She wants to know if she still has power over you and can wrap you around her little finger any time she wants. It really doesn't matter because I WILL NOT CONTACT HER OR REPLY TO HER CONTACT. After the things she has done to me, just go away and leave me alone. Thanks to everyone here for giving me the advice and strength to not reply to her and remain NC. I must admit that I am quite happy with myself right now. Good for you. But I'd still consider giving her bf a copy of any email she sends you telling you how much she misses you. And highlight the date so he knows that it was sent while she is with him. Link to post Share on other sites
serendip Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Good for you. But I'd still consider giving her bf a copy of any email she sends you telling you how much she misses you. And highlight the date so he knows that it was sent while she is with him. Why create more drama and get caught up in a cycle of BS? Fox is not YYY Plus...revenge is something he might regret down the road Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Why create more drama and get caught up in a cycle of BS? Same thing happened to me. An X that cheated on me long ago sent me a letter by regular mail because my grandfather died. She sent it to me as a married woman. She told me in the letter that she wished things would have turned out different for me and her, even though she was the one that cheated. She told me she wished I was the one that she married(talk about disrespect to her H). First of all, I resented the fact that she used my grandfather's death as an excuse to contact me when she knew I wanted nothing to do with her. She then sent a 2nd letter when I did not respond to the first. So I put the letters in an envelope, addressed it to her husband and presto!!! She never bothered me again. The same situation goes here. She won't leave him alone and she is disrespecting her current boyfriend in the process. The BF deserves to know. Plus...revenge is something he might regret down the road Like what? he doesn't want anything to do with her. You can't burn a bridge that has already been burned down. Link to post Share on other sites
serendip Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Like what? he doesn't want anything to do with her. You can't burn a bridge that has already been burned down. I'm not talking about Fox getting back together with her...it's dead. I'm talking about Fox stooping to her level...to intentionally hurt her...it will get to you if you are a good person. Fox already has his revenge...she wants him back, he denied her and for the rest of her life...she doesn't get to be with him. That's revenge...to lose the person you want to be with...that's a harsh revenge. Imagine the guilt and pain she must feel now...realizing what she did. And as for her boyfriend...she might not even be with him anymore...but if she is...that's their business. If she cheats on him...he will find out sooner or later. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 Thanks alot folks for the kind words and encouragement. I really do appreciate all of you, more than you know. It has been so much easier getting through this thing with all of you by my side. It has been a god send to find this site. I already deleted all the emails from her before I could do anything with them. I don't know about sending them to the BF, but if I had them sitting around I might have thought about it,lol. I do feel pretty good today, it feels like it is really over now. There is no doubt in my mind anymore and there is no going back. I don't hate her, though I probably should, I just don't really feel anything towards her,just kind of numb I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I'm not talking about Fox getting back together with her...it's dead. I'm talking about Fox stooping to her level...to intentionally hurt her...it will get to you if you are a good person. It wouldn't be to intentionally hurt her. It would be a message for her to leave him alone and a warning to her bf that doesn't know she is going behind his back to profess her feelings for him. Fox already has his revenge...she wants him back, he denied her and for the rest of her life...she doesn't get to be with him. That's revenge...to lose the person you want to be with...that's a harsh revenge. Imagine the guilt and pain she must feel now...realizing what she did. I agree 100% there. That is the best revenge. But her new bf still deserves to be warned. Unless he was the guy that she cheated on him with and he knew it and didn't care. Then to hell with him. He gets what he deserves. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Thanks alot folks for the kind words and encouragement. I really do appreciate all of you, more than you know. It has been so much easier getting through this thing with all of you by my side. It has been a god send to find this site. I already deleted all the emails from her before I could do anything with them. I don't know about sending them to the BF, but if I had them sitting around I might have thought about it,lol. I do feel pretty good today, it feels like it is really over now. There is no doubt in my mind anymore and there is no going back. I don't hate her, though I probably should, I just don't really feel anything towards her,just kind of numb I guess. Well I do like serendip's comment that you have gotten the best revenge already. She wants you and can't have you. Maybe the next time she calls just tell her to #$%# off and leave you alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 It wouldn't be to intentionally hurt her. It would be a message for her to leave him alone and a warning to her bf that doesn't know she is going behind his back to profess her feelings for him. I agree 100% there. That is the best revenge. But her new bf still deserves to be warned. Unless he was the guy that she cheated on him with and he knew it and didn't care. Then to hell with him. He gets what he deserves. He was the guy she cheated on me with. I feel my best revenge will be to sit back and watch her do the same thing to him. :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 Fox, I am very impressed with you. And envious that you've gotten such clear evidence of her crumminess via the contact. Stay strong. You are doing soooo great!! Thanks alot SSG, I feel great today. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 Well I do like serendip's comment that you have gotten the best revenge already. She wants you and can't have you. Maybe the next time she calls just tell her to #$%# off and leave you alone. Hi bish, I will use those exact words if she calls me again. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Fox, any time she emails or calls you, you need only come back to the first post you made here about your "cheating ex" to be reminded of the hurt she caused. That alone should be enough to keep you in check should you ever feel the desire to talk to her.... Cheers mate and HANG IN THERE! Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 Fox, any time she emails or calls you, you need only come back to the first post you made here about your "cheating ex" to be reminded of the hurt she caused. That alone should be enough to keep you in check should you ever feel the desire to talk to her.... Cheers mate and HANG IN THERE! Thanks alot CG, I have read all your posts and have learned alot from them. This place has helped me so much. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Thanks alot CG, I have read all your posts and have learned alot from them. This place has helped me so much. You're welcome. I too am the "victim" of a cheater so I can relate to what you are going through. I don't want anything to do with my ex. She made the choices she made, therefore she has to live with the consequences. One of them is to never have access to me or my life again (which is why I don't want her on my web site). I think you did the right thing by telling her off. Nothing says "I don't love you" like cheating does. It's a loud and clear rejection. I don't see anything wrong with you making it perfectly clear that she is not welcome in your life anymore. Chin up, mate. Someone better will come along soon Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 He was the guy she cheated on me with. I feel my best revenge will be to sit back and watch her do the same thing to him. :laugh: Yes, knowing that he was the one she cheated with, then to hell with the both of them. Don't answer her at all and let her cheat on him. they deserve each other and you deserve to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Share Posted July 16, 2008 Yes, knowing that he was the one she cheated with, then to hell with the both of them. Don't answer her at all and let her cheat on him. they deserve each other and you deserve to move on. Thanks bish, your right, they deserve each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Share Posted July 16, 2008 You're welcome. I too am the "victim" of a cheater so I can relate to what you are going through. I don't want anything to do with my ex. She made the choices she made, therefore she has to live with the consequences. One of them is to never have access to me or my life again (which is why I don't want her on my web site). I think you did the right thing by telling her off. Nothing says "I don't love you" like cheating does. It's a loud and clear rejection. I don't see anything wrong with you making it perfectly clear that she is not welcome in your life anymore. Chin up, mate. Someone better will come along soon Thanks CG, I'm going on a date in about an hour so maybe the someone better is coming along sooner than I thought. Wish me luck!! Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Great stuff! This thread put a smile on my face. Stick to your guns and kick ass. Link to post Share on other sites
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