A L E X Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Hey guy i just joined the forums and this is my 1st post. I am a 10th grader in high school and I cant manage to get a girlfriend. And im not sure why. So heres some information so you guys can give me some advice. Uhh first off i go to an all guys school. Not cool but it has its upsides. that makes it kind of difficult to meet girls. I do see then enough that i could have a girlfriend. Many of the guys in my class have girlfriends. I play three sports. Football lacrosse and wrestling. Im good too, not just a bench warmer. I play varsity in all 3 sports and i won the city wrestling tournament. I dont understand i thought girls liked athletic guys. Another thing is that I am always the funny guy on my sports teams and when im at parties and stuff. I get put into the "friend zone" alot because of that. It may just take time, but id like to find a girlfriend. I'm not that bad looking (I dont think) im like 6'0 and weigh like 230. Im on the bigger side but gimme a break i play 3 sports with no breaks in between some of it has to be muscle. Well thats all i got to say. Any help is appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
AcidDJx Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Hey man. I know what you mean. Scope out a girl or two that you think you'd like to date, and focus on liking them for while. Talk to them for a little bit here and there, and then ask them if they'd like to hang out with you. Focusing on one girl for a short (or long) period of time does pay off. Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Don't try to figure out what they're looking for. Look for the one who's looking for you. Seriously, no two are looking for the exact same thing, and they're all complicated. Don't try to figure them out, just appreciate them, they're magic. If they're smiling, you're doing something right. If you move into their "space" and they don't move away, you're doing something right. Link to post Share on other sites
confused and broken Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Hey guy i just joined the forums and this is my 1st post. I am a 10th grader in high school and I cant manage to get a girlfriend. And im not sure why. So heres some information so you guys can give me some advice. Uhh first off i go to an all guys school. Not cool but it has its upsides. that makes it kind of difficult to meet girls. I do see then enough that i could have a girlfriend. Many of the guys in my class have girlfriends. I play three sports. Football lacrosse and wrestling. Im good too, not just a bench warmer. I play varsity in all 3 sports and i won the city wrestling tournament. I dont understand i thought girls liked athletic guys. Another thing is that I am always the funny guy on my sports teams and when im at parties and stuff. I get put into the "friend zone" alot because of that. It may just take time, but id like to find a girlfriend. I'm not that bad looking (I dont think) im like 6'0 and weigh like 230. Im on the bigger side but gimme a break i play 3 sports with no breaks in between some of it has to be muscle. Well thats all i got to say. Any help is appreciated. Have you tried asking any of them if they would like to hang out??? Friends is a good first step... I'm just curious have you asked any of them to a movie anything...have you been rejected??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author A L E X Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 Ive asked them to movies and stuff and never been rejected just not really sure how to move to the next step. Im friends with all of them just no sure what to say past that Link to post Share on other sites
Keridan Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 How about "wanna make out?" :-P Usually, moving past friendship is just a matter of getting up the courage and making the move. You have to let them know you are interested, not be coy. Just plain ask them out. Don't make it sound like it just might be friends hanging out. It sounds like you get on just fine with these women and you are all set to get with them. You just have to throw it on the line and take a chance. The worst that can happen is you go back to being friends and wait till the next hottie gives you an opening. You can't be vague. Don't attack them or chase them continously. Be willing to accept no. But other than that, you have to be clear about it. Good luck, man! I know how ya feel, but it gets easier with each attempt. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 girls will tell you all the time that they want a caring man, sensitive, nice guy...blah blah blah...yadda yadda yadda. Whether they want to admit it or not, as evidenced by women and their preferences for bad boys, there really is only one requirement......good looks. Link to post Share on other sites
Keridan Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 girls will tell you all the time that they want a caring man, sensitive, nice guy...blah blah blah...yadda yadda yadda. Whether they want to admit it or not, as evidenced by women and their preferences for bad boys, there really is only one requirement......good looks. Not always true! Sometimes they want money, other times they want the friend of that hot guy (for an introduction) and there's always a nice car! Bah, these are just stereotypes. I know some mad ugly guys that have all the personality in the world and they get a good hook-up. It depends on the woman and how you play the flirting game. You can't just group them together. That really isn't the key to getting laid anyway Girls don't seem to be huge fans of the stereotype thing. Link to post Share on other sites
JP77 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Women like a fat penis and an even fatter wallet. Link to post Share on other sites
confused and broken Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Ive asked them to movies and stuff and never been rejected just not really sure how to move to the next step. Im friends with all of them just no sure what to say past that Ok so the TRUTH is that the ball is in your court... "What are girls looking for?"... How about a guy with enough courage to pursue them and ask them out... So here is how it goes... find a girl that you dig...(one that seems responsive.. for example is your friend and goes to movies with you) then start pursuing her... keep asking her to do things with you regularly... tell her she looks hot... pay for her movie... call her...and then after you are regularly seeing her...tell her that you really like her and want to be her boyfriend... Link to post Share on other sites
Author A L E X Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 thanks for all the help guys and girls Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 thanks for all the help guys and girls most of them were guys Link to post Share on other sites
confused and broken Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 thanks for all the help guys and girls No problem let us know how it goes and ask questions along the way... and we can help you out with anything that may come up Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 You sound like an absolute doll, to me, so I don't know why you don't have a girlfriend. I'd just like to correct one thing, though - guys who are funny are not put in the friend zone because of that. Humor is one of the biggest turn-ons for girls. So, again, I don't get it. Something else must be going on but I don't know what it is. What happens if you meet someone you're interested in? Do you approach her and talk? Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 You lack success because you lack confidence in yourself ~ you lack confidence in yourself ~ because you lack experinece. You'll gain confidence once you've gained experience. The more experience you gain, the more confidence you'll gain. IN the beginning you'll have more failures than success. That is to say, (as with any human activity) in the beginning "E" yields "r" that is to say a great amount of effort will yield very little result? But with time the equation flips, in which "e" = "R" or very little effort will yield great results. The confidence you have in yourself in other areas of your life, should be applied toward your interactions with women. Link to post Share on other sites
Redbull Rider Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 trying to remember 10th grade here. hmmmm yeah me realizing that i was sexy and increasing the number of girls i approached increased my number of "dates". plus right around that time a lot of friends starting coming outta the wordworks looking for more than friendship. say no to drugs and be a good guy and you'll be aight. Link to post Share on other sites
citizen67 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Girls want someone who makes them feel special. If a guy seems into me, it will make me notice him and feel appreciated. Also (and this is important) look at their faces when you talk to them NOT their breasts Link to post Share on other sites
vanilla87 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 You might want to try and show an interest in something a girl likes, especially if its something you enjoy too before you knew her. Also if you make fun of her, she may or may not be offended, depending on the nature of the joke, so watch out, cause you said you were the "funny guy" out of your friends. Don't stare at her chest too long, thats a big give away to a girl that you just want to get with her, thats what makes us think sometimes if your just stringing us along or if your being serious about us. Also if you talk about sports too much to a girl that doesn't get sports or likes 'em, then you will not impress a girl and she may in fact start to not be interested, but if she is being interested and she doesn't like sports, then she LIKES you, cause thats a dead give away. Also try and approach a girl, without the major humor and using any lines like "you must be an angel that fell form heaven" crap, cause that never works on girls your age. Oh and smelling good is a plus to any girl, especially if you just came form practice, make sure you have showered and smell good, cause no girl likes to stand next to a guy that smells like B.O. after any game/practice. Link to post Share on other sites
pr-girl Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Any help is appreciated. Well, I'm 32 - a bit older, but let's see if I can give any insight... Your height and weight don't matter. I dated a man 6'1" and 245 lbs. for almost 3 years and he was very attractive and athletic. I remember when I was in high school, my sweetheart was the "funny guy." He wasn't even an athlete, but he was very well-liked by many. He wasn't the best looking guy in the class, but I adored him. He never really had a gf. He was always flirting, but he was always seen as the "friend" as well. Hang in there. Be open to girls your age and let them see your confidence. If you play the sports you say you do, you have the confidence to make this happen. Smile at them. Don't call them "buddy" or "sister" or "friend." Always keep that romantic line of communication open. Ask for a phone number if you like a girl. Maintain your mystery, though. Girls like that. Don't be overly anxious - but, show your excitement when you're with her. Girls like many things, but for me, these stand out: ConfidenceMysteryFunny demeanorI hope this helps! Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 Women like a fat penis and an even fatter wallet. True about the penis Link to post Share on other sites
totallyconfused526 Posted August 3, 2008 Share Posted August 3, 2008 Okay, Alex Let me give you a girls point of view.First don't follow any adviced the guys here have posted.Except Gunny376,because i do believe you lack some confidence.But that will come with time.Second don't use that wanna make out line,because if this is a desent girl,she is only going to think your a jerk.Girls are not as complicated as you and all the rest of the men on this earth would like to believe.It's simple really all you have to do to get a girls attention is ,make her feel needed.When you allow a female to get involve in your life ,you make her feel needed and wanted.Most men confuse this for being a push over or losing there man hood.Truth is,,that if you like the girl you allow for her to take a role in your life as you do in her's.Try this if you already have a certain girl in mind.Ask her something about herself,and complement her on something,I like your earrings or your hair looks really nice.Trust me when you get a girl to notice that you like something other than her boobs or butt. She will pay attention to you. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 Okay, Alex Let me give you a girls point of view.First don't follow any adviced the guys here have posted.Except Gunny376,because i do believe you lack some confidence.But that will come with time.Second don't use that wanna make out line,because if this is a desent girl,she is only going to think your a jerk.Girls are not as complicated as you and all the rest of the men on this earth would like to believe.It's simple really all you have to do to get a girls attention is ,make her feel needed.When you allow a female to get involve in your life ,you make her feel needed and wanted.Most men confuse this for being a push over or losing there man hood.Truth is,,that if you like the girl you allow for her to take a role in your life as you do in her's.Try this if you already have a certain girl in mind.Ask her something about herself,and complement her on something,I like your earrings or your hair looks really nice.Trust me when you get a girl to notice that you like something other than her boobs or butt. She will pay attention to you. Experience has taught me, and alot of other guys here, otherwise. What you just described is a nice guy, not a pushover, but a genuinely nice guy. the jerks and playas that seem to attract the women's attention either don't do a thing of what you said you all want, or they do, but its all an act. Link to post Share on other sites
Riley Freeman Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 all girls look for different things its up to you to put yourself out there Link to post Share on other sites
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