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I am interested in a girl (we are both 16) and she is interested in me. Thing is, we have never told each other yet. I found this information out from another friend. The way we speak to each other is fairly suggestive that we both have feelings for each other. We're very open and such but neither of us have said to each other "I like you".

 

It would be nice to kick it up and perhaps go out, but I am too shy. I don't know how to go about this, and I doubt she is going to make the first move. This is a vital moment because we've been friends for so long before this and now it's quite obvious that we've become open about virtually everything except this, hah.

 

Nevertheless what should I do about this? We are both very shy people. Is there any other way to perhaps ease this along without seeming that I am coming across as too abrupt or quick? I would appreciate any advice any of you have to offer.

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HokeyReligions

How about dinner and a movie? You can talk during the meal and the movie will give you both a break from trying to keep a conversation going for a long period of time, and after the movie you can talk about that.

 

Once you have gone on the first date it will get easier, but YOU have to ask her. Shyness is sweet, but after a while it gets old and becomes a turn-off.

 

Just ask her, it won't kill you.

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I got her to go to a movie with me tonight. She brought along her little brother. We saw Finding Nemo. However I was disappointed because we just sat there during the movie (as in, we didn't really make any movements that were suggestive. She had her legs crossed with her leg towards me though, occasionally dangling near my knee).

 

Afterwards she told her brother to take the backseat but he stole the front (she had wanted me to sit in the front with her).

 

*That's another issue. I am 16. Is it wrong for a girl to be driving a guy?

 

Anyways we came back to my place, we talked, she asked "Do I get a hug?", replied by my "Of course" and we did. Finally, she left and now I am typing here.

 

Thoughts?

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Immortal No More

Ask her out for lunch or dinner, and suggest that it just be the two of you, because you had some things you wanted to talk about. (doesnt matter who drives, obviously if you have a car, dont let her drive EVERY time)

 

Anyways, when you get to dinner, make sure you pull her chair out for her, and NEVER sit down before your lady. Also, whenever she gets up to "freshen" up, it is proper to stand. It may sound cheesy, but Ill tell you what, girls remember guys who are polite, and she will mention it to her friends. Now a subject to talk about, since you are shy....maybe discuss the latest song by a band you know she likes, or maybe a class you have together. Antyhing to break the ice, once you realize that you are both talking quit a bit, you know that the shyness is gone. Then you can tell her how you feel.

 

Since you know she likes you (she asked for a hug, definately likes you) dont worry about talking about dating and stuff, shes not gonna say anything mean to a guy she likes.

 

Also, next time at the movies....be bold and hold her hand...she likes you, shes not gonna pull away

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