bish Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 I'm saying you were living a life less desirable and chose to marry the partner you were living that life with. The person I didn't marry didn't start taking up smoking pot and hanging out with other people til after we were married. She ended up not being the person I married. If you disagree, do you wish you were still married to her? I put up with her hanging out with certain friends because I thought I was doing a good thing by watching our kids so she could have time to herself. But once I found out what she was REALLY doing, no I do not wish I was still married to her. Do you maybe wish you would have picked a different partner? I wish I would have picked someone who didn't switch gears after the vows were spoken. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 My point was drug use was okay to the very moral and upstanding citizens of LS-shocked me. But cheaters are bashed. If I were Bish, I'd be asking people not to smoke pot and party as well. To me the cheating isn't about morals or a lack thereof. It's the lack of integrity via breaking a promise. If you want to screw someone besides the person you promised fidelity to, you leave them so you can be free to screw around and THEY can be free to find someone who won't. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 LION CUB!!! for a second there I thought "Noooooo not our little Lyssa!!":eek: you silly cub! :laugh: Lion cub! Yeay! I have a nick on LS Me too.. I'm addicted to Dr. Pepper.. you know him? Hmmmm.. I only knew him for short while. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 What I don't understand is if she is such a party-type, why she wouldn't want the kids to stay with you. Because she is selfish and wants the child support because she wouldn't afford a place on her own. Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Coke is bad for me. I get really high from it. I have to stop consuming Coke. Coca-Cola that is! you and me both (that and coffee..............) Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Child support so she can party more. The guilt and frustration must be overwhelming. I know you have to beat yourself up at times. Honestly. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 My point was drug use was okay to the very moral and upstanding citizens of LS-shocked me. But cheaters are bashed. . EXACTLY!! and pot use is "just fine" "a few of my friends use pot and lead outstanding lives" and then it's "I have worked in criminal justice for many years and pot does not make people do bad things" WTF?!?!? See it's like I always say everyone has their own point where they are toeing the line of what is right and what is wrong, acceptable/non-acceptable it's just REALLY funny to see who those people are and what constitutes right and wrong for them. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 My point was drug use was okay to the very moral and upstanding citizens of LS-shocked me. But cheaters are bashed. If I were Bish, I'd be asking people not to smoke pot and party as well. This is a forum on infidelity. You show me a section on this site that is dedicated to those that bestow the virtues of doing drugs, and I'll be there. Stay relevant to the purpose of this site please. Not all battles can be fought here. Makes me wonder why this site even has a political forum. What does that have to do with "loveshack"?? Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 The person I didn't marry didn't start taking up smoking pot and hanging out with other people til after we were married. Geez...2 thoughts in my head at the same time while typing. I meant "The person I married didn't......" Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 This is a forum on infidelity. You show me a section on this site that is dedicated to those that bestow the virtues of doing drugs, and I'll be there. Stay relevant to the purpose of this site please. Not all battles can be fought here. Makes me wonder why this site even has a political forum. What does that have to do with "loveshack"?? read the very first page.............(before you log in) Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Because she is selfish and wants the child support because she wouldn't afford a place on her own. She is an *********. One day she'll realize and it will be too late. The guilt and shame will haunt her. And if it doesn't she'll spend the rest of her days blaming everyone else for her problems. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 The person I didn't marry didn't start taking up smoking pot and hanging out with other people til after we were married. She ended up not being the person I married. Well there you go! She was NOT who you married, the cheating was a product of who she ended up being WAY before she even committed the act of cheating. I wish I would have picked someone who didn't switch gears after the vows were spoken. Well Bish that's hard to say, you can't completely blame yourself for your mate selection sometimes people are a certain way when we meet them and then they change over the years. BUT having said that there must have been some factors of who and where she was in her life when you met her that prob went unnoticed. You said she was 26 when she tarted doing this which leads me to believe she must have been really young when she married you are you around the same age as her? Which would make both of you less than 30 right now... Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Clarification, bad wording on my part. I never did drugs. I meant since I was no longer with the same interests as the new interest she found, I was a stick in the mud. This says that you were on the same page and then you changed your life. That's what I based my comment on. Face it. You made a mistake marrying her. It's okay. You're human. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Wow - that totally sucked, Bish. I'm sorry she turned out to be... ermmm... you know. Link to post Share on other sites
Lookingforward Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Bish, no chance you can get the kids away from her? Sounds like they would be much better off with you. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 She is an *********. One day she'll realize and it will be too late. The guilt and shame will haunt her.. I highly doubt it. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 This says that you were on the same page and then you changed your life. No, we were on the same page....neither of us did drugs...then SHE started. That's what I based my comment on. Face it. You made a mistake marrying her. It's okay. You're human. No, you misunderstood what I said. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 This says that you were on the same page and then you changed your life. That's what I based my comment on. Face it. You made a mistake marrying her. It's okay. You're human. Huh!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 you and me both (that and coffee..............) Arrghh!! I've been trying to cut down on coffee for weeks now!! Not doing a good job! Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Bish, no chance you can get the kids away from her? Sounds like they would be much better off with you. And if she'll be bringing a convicted felon into the home to live with them, it shouldn't be as difficult as it would otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Bish, no chance you can get the kids away from her? Sounds like they would be much better off with you. Are you kidding??? Sorry.. Bish.. I'm teasing you.. we always tease more the ones we love.. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Bish, no chance you can get the kids away from her? Sounds like they would be much better off with you. They are better off without me. Only chance I have of getting them is if SHE screws up. The courts don't see her live in boyfriend that is a scumbag as a problem as long as he doesn't harm them directly. And I had a talk with him and told him if he ever touches a hair on their heads, he'd better hope the cops get to him before I do. And that isn't some macho thing, that is a father wanting ti protect his kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 No, we were on the same page....neither of us did drugs...then SHE started. No, you misunderstood what I said. Not the drugs, but anything you two did that you felt was worth changing. That's what I'm talking about. You decided to change and she never did. She actually too it farther. I don't know if it was rebellion, her personality, or a combination, but you two started out a certain way and then changed direction. Better that you changed your life than for both of you to live your lives that way. When your kids get older, they'll see the light, even if she doesn't. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 They are better off without me. Why? If you don't mind my asking... Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Not the drugs, but anything you two did that you felt was worth changing. That's what I'm talking about. You decided to change and she never did. Huh? going from someone that hung with our mutual circle of friends, doesn't do drugs to someone that started running with the wrong crowd and started doing drugs? How is that me changing and her not? I didn't change with that regard. She did a complete 180. She actually too it farther. I don't know if it was rebellion, her personality, or a combination, but you two started out a certain way and then changed direction. You said I changed direction earlier...how so? Link to post Share on other sites
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