Strangefruit Posted August 2, 2003 Share Posted August 2, 2003 My ex boyfriend dumped me a week ago. It's been tough but I'm coping OK I think. We exchanged e-mails as we always have done and ended up fighting because I told him not to fill his e-mails full of x's or put stuff like 'luv you' in there. He made his position clear when he dumped me. He says he loves me but isn't in love with me and wants the chance to find someone he is in love with. Oh yeah, and 'I deserve more' apparently. It hurts like hell but I can't really argue with his position. If that's the way he feels, then end of. I don't want to be with someone who isn't in love with me. I would rather tough it out on my own and look for someone who might love me enough to be in love with me. Anyway, back to the point of this post... When he first dumped me, one of the things that upset me most was discovering that before we split up he'd updated his profile on the dating website where we first met . He claimed it was just an ego boost as he didn't feel things were 'right' between us. Whatever the reasons it was a real kick in the teeth mainly because I thought that I had really been there for him as a friend over the 6 months we were together. So, in a fit of pique I updated my profile and deleted him from my favourites folder. Then, a few days later I go to see 'Who Likes Me' and find him there - he's obviously added himself since we split up and I deleted him from mine. I want to challenge him about it, to find out why he did it. But, I know that's probably just letting myself in for more of the same BS as before. What do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
jalexy Posted August 2, 2003 Share Posted August 2, 2003 what is "who likes me" he seems to be f*king with your mind here....i would totally cut him out of your life Link to post Share on other sites
Strangefruit Posted August 3, 2003 Share Posted August 3, 2003 Who Likes Me is a facility whereby you can create a kind of public file of the profiles that you like. You can see 'Who Likes You' and 'Who You Like'. If that makes sense. I don't actually think he's playing with my mind, just that he doesn't know his own. I seem to have a habit of attracting men who are to all extents and purposes lost in the grown up world. Meanwhile, I've got the house, the car and don't need to work at the moment having just left a well paid job. Is it because I don't need someone to 'bring home the bacon' that I always end up falling for people who are flakey in one way or another? Link to post Share on other sites
superd Posted August 3, 2003 Share Posted August 3, 2003 wow, its hard to find someone that is not flakey, I have that problem myself, I went over my aunts house and her three daughters are all involved with three flakey men. Girls want flakey these days at least where I live, I can't seem to find any real people that talk about anything. Its like all I know are computers on autopilot. It is quite unsettling. As for this guy, that he added you to his favorites right after he let you go, well, I agree with the other responder, there is something very troubling about him and perhaps you should seek a different i-dating service or a different way to date. He sounds a little psycho to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 3, 2003 Share Posted August 3, 2003 Forget your ex totally in every way and move forward from here. What he does now are acts of his own free will and not subject to your critical review. He is history!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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