jalexy Posted August 3, 2003 Share Posted August 3, 2003 i was wondering, is love enough to make a marriage, or a relationship work? i am thinking not....of course there are the financials......... i have a friend that is going to have to leave her man that she loves because he cannot support a future family and neither will she be able to. i am wondering if sometimes love just isnt enough for anyone else? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 3, 2003 Share Posted August 3, 2003 YOU ASK: "i am wondering if sometimes love just isnt enough for anyone else?" No, never. In addition to love, there has to be caring, committment, communication, loyalty, honesty, open mindedness, willingness to forgive, shared goals, common interests, shared views about children, shared views about the handling of money, mutual respect, responsibility, willingness to share, absense of dependence on the partner for happiness, emotional stability, excellent conflict resolution skills, lack of demands and unreasonable expectations, etc., etc., etc. Now you understand why only 50 percent of marriages go the distance and why only a percentage of those are happy. Best of luck to you!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Memo Posted August 4, 2003 Share Posted August 4, 2003 Love is a fairly new thing in the marrage. It has changed the whole reason people get together. In past times love was not even considered. The wife and children were considered property of the man. Things have changed to the extent that women don't need men. It's popular to show the man as a fool in tv ads, and programing. What Tony said is true. But your question shows where todays person is. What you really ask is "are feelings enough". Feelings change at a whim. A persons word is not considered their bond anymore because people do not give much esteem to character. Character is a process, one that requires disipline. Todays person is reactive, not responsive. Have you even ask yourself how you will react when this person you may love does not love you back, or tramps on your trust? Most people figure: "No problem I'll get a divorce". Rather than take the time it takes to learn how a person will act in different situations. Love is only as good as the person loving. Love as a feeling is only one part of a life together. Feelings change. Marriage is a contract. But a contract is only as good as the character behind it. What if you were never allowed to divorse by law. Would love be enough for you to marry? Link to post Share on other sites
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