Got caught having sex and now my mom is FREAKING OUT!!!

[Vanessa311]

My mom had a conference in a city about 3 hours away and was supposed to be gone for the weekend. I had my boyfriend over on Saturday night to watch movies and hang out and we ended up in my bedroom having sex. It was about 10:00 at night. Well, we were really into it and didn't hear the door open and my mom walked in to find us having sex, and what is worse is that we are really into bondage and I had my boyfriend tied to the bed and I was riding him and yeah - my mom saw EVERYTHING. It was total embarrasment. But now my mom is really freaking out. She has been crying every day and saying that I am ruining my life and she doesn't want me going out anymore much less dating, and it's just crazy. I kind of feel bad, but she is majorly overreacting. She thought I was a virgin, I guess. It's just really getting to the point where I think she is going to have a nervous breakdown.

I don't know what to do, can anyone give me some advice here?

[cindy0039]

How old are you?

[yes]

is your mom religious?

 

did she know you had a bf?

 

-yes

[turtle]

Anyhow, start locking your door if possible. If your mom has taken this to heart, maybe you should have a talk with her and tell her that you are willing to be responsible. If she is included in your life, then maybe she will feel better about it. When I mean included, I mean more about discussing birth control options and having her take you to the gynocologist.

 

Unless you are under 15 years old, your mom is overreacting. Having sex does not ruin your life. Did it ruin her life? People have sex...it's what they do. The key is to be responsible. As far as her forbidding you to have a social life and not letting you go out, that is too drastic and it will back fire on her. Is there a father or step father in the household? Perhaps you could talk to him and have him speak to your mother to help her settle down.

[HokeyReligions]

"freaking out" may equal a broken heart.

 

You were very disrespectful of your mother to have sex where you knew she could walk in. That just wasn't smart.

 

I don't know how old you are, but if you are still living at home then you need to show some respect to your mother/parents.

 

I am not all that old, but young teenagers shouldn't be having sex and It might be generally accepted in parts of society today - it is not everywhere.

 

Maybe you should try being humble and apologizing to her. Hopefully you were practicing safe sex and can reassure her on that front. I'm sure she is worried about you.

 

You might take sex very lightly, but not everyone does and whether you agree with her view of sex or not, respect her feelings.

[AGGHHH]

I just got caught tonight having sex. It was our first time and it was totally unexpected. We were in her hot tub which was just outside the house. We figured that our first warning would be that either of her parents would turn on the lights inside the house before they would look out the window and check on us. It is quite possibly the most horrible experience of my life. We were seemingliy goody-goody kids in her family's eyes. Now nothing will be normal. I am so scared of what will come next. What made this even worse is that we were partly out of the hot tub while it was going on and her mom saw that her bottoms were off and she saw my penis im sure. We were using a condom and trying to be as safe as possible. I can't get over the fact that this never happens to stoners and sluts... We were good kids and wanted to try something new. I am just so scared for us now and what will happen. You are totally not alone and now I know that I am not.