lynni31 Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 A few days ago my live-in bf started talking to some of our neighbors. One of them a woman ( he says lesbian ) the other one is a guy. Well she called here several times today asking him to go over and hang out. When I expressed my unhappiness about this he said I am being insecure. Any opinions? Link to post Share on other sites
anecdote Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 Yes, you are being insecure. It's as though you do not trust your boyfriend. How can you hope to have a successful relationship if there is a lack of trust between you two? Trust your boyfriend on this one, she's a lesbian, which means she has an aversion to penis. Just Chillax. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 ...she called here several times today asking him to go over and hang out. Well, it is a bit 'odd' to call a newly-met neighbour several times just to hang out, and that doesn't matter if the caller is straight or gay. The behaviour is still out of the ordinary. It also doesn't sit totally 'right', that you would not have been included in the invite. For me, it wouldn't be about trusting or not trusting my BF...but I would be wondering if this particular neighbour's style of developing new friendships would eventually include me. Do you know what it was, specifically, about the situation that got your radar tingling? (Was your BF accurate in saying that it was insecurity on your part?) Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 That is really odd, why is this "lesbian" woman not inviting the two of you over? You have more than enough reason to feel uncomfortable about this it's definitely odd. PS is she a "butch" or a listick lesbian? I would have no problem with this if she were a butch because then they can just do "guy's" stuff together. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 She has another thread going in the marriage section..Which she's provided more information about her situation.. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 A few days ago my live-in bf started talking to some of our neighbors. One of them a woman ( he says lesbian ) the other one is a guy. Well she called here several times today asking him to go over and hang out. When I expressed my unhappiness about this he said I am being insecure. Any opinions? Yes, she doesn't have any other friends to hang out with? She has to ask a guy to hang out? A guy that has a girlfriend? And here you are expressing your concern and he said you are being insecure. Sounds like an insensitive jerk that is up to no good to me. A real bf would have simply told you, "oh hun, you have nothing to worry about". but he didn't say anything like that did he? Link to post Share on other sites
Tyra Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 I wouldn't say that you are being insecure. You just have a major concern of why this chick,lesbian or not, want to hang out with your boyfriend. Did he ask you was it o.k for him to go? And after you told him about your unhappiness about him going, he shouldn't have said that you are being insecure.Instead he should have just turned down the invite. She should be wanting to pursue in you,you know.But I don't think you are being insecure. Link to post Share on other sites
rocketgirl138 Posted August 10, 2008 Share Posted August 10, 2008 I have to say, the fact that this so called lesbian is not inviting you over is kinda strange in my book. Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that anything is going on that you should be worried about. The next time she calls your boy asking him to come over, ask him if its ok for you to come w/ him. i mean after all, if she is a lesbian you can find out for sure. if he gets defensive well i would be a little concerned. there should be no reason for him to be confrontational for you meeting your neighbor. Hell, you are all neighbors so you all might as well get along! Link to post Share on other sites
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