woods321 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 They think CRAZY things at times. Mine had written down the days I did not call, and tried to connect them to her theory that I have another woman. She went to a psychic that told her I have another woman. She saw a woman on the street in HER country that looked like a girl that she thought was checking me out at a bar here. So she thought that was a sign that I was with the other woman. So, I called her today and cell phone was off.... Maybe she was mad I did not call last night? Maybe she wants me to think she is with someone else? Maybe she is with someone else? I was much better off not calling at all, lol. And I bet you are too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wingk1314 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 wow, she trusts a psychic over you. Well that's great to know. Have you tried telling her off for overly (more like blindly) trusting that psychic? Cos if I were you, I'd tell her straight away to stop being such a kid. I mean, my ex thinks crazy, but she doesn't do a lot of crazy things and seeing a psychic and putting so much trust into it is just whack. But seriously, I think you shouldn't think too much about her side of things. I doubt that we would ever truely understand their ways unless they grow up one day. And yes, I feel much much lighter not having to deal with such things anymore. Although I still miss her like hell but I've given up already. LOL@ better of not calling. I was thinking the EXACT same thing back then when the same thing happened to me lol. Link to post Share on other sites
woods321 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Yeah the psychic told her that the girl I was seeing was tall, and she knows one of my exes was tall, so she thinks I am with her, lol.. It is ridiculous trying to figure out what they are thinking, you are right. If I told someone several times "don't call", I would mean it. But for her I guess it means I should call? And since I didn't, it shows I am not interested..She made it sound like I was the one wanting to end contact with her.. This is probably the nicest she has have been on the phone. Apologizing, telling me she loves me (she never said that) , accepting blame for everything, but where does that get me? I think she was only that nice because I quit calling, and she did miss me. It is like some huge game. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wingk1314 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 Sigh, today/tonight is a really crap day for me. I really don't know how I'm going to get passed it. She's having a "wild night out" at some club with her friends tonight. Wearing all sexy clothing and stuff. sigh. I feel so.... I don't even know how to describe this. It's just a very unpleasant and difficult feeling to bare with. For the record, she's never been clubbing (cos of various reasons) and since she's been completely overwhelmed by my break up with her as well as some other life problems, I really am afraid that she's going to do something stupid. Aiii........What am I to do... I feel like just trying to forget about it and pretend it's not happening and go to sleep. But I just can't stop worrying my a** off about her. EDIT: now i'm just sitting here, having a smoke. Doing absolutely nothing but worrying and waiting. I feel so pathetic. It's like the only thing i can do is worry and wait. As a guy I've always believed I should be making the move. Yet, being afraid of the outcome and not wanting to face disappointment is is enough to keep me from doing anything. What am I doing... Link to post Share on other sites
woods321 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I think thats why it is better not to call them. If you hear they miss you etc, then what? They are still far away,and this might change from day to day anyway. Then there are the millions of bad things you can hear. It would be so nice just to have normal conversations, openness, trust, understanding etc. At least for me, these conversations don't seem possible with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wingk1314 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 It's like 7am over here and I still havn't slept yet. I know that calling her will just end up with her giving me another attitude or her showing no interest in it all again. But my heart won't let me sleep until I get an answer from her tonight. I've already called but she didn't pick up. I'm just gonna do it again in a few minutes. I know it's going to be bad, but who tells me to love her. If it wasn't her first time, or if she wasn't in such a emotional state, then I probably won't be like this. Hope she picks up soon. Link to post Share on other sites
woods321 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I know.. Once you start calling it is hard to stop. I know its a lousy feeling. Did you call her cell? Home phone? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wingk1314 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 lol..she finally answered my call. I had been calling for more than an hour. And it turns out that she's having breakfast/tea with her friends now. I knew it'll turn out this way. Well, at least she seems fine. I sooo shouldn't have called indeed. I just make myself feel worse in the end. And I sms-ed her just then. I told her to message me when she gets home. I'm going to have a nice talk with her regarding everything. I don't know why I'm doing this. It's so weird. Upon knowing that I'm going to be (trying to) making things clear again to her, my mind suddenly don't know what to say. Throughout this whole thread, there's so many things in my mind but I somehow I'm lost for words. I don't know how I'm going to end up in the talk, I probably just want to say that I miss her. But I probably won't judging from her attitude just then. She seems quite happy now with her friends. Maybe they've succeeded in getting rid of me from her system already. If that's the case, then I think I'm setting myself up for yet another round of disappointment. Link to post Share on other sites
woods321 Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I know EXACTLY what you are saying, and I was just thinking the same thing today. Before I talk to her I have 1 million things to say . But when talking to her, or leaving a message, I have no idea of what to say, and all my thoughts just seem to become mixed together. Part of me misses her, part of me is disappointed, part of me wants to walk away, part of me wants her, part of me is angry, part of me is sad. And then when talking to them they always seem to be in a completely different mood. Extremely loving, or angry, or upset. It never comes out right. Part of me wonders if I even should make any more efforts. Link to post Share on other sites
kerrieberrie Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Hey, sorry to hear, you're obviously upset even though you're the one who broke it off with her. I think, LDR or not, relationships are hard.. like me and the guy I'm seeing, we hardly see each other because of his work committments. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that, it takes 2 to tango and it definitely need 2 people in a relationship working TOGETHER for it to work, long distance or not. Connection is very important and seeing a future together is just as important. It doesn't sound like you guys are connecting anymore and it also sound like, apart from her looking pretty, you don't know what you really like about her anyway. I think the best thing to do is to think in your head, a list of things that you like about her and a list of things that you don't like about her... weigh it out, and you'll know whether to perhaps to leave it and move on or give it your utmost best shot to say sorry, tell her you got confused and realised you've made a mistake, she'll say no initially for being a girl.. haha~ but if you're persistent enough, she'll take u back. I hope it all works out for you... break ups are horrible. I can see mine heading that direction too. soo, all the best Link to post Share on other sites
vonerik012 Posted August 9, 2008 Share Posted August 9, 2008 Wink, what ended up happening? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wingk1314 Posted September 19, 2008 Author Share Posted September 19, 2008 sorry guys for the long time being missing. In short, she was touched by what I said to her and we got together again. I told her I wish she can start growing up and started being mature. (in short, i was asking her to change). well yeah. It went OK until last week when we fought again. Seems she hasn't changed one bit. Nor is she willing to change for me either. She once said "i'm like this.. and i ain't gonna change" so i guess that's it. Shouldn't have had my hopes up. Anyway, i told her that I don't even know why i'm doing these things for her anymore and that i won't do them ever again. From then on we haven't talked since. There was no official "let's break up" statements from the neither of us although I'd think the contents of our fight was clear enough. We're both in the midst of a very very busy and tight life right now. And we both got tons of things to deal which will last a decent amount of time. I'm planning to give her something official soon after I've cleared up some of my things. I love her but it ain't gonna work like this. And i'm finally accepting that fact. Link to post Share on other sites
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