carhill Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 Main Entry:1whore Pronunciation: \ˈhȯr, ˈhu̇r\ Function:noun Etymology:Middle English hore, from Old English hōre; akin to Old Norse hōra whore, hōrr adulterer, Latin carus dear — more at charityDate:before 12th century 1: a woman who engages in sexual acts for money : prostitute; also : a promiscuous or immoral woman 2: a male who engages in sexual acts for money 3: a venal or unscrupulous person Editorially, just because a description allows the proper usage of a pejorative descriptor, it doesn't mean that the usage is appropriate or sensible. IMO, the intent was to demean the OP in a malicious way. I'm glad the mods took care of the situation and hope that person considers the impact of their posts, before posting, in the future. I remember calling a woman a b@llbuster early on here; equally inappropriate, even though accurate , and equally deserving of sanction, which I received I hope the OP continues to read to find a healthy solution to her issue. She sounds young and hopefully learned an important lesson. Link to post Share on other sites
theobserver Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 Can we all forget about said members post please? Let's get back to the OP who's probably long gone. What you did was incredibly wrong beyong belief the fact you have no regard for your husband during all this is astonishing he wasn't mentioned once. Unless he's some sort of serial wife beater and treats you like crap shouldn't you tell him and at the very least please get a divorce now there's clearly no love you have for him. Frankly what happened between yourself and your Best friends brother was a mistake an enjoyable mistake but oh well it happened twice you thought it would go far ... Im not sure how far but now he's seen the light and realises if your happily cheating with him while married and making no efforts to end your marriage then your not the right long term substance for him. Another thing that really kills me about this story is the family just "knew" something was always up between you and your best frinds brother and they all knew you both had sex... I mean nobody was mad you a married woman and friend of the family are breaking your vows what kind of family is this? Is he some loser male of the family they want to see him shacked up with any low life such as yourself? (sorry too far) I hope you sort yourself out I really do. Link to post Share on other sites
lolobear Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 i disagree with all of these horrible posts. you are not a "whore" or a "slut". life isn't black and white and cheating isn't necessarily bad. of course i feel bad for your husband, but the fact of the matter is that you're emotionally starved and you looked for it somewhere else. since i don't know your husband and the advice i am giving is strictly to YOU, i would like you to do what makes you happy. sometimes the timing isn't always right, maybe your bestfriends brother is the man you belong with. think it through before you make the decision, because if you leave your husband now most likely you wont' get back together. remember when you first met your husband and you felt those exciting sparks? you guys were getting to know each other and everything was new. eventually, it fades as you get used to each other. don't confuse the new exciting sparks with your bestfriend's brother for true love. think about it through and through, who are you more compatable with? who will give you longterm happiness? and work from there. do your best to be honest with your husband throughout the process, whether or not you pick the bestfriends brother, this is still a man you love so do your best to salvage his feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
lkjh Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 i disagree with all of these horrible posts. you are not a "whore" or a "slut". life isn't black and white and cheating isn't necessarily bad. of course i feel bad for your husband, but the fact of the matter is that you're emotionally starved and you looked for it somewhere else. since i don't know your husband and the advice i am giving is strictly to YOU, i would like you to do what makes you happy. sometimes the timing isn't always right, maybe your bestfriends brother is the man you belong with. think it through before you make the decision, because if you leave your husband now most likely you wont' get back together. remember when you first met your husband and you felt those exciting sparks? you guys were getting to know each other and everything was new. eventually, it fades as you get used to each other. don't confuse the new exciting sparks with your bestfriend's brother for true love. think about it through and through, who are you more compatable with? who will give you longterm happiness? and work from there. do your best to be honest with your husband throughout the process, whether or not you pick the bestfriends brother, this is still a man you love so do your best to salvage his feelings. You know what now that I sat back and thought about it this poster is correct we should all just do what makes us happy at the moment and not worry about how it effects the other people in our lives. All of those sayings about think before you act, the grass isn't greener, and so on are just stupid. While we are at it lets just sit back and not help people in need, or pass HIV on to unsuspecting partners because we want to have fun, or how about lets split up our kids homes because we are bored. What ever happened to people making a little sacrifice in there lives for others. Have we really become people who only care about ourselves and nothing else. No one will ever be 100% happy all the time simply because it is not in our nature, if it was we would have never created the wheel, or plane, or car, or modern medicines. Being a little down in your life does not give you the right to s### on your SO life. To tell her its ok because the brother might be better for her is horrible, because after all there will always be someone better out there. When you get married you are responsible for your family not just yourself! In the U.S. Asian Americans and Middle Eastern s are among the highest in avg income, low divorce rates, and disease associated with stress and most agree its because they hold a concept that is lost in our lives called family shame. They actually go out of there way to help there family and guess what they are happy (the low stress gives that part away). You honestly think that by cheating on her husband and opening herself to divorce that her life is going to get better? Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 You know what now that I sat back and thought about it this poster is correct we should all just do what makes us happy at the moment and not worry about how it effects the other people in our lives. All of those sayings about think before you act, the grass isn't greener, and so on are just stupid. While we are at it lets just sit back and not help people in need, or pass HIV on to unsuspecting partners because we want to have fun, or how about lets split up our kids homes because we are bored. What ever happened to people making a little sacrifice in there lives for others. Have we really become people who only care about ourselves and nothing else. No one will ever be 100% happy all the time simply because it is not in our nature, if it was we would have never created the wheel, or plane, or car, or modern medicines. Being a little down in your life does not give you the right to s### on your SO life. To tell her its ok because the brother might be better for her is horrible, because after all there will always be someone better out there. When you get married you are responsible for your family not just yourself! In the U.S. Asian Americans and Middle Eastern s are among the highest in avg income, low divorce rates, and disease associated with stress and most agree its because they hold a concept that is lost in our lives called family shame. They actually go out of there way to help there family and guess what they are happy (the low stress gives that part away). You honestly think that by cheating on her husband and opening herself to divorce that her life is going to get better? That is about the best I have heard it put yet!! Especially the first paragraph *snicker* Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 Actually lkjh, the terms of your mebership here means everyone has to stick with the guidelines http://www.loveshack.org/forums/guidelines/ I think the part about personal attacks has been violated numerous times by that delightful poster. "Personal attacks against other participants will not be tolerated under any circumstances. We define personal attacks as posted comments which are intended to provoke, demean, or ridicule another participant. It is inevitable that members will sometimes disagree in their responses to any given problem, and LoveShack.org encourages healthy debate comprised of constructive questions and criticisms, so long as they pertain to the post and thread at hand. Personal dislike of another member has no place in any post, on any thread. Hmn...most people have been banned from here for a whole lot less. I can only wonder why this case is different. Oh and: 1. A whore exchanges sex for money. At no point did the OP state the guy paid her. 2. Your and you're are different. Please use accordingly. My goodness. I can not believe my eyes. Once again, if I were married to someone like that, I would get a divorce. No cheating. No conversation. Just empty closets and keys on the table when he comes home... Link to post Share on other sites
Virgo1982 Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 Well I'm not going to call her that, but I disagree with this statement. Cute... Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 Cute... I do disagree with that statement. I still won't call her that. someone's actions COULD classify them with those definitions based on the meaning of the words. Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I have known my best friend and her family for years and they invited me to spend the weekend with them a couple of months when they were on holiday. I have been married for 8 years and the last few years have not been happy and I have been very unsettled. When I went away with my friend and her family, I got pretty drunk and slept with her brother. Everyone new about it the next day but they were ok about it saying that they new there had always been something between us. I left a couple of days later and arranged to contact my friends brother when he got back. We slept together again and felt really comfortable and happy with each other. The next day he phoned me and asked me to come over and said he couldn't deal with it because I am married and that we had to take a step back. I have been left in total turmoil as I really care for him and I can't stop thinking about him. I feel I have been blown off and am finding it hard to cope, any suggestions? Bad things happen to people like you. I suggest you seek some help. Link to post Share on other sites
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