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Dreamrunner

At the beginning of this year, my gf (the girl of my dreams) and I celebrated 3 years together. She was basically begging me for a ring (saying how her ring finger looked naked, and pointing out rings to me in the mall). Thing is, when we first got together, she told me she never wanted to get married. Two weeks later, she says she needs her space, and two weeks after that, she broke up with me. We never fought, I was always loving and loyal, and let her do her own thing. I tried winning her back, but she said she loved me, but wasn't in love with me. A month later she says she wants to try again. Things were going great (or so i thought). We were talking about marraige again. Later we were talking, and I found out she had feelings about her old highschool friend that are very much unresolved. Two weeks before she left to be a camp councellor for two months, she broke up with me again, stating she doesn't feel it anymore. Well lo and behold, she called me from camp saying she thinks she's made a mistake, she still loves me and wants to try again when she gets back, but I haven't heard from her in 3 weeks. I know she's in the back woods of pensylvania, but she had the same job last year and was able to call basically every week.

 

Even though this is the first serious relationship for both of us (I'm 22, she's 23), I know I love her more than anything, and I can honestly see myself spending the rest of my life with her. I've done alot of thinking and I've realized that I let the relationship get too comfortable, and I was too much of a "nice guy". I've also realized that whenever we start seriously talking about marraige, she's tended to freak out, or break up with me shortly afterwards, but I do think that she still loves me, and she's using her schoolfriend as protection against potentially being hurt by me.

 

I really want her back and I still want to marry her, but am I just being delusional? What do I do?

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Maybe you should just concentrate on being with her instead of worrying about marriage. That will all come in due time. It sounds to me like she just doesn't know what she wants. And that's something she really needs to get figured out before you and her discuss marriage. I would just back off on the marriage thing and give her all the space she needs. Maybe start doing your own thing and let her call you, don't call her and kind of put some distance between you. Then if she really wants you, she'll come back. She may just be playing you because she thinks she has you wrapped around her finger. So show her that she doesn't and you can make it fine without her, and then she will come running back.

 

Trust me, it works.

 

Good Luck

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If an when she does call, should I talk to her at all about the situation. I want to tell her that I'm still madly in love with her and I think she's afraid of marraige and all the thing that we both could improve on. But will this just make her upset and drive her away?

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Only if you want her to cry and never call you again! Ok it won't be that bad, but whatever you do, DO NOT BRING IT UP

 

it'll ruin any kind of progress you made

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