cookiecrumbles Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 Hey everyone..well my relationship turned into quite the pickle, well for me anyway. I had a girlfriend and we hit it off really well, girlfriend was pretty crazy though, very much a party girl because she is 18 and is very into her friends. As it started off real well and she was very into me alot of issues would bug me but i kind of kept them to myself because well it was so early on. These issues were we barely got to spend much alone time together because when we hung out it would always be with her friends or her friends would be there, when we did get to spend time along though it was great! Anyways there was also the issue of her ex because they had only recently broke up but still hung around each other alot (she has always claimed she would never get back with them, they are just friends) but none the less would make me feel uncomfortable them always around each other but they do share the same friends. The ex and not really getting enough alone time together got to me alot and i felt she didnt really want to spend time with me, i would get mixed emotions, some days we would be close others we would barely hug and cuddle and stuff! After awhile after one conversation with her about coming away with me for a weekend she said she wasnt going to and that someone else should go because they were looking forward to it, and i was thinking well wouldnt you look forward to spending it with me? After this i got so angry and everything that has built up just blew up and i ended up breaking up with her. The response i got what that was shock?!...she couldnt believe it, had no idea. After awhile she was asking why i broke it off, and that she had issues but didnt break it off would work through them, even though she had never told me bout these issues she had? msgs went back and forth throughout the day and i kind of felt guilty for just ending it and not working through things with her. i was so confused so the next day i decided to say ok i am willing to work things out, and she was like what now you changed your mind? and i said well i thought bout what you said and i am willing to work through everything if you are. but there was no real response. To this day we have talked many times about working things out and what we would have to change if we ever decide to get back together but nothing has really happened and i have even said i would get back with her but now she is saying well i want to see things change before that happens, but honestly nothing is happening and its hard to keep talking bout it, i dont really know what to do, we still text everyday and talk and she still flirts with me and everything but there has been no talk bout if we will get back together. i do want to get back with her cos i miss her but i have no idea how she feels, im not sure if she resents me for just giving up so quick because she has said whats going to stop you doing it again if another problem comes up but i assured her it wouldnt. any advice on this situation? Link to post Share on other sites
justaman99 Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 The power shifted. You broke up with her, she scrambles and tries to convince you otherwise, then she does and you say let's try, and now she's says....hmm no I don't think so now. She's now in control. She's 18, a kid, and that's what happens. I would just say look I know I jumped the gun and broke up with you, that wasn't the right way to deal with things. You also had some concerns that you didn't bring to my attention and that isn't the right way either, so if we're going to work this out let's start talking. I'm not going to play this game. I doubt it will work. My gut tells me her heart isn't in it right now and she's enjoying herself. Her ego was damaged and she probably wants to be the one to break it off so that's why she's doing this ****. -Just Link to post Share on other sites
Author cookiecrumbles Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 Yup your pretty much spot on there i think as much as id like to try deny it haha. I hate how theres this whole power thing that goes on in relationships, like why cant it just be about liking someone, silly games but yeah I`ve explained myself that I would work things out but guess she yea her heart isnt in it at the moment else we would have made progress, so now its time to sit back, not contact or anything and try move on. Thanks Just x Link to post Share on other sites
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