White Flower Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 I knew you don't now. Wasn't talking about you in that sentence..just the two statements in the same sentence as if having a MM/MW and class are in any way compatible. You must be confusing class with something else. I said please and thank you the whole time I was there. Just saying... BTW, I had no intention of doing the deed in the marriage home; although he was trying in every room of the house. After the TV was delivered, we high-tailed it outta there. I must admit it was CUTE watching him load the whites into the washing machine and then transfer them into the dryer later. With that kind of chore, she must've thought he was home the whole day. I hope this gives spouses, especially female ones, an inkling of how the WS gets away with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2008 Author Share Posted July 26, 2008 You must be confusing class with something else. I said please and thank you the whole time I was there. Just saying... BTW, I had no intention of doing the deed in the marriage home; although he was trying in every room of the house. After the TV was delivered, we high-tailed it outta there. I must admit it was CUTE watching him load the whites into the washing machine and then transfer them into the dryer later. With that kind of chore, she must've thought he was home the whole day. I hope this gives spouses, especially female ones, an inkling of how the WS gets away with it. :lmao: :lmao: ............. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 You must be confusing class with something else. I said please and thank you the whole time I was there. LOL - I couldn't resist! Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 LOL - I couldn't resist! I couldn't either. Many OWs and MMs are classy, elegant people. I would have chosen a different adjective to drive the point home rather than 'classy.' Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2008 Author Share Posted July 26, 2008 I couldn't either. Many OWs and MMs are classy, elegant people. I would have chosen a different adjective to drive the point home rather than 'classy.' I have to agree and from what I read here.. most OWs are a lot 'classier' and smarter than many BS... I can swear that if LShackers who would meet any OW on here in real life.. would have absolutely no idea that they are the OWs.. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 I have to agree and from what I read here.. most OWs are a lot 'classier' and smarter than many BS... I can swear that if LShackers who would meet any OW on here in real life.. would have absolutely no idea that they are the OWs.. This is so true. People tend to generalize here and say OWs are lacking in something, are of low class, and have low self-esteem. On the contrary! I have great self-esteem. The only thing I lacked was love and exMM took care of that for me. Still, I would advise that if you're looking for love, try NOT to get it from a MM, even if you are soul mates. It could crush you and life is so short. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 This is so true. People tend to generalize here and say OWs are lacking in something, are of low class, and have low self-esteem. On the contrary! I have great self-esteem. The only thing I lacked was love and exMM took care of that for me. Still, I would advise that if you're looking for love, try NOT to get it from a MM, even if you are soul mates. It could crush you and life is so short. well said.. MOST of the time, MM are not 'relationship' material.. eventhough there are exceptions (in my case, it was.. as I lived 18 yrs with him)... but I have to say that they are great in bed.. so it's better to enjoy them for what they are best at.. Link to post Share on other sites
Mino Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 really ?? Real estate is spendy these days, especially enough acreage for a trailer park....... You know with the credit crunch, I would say most people cant buy... You need good credit and Cash...Its wierd,,, I do credit checks through out the day... The people you think could, can't.. they look great, have nice cars dressed well, and then they have c credit and not a pot to piss in.. lol.. Most Americans have no saving or very little... They live above their means, alot took out helocs on thier home.. I even had a CFO from a very big company who was really arrogant, like he was all that, ran his cret, it was below 500!!! lol... so Lizzie, my hats off to you! Others are just talk... no cash to stand on... and the house is upside down:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 well said.. MOST of the time, MM are not 'relationship' material.. eventhough there are exceptions (in my case, it was.. as I lived 18 yrs with him)... but I have to say that they are great in bed.. so it's better to enjoy them for what they are best at.. I must admit as well this is true, but I've only know two MM; my exH and exMM. Would you say with your experience it is the long term MM's experience in the M that makes him 'great' in bed? Link to post Share on other sites
nadiaj2727 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I don't see how living a secret life and taking part in dishonest behavior that is betraying someone else is classy behavior at all. I think that if you have to hide it, you shouldn't be doing it. Class to me means representing yourself a certain way, and if you an MM doesn't even acknowledge his OW, and if he would be embarrassed to be found out and has to hide it... yuck. So not classy in my book. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 This is so true. People tend to generalize here and say OWs are lacking in something, are of low class, and have low self-esteem. On the contrary! I have great self-esteem. The only thing I lacked was love and exMM took care of that for me. Still, I would advise that if you're looking for love, try NOT to get it from a MM, even if you are soul mates. It could crush you and life is so short. Very well said, WF! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 I must admit as well this is true, but I've only know two MM; my exH and exMM. Would you say with your experience it is the long term MM's experience in the M that makes him 'great' in bed? I am not sure if it is the long term experience.. or if it is just natural 'talent' ... I had a few 'lousy' MM... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 He texted me all evening... I told him I was going to work on Monday so I wasn't sure if I'd go..(he wanted me to call in sick).. He's at the cottage, coming back tomorrow night.. he wants me to sleep at his place since he's going to work too on Monday... (he was suppose to be off..but he has an important meeting).. I will not spend the night over.. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I am not sure if it is the long term experience.. or if it is just natural 'talent' ... I had a few 'lousy' MM... I would say natural talent. Most MM aren't having sex with their frigid wives, remember? It would stand to reason that most MM would be horrible in bed not having anyone to give them regular practice and all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 I would say natural talent. Most MM aren't having sex with their frigid wives, remember? It would stand to reason that most MM would be horrible in bed not having anyone to give them regular practice and all. True.. but they probably acquired their experience in the first years of the M.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Most MM aren't having sex with their frigid wives' date=' remember?[/quote'] You got that right!!! Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 True.. but they probably acquired their experience in the first years of the M.. I dunno. Some marriages start off slow. And, some guys just suck in bed, no matter what! I am just grateful that there are ways to tell if the experience is going to be worth it without going all the way (kissing, or *other* techniques). Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 I dunno. Some marriages start off slow. And, some guys just suck in bed, no matter what! I am just grateful that there are ways to tell if the experience is going to be worth it without going all the way (kissing, or *other* techniques). There is nooo way you can tell if the 'experience' is going to be worth it if you don't try first... no way josé... It's like saying 'this guy is a good kisser, but I never kissed him'... I'd be curious to know your 'way' to tell ... Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I would say natural talent. Most MM aren't having sex with their frigid wives, remember? It would stand to reason that most MM would be horrible in bed not having anyone to give them regular practice and all. ExMM has told me quite a few times that his W was only willing to try a couple of different positions and that was all. Knowing him the way I did, he needed much more than those two or three positions. He either lied, or she just doesn't know her H well enough. How can anyone not take advantage of such a willing and creative lover? To each his own; I suppose we all have our crosses to bear. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 There is nooo way you can tell if the 'experience' is going to be worth it if you don't try first... no way josé... It's like saying 'this guy is a good kisser, but I never kissed him'... I'd be curious to know your 'way' to tell ... Sure there is. Its called oral sex. If the oral sucks, there is no way I'm going to do-the-deed. No way, indeed! Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 There is nooo way you can tell if the 'experience' is going to be worth it if you don't try first... no way josé... It's like saying 'this guy is a good kisser, but I never kissed him'... I'd be curious to know your 'way' to tell ... That is why on NID's thread I suggest having a few lovers before marriage. I never even believed in a g-spot before exMM came into my life. He proved me wrong;) Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Sure there is. Its called oral sex. If the oral sucks' date=' there is no way I'm going to do-the-deed. No way, indeed! [/quote'] I say he better be good at oral AND intercourse. If he can't hit the g-spot, dump his a$$! Having good hands ain't bad either;) Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 ExMM has told me quite a few times that his W was only willing to try a couple of different positions and that was all. Knowing him the way I did, he needed much more than those two or three positions. He either lied, or she just doesn't know her H well enough. How can anyone not take advantage of such a willing and creative lover? To each his own; I suppose we all have our crosses to bear. Some people are just like that, you know? Some people don't like variety. Some people do. Some people won't try anything new because its something about them, sometimes its something about the person they are with (like they feel taken for granted, blah blah blah). BUT I say that only cheats you out of the experience too. But yeah, to each his own. Definitely. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 Sure there is. Its called oral sex. If the oral sucks' date=' there is no way I'm going to do-the-deed. No way, indeed! [/quote'] Well then, you said: I am just grateful that there are ways to tell if the experience is going to be worth it without going all the way (kissing, or *other* techniques). Oral sex, IMO is a part of 'other techniques'.. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I say he better be good at oral AND intercourse. If he can't hit the g-spot, dump his a$$! Having good hands ain't bad either;) Exactly! But if the oral is bad. I'm putting my pants back on!!!! Dammit!!! :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
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