silktricks Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Oh ok. Well I was separated (moved to another state) when I met my H {snip} I would have divorced right away but the law called for a six month separation before a divorce would be granted I'm sure glad my H didn't think like you do or we probably wouldn't be married now. That's funny - same for me. I was still legally married when I met my current husband, but we were separated and living in different states and were completely out of contact. My divorce was final about four months later. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Sometimes the not taking action immediately is also due to the hope that a light will dawn and things will change. Absolutely. I was an idiot. Live and learn. OW, even though I really can't relate to your way of thinking, thanks for explaining that to me. Interesting perspective. Polly, you are judging silktricks yet you called me out for judging others. At least I'm not a hypocrite. I'll openly tell you that yes, I do JUDGE. I don't sit here and pretend that I'm not judgmental. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 That's funny - same for me. I was still legally married when I met my current husband, but we were separated and living in different states and were completely out of contact. My divorce was final about four months later. I think that happens more than people think. It's just sad when people get involved with separated people and get burned. It's just not always the case though. My divorce was not final until 3 weeks before our wedding...yikes! Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I think that happens more than people think. It's just sad when people get involved with separated people and get burned. It's just not always the case though. My divorce was not final until 3 weeks before our wedding...yikes! Dang - that was cutting it fine!! We waited for a LOOOOONNNNGGGGG time. Lived together, etc, but held off on tying the knot. My first marriage was so horrible - and he (the 1st) changed into a different person the day I said "I do". I was scared it would happen again. But it didn't :) . Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Dang - that was cutting it fine!! We waited for a LOOOOONNNNGGGGG time. Lived together, etc, but held off on tying the knot. My first marriage was so horrible - and he (the 1st) changed into a different person the day I said "I do". I was scared it would happen again. But it didn't :) . I know. I don't recommend people do what I did. I mean for us it worked but for most it's not a good idea. H proposed 4 weeks after we met and we married 7 months after that. I hear you on the first marriage. That's a shame. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 OW, while I can see where you coming from, though for personal and religious reasons I think that is wrong, I think you have the right to do whatever you want, AS LONG AS NO ONE IS GETTING HURT. And that is the problem I have with your view and ways. If you have men who are willing to be open with you and you are keeping yourselves away from those who are in committed relationships, go for it. It does not bother me or most here that you are incapable of fidelity and monogamy, but your involving a wife in your life and possibly children. You are involving friends and family from your side, his side, and her side. Someone has to be there to deal with the emotions that comes from relationships. We would like to believe we don't owe anybody anything, but life has shown us that we are wrong. If we really did not owe anything to anybody or to ourselves, no one would be angry or sad by how we treat them and they us. Men and women would not be killing their spouses and/or their lovers because of hurt feelings. Children would not be blaming some of their issues on past relationships with and of their parents. There would not be STDs or laws fighting to get people to pay for unwanted children. There is a connection in this world that we have ignored for so long that it is biting back and it is being shown. In short, there is always a consequence for our actions, and a lot of times it is someone else who picks up the tab. This is why treating everyone with love and respect is the golden rule. If we did that, then we would not have the issues we have to deal with here in the forums. DNR Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I know. I don't recommend people do what I did. I mean for us it worked but for most it's not a good idea. H proposed 4 weeks after we met and we married 7 months after that. I hear you on the first marriage. That's a shame. Yeah, I can't honestly recommend getting involved with someone as "freshly" separated/divorced as I was, as I certainly put the poor man through h*ll. He caught a lot of sh*t that had nothing to do with him (and vice versa, I'm sure). Link to post Share on other sites
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Touche, I commend you on your trust and hope that your current husband have that same trust. I personally would have an issue with, would my xMW turned spouse treat me the same way as she did her last husband. And if I were a cheater, I would wonder if another man would do me like that. Karma is a real bitter pill. DNR Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted July 28, 2008 Author Share Posted July 28, 2008 Hey you guys.. this is MY thread you want to post off-topic.. then start your own.. or go in the off-topic thread... Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Actually, I figured this thread was over. You posted about him inviting you over...got the responses...you went over...what's left to discuss? Link to post Share on other sites
pollywag Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Hey you guys.. this is MY thread you want to post off-topic.. then start your own.. or go in the off-topic thread... I agree. So Lizzie were there a lot of "horse face" pics around the house? Also what was it like to be surrounded by her stuff? Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Hey you guys.. this is MY thread you want to post off-topic.. then start your own.. or go in the off-topic thread... Sorry, Lizzie Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Whatever she wants to discuss. It is after all, her thread Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 So Lizzie, how were all the major renovations? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Actually, I figured this thread was over. You posted about him inviting you over...got the responses...you went over...what's left to discuss? That's exactly what I thought too...go figure? Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 What does the AARP have to say about this situation? Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Lizzie knows that I love and admire her spunk...... Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 A4A, you are SO f'ing BAD! LMAO :laugh: Crap, she's so bad she's good! Too funny. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Sorry about going off topic Lizzie60. DNR Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 maybe she ended up not going to MM house???? hmmmm she hasn't said today whether she actually went. Link to post Share on other sites
pollywag Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 she hasn't said today whether she actually went. yes she has!! Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 maybe she ended up not going to MM house???? hmmmm she hasn't said today whether she actually went. She did.... it is in the posties above.... she came to his house.... or at it maybe? Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 The hot tub was fun... she said. Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Omg Lizzie that must have been such a turn on. Oh the thrill of it. In HER house, in HER new hot tub which they probably already christened, wondering if SHE will walk in and find you with HER husband. How do you look in the mirror in the morning. Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Omg Lizzie that must have been such a turn on. Oh the thrill of it. In HER house, in HER new hot tub which they probably already christened, wondering if SHE will walk in and find you with HER husband. How do you look in the mirror in the morning. I know. This whole topic is disgusting. Of course, posts like THIS are allowed, no matter who it offends. Link to post Share on other sites
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