whateverwillbe Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 If gals do love the nice guy why does he keep getting dumped and divorced? Because they marry women who do not appreciate them. They pick women who dominate the relationship. And then these same women turn out to be bitchy wives, so why wouldn't they get dumped and divorced? There is a book out there they says we tend to pick a mate that is the opposite of us. That is why one is attracted to them in the first place. Unfortunately as the years go on, this tends to cause problems. Esp. if one or the other does not accept those same differences. Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Because they marry women who do not appreciate them. They pick women who dominate the relationship. And then these same women turn out to be bitchy wives, so why wouldn't they get dumped and divorced? There is a book out there they says we tend to pick a mate that is the opposite of us. That is why one is attracted to them in the first place. Unfortunately as the years go on, this tends to cause problems. Esp. if one or the other does not accept those same differences. Yup,this happened to me Link to post Share on other sites
whateverwillbe Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Yup,this happened to me Me, too. Except I am the nice girl, not the nice guy. Link to post Share on other sites
orangehose Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 What I'm saying is: people need boundaries, but only the immature ones MAKE you set them. Wise, wise words. This should be a bumper sticker. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kizik Posted August 4, 2008 Author Share Posted August 4, 2008 Mostly that is true but this is the funny thing about how life works. As soon as you decide that you will no longer tolerate these immature people in your life, they will stop showing up. You stop attracting them. Don't ask me why that is, but that's the way it works. I've been with people like this and can save you all this energy you're wasting on regret. It really would not have mattered what you did because when people inherently don't respect basic boundaries, they just don't. If you had stood your ground with her, then she would've stopped acting that way temporarily - and then you'd be back to square one again - or one of your would've left. You got a very clear picture of what she was like and saw what she was made of. That was a glimpse of what marriage would've been like with her and the never-ending battle for you to be treated respectfully. This argument with her would've never ended. So, just make the decision now that you won't let this kind of person into your life again. You didn't do anything that horrible except give someone the benefit of the doubt. She abused it. Even if you got another shot with her, even if you had done everything right in the beginning, you would still end up right where you are now. It wasn't fixable. This is such an amazing and true post, Angel. Thanks for being so kind as to share your insights. You are SO correct, and have phrased it quite accurately. -kizik Link to post Share on other sites
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