Strangefruit Posted August 4, 2003 Posted August 4, 2003 I've gone and got myself into a bit of a mess. Having split up with my ex just over a week ago and run through the whole gamut of emotions in that time, I've agreed to meet someone I don't really know for a date. Well, I've agreed to meet for coffee but it feels like a date and I think that's how he sees it. I saw my ex tonight. He's coping badly with the breakup although he initiated it. He's was really friendly and we got on really well. While I don't think I want him back, part of me wants him to want me back and I don't want to upset him or for him to feel that I'm doing this to get back at him. I'm not. And I'm not really looking for a relationship either. I know I'm not ready. It's all complicated by the fact that I've just moved town. My ex is the only person I really know here. I have no other friends that live in this town. If me and my ex are going to be friends, then feel I need to tell him about this date/meeting. But I so don't want to. To be honest, I'm not even sure I want to go. I've been honest with the guy I'm meeting about where I'm at and I will make it very clear when we meet that I can't do a proper relationship with him right now although if we get on I would like to be his friend and see how things progress. Am I doing the wrong thing meeting him? Should I tell my ex? Am I being completely selfish about this?
jalexy Posted August 5, 2003 Posted August 5, 2003 do what you feel is right. dont tell your ex unless he asks. if you dont want to tell him, say you dont want to talk about it.
superd Posted August 5, 2003 Posted August 5, 2003 I would: a) lose my ex and my friendship with him if I knew for sure it wasn't going to work. b) give this new guy a chance Of course, not everyone is me, this is just what I would do, I will take no responsibility if you do this and it doesn't work. regards, d.
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