foxh1234 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Hi everyone, I just thought I would keep you all up to date on my situation. You all know about the emails and calls and then her finding me in the coffeeshop, well she emailed me again today saying she wants to leave the new guy and try and make it work with me again. She said she knows how bad she hurt me and she really wants to work on it and give it another try. She went on to say, he wasn't the one for her and she thinks I was. She also said that she was confused and that I was giving her mixed signals and she thought maybe I wanted out. She said that he means nothing to her and if I will give her a chance, she would like to move out of their apartment and move in with me. Folks, I am sitting here in total disbelief!! The email was very long with her mentioning things we did together and special times we had. She also mentions crying while typing it and thinking about me everyday, even while making love to him!!! After reading it 5-6 times very slowly, I still can't believe it. This woman has some serious mental problems if she thinks she can write me an email and I will then get a moving truck and everything will be roses. Obviously, things with Rob the new guy can't be very good. She needs another branch to swing from before letting go of the one she is on but I am not a f**king branch!! I have not responded yet but rest assured people that I will never take her back, NEVER. Should I respond or just let it go ? I think if I don't respond, she will contact me again. I feel sick in my stomach, I need a drink. I have to be honest, I don't feel like crying, screaming or punching anything. I just feel sick and tired of feeling bad. I don't want her, I don't want to work on things, I don't want anything from her but silence. I won't do anything until I have thought it through. I await your opinions. Thanks everyone. I am sorry that I have to keep asking for advice about this woman, it is getting old, I know. I am at the end of my rope as well.:sick: Link to post Share on other sites
Peter_pan Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I am not a f**king branch!! I don't want her, I don't want to work on things, I don't want anything from her but silence. i respect you so much for saying what you have, its unreal. i cant even BEGIN to imagine how hard it must be being in that situation. i think if you want the final upper hand, tell her what i quoted above. you will then know YOU had the final say and its you that had that power and strength to say that. on the other hand actions speak louder than words, so ignoring it and staying nc is just as strong. do what YOU think is right and that will make YOU feel good, and stick to it. x Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Fox, unfreakingbelievable!! You have stated you do Not want her back and if that still holds true, IGNORE THE PISS OUT OF HER!! SHE HAS THE AUDACISTY TO CONTACT YOU AGAIN?????!!!! I wish I could provide better advice, but if you really are done DON'T!!!! Of course if you did, I would make her work hard. WOW!!!WOW!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Dont ever take her back. Cheaters will always cheat. I was in your shoes a year ago. I take her back and crap hit the fan. Totally regret it. Change your email. Do not look at your old emails anymore. Cold shoulder the crap out of her. As for her letter. You said you read it 6 times. You shoulda a deleted it after the first time you read it.Delete it now! Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 Fox, unfreakingbelievable!! You have stated you do Not want her back and if that still holds true, IGNORE THE PISS OUT OF HER!! SHE HAS THE AUDACISTY TO CONTACT YOU AGAIN?????!!!! I wish I could provide better advice, but if you really are done DON'T!!!! Of course if you did, I would make her work hard. WOW!!!WOW!!!! I already told her in the coffeeshop that I was done. Nothing has changed for me since then. This is why I am so confused, why would she email me and say these things. She has to know that I won't take her back. What a f**king day, lol. I just get over one thing with her and then there is another. I would be lying if I didn't say that I would love to go back in time and work on things with her, but that is not reality. After what she has done to me, there is no going back. Of this I am 100% sure. Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Dont ever take her back. Cheaters will always cheat. I was in your shoes a year ago. I take her back and crap hit the fan. Totally regret it. Change your email. Do not look at your old emails anymore. Cold shoulder the crap out of her. As for her letter. You said you read it 6 times. You shoulda a deleted it after the first time you read it.Delete it now! Yeah, but it is human nature to have read it that many times!! My man is just trying to piece it all together to do what is best for him. I do however, agree with you as far as NOT SPEAKING WITH the SCUD!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 Dont ever take her back. Cheaters will always cheat. I was in your shoes a year ago. I take her back and crap hit the fan. Totally regret it. Change your email. Do not look at your old emails anymore. Cold shoulder the crap out of her. As for her letter. You said you read it 6 times. You shoulda a deleted it after the first time you read it.Delete it now! Hi, I read it so many times because I could not believe what she was saying. It has been just over 4 months since the break up and I wished, hoped, prayed, and longed for this email to come. Now that it has, I no longer want her. If she had come back after a month or two we probably would have tried again and it would fail and I would be destroyed again. It is so true to be careful what you wish for. Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I just get over one thing with her and then there is another. 100% That is exactly what I told you in a PM too!!! How about trying to be my hero for another day like that faithful day at the Coffee shop! Dumb bitch ruined a good cup of coffee and your day!! Now YOUR FREAKING SUNDAY IS SHOT TO HELL!! Sorry I am calling her names, but we are all a team here at LS and she is ****ing with my friend/ team mate!! ya feel me??? Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Its human nature but from exp Its best to not lament over txt,voice mails or letters. All these questions will come up in your head that will never be answered. Its like , you can get to your driver seat from getting in your car through the back seat. Just because you can do it doesnt mean its right:confused: He said he knows for sure that he doesnt want her.... So why read it and analize it ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 That is exactly what I told you in a PM too!!! How about trying to be my hero for another day like that faithful day at the Coffee shop! Dumb bitch ruined a good cup of coffee and your day!! Now YOUR FREAKING SUNDAY IS SHOT TO HELL!! Sorry I am calling her names, but we are all a team here at LS and she is ****ing with my friend/ team mate!! ya feel me??? I appreciate it man, don't worry about the name calling, she deserves it. I am going to respond to her and end this thing once and for all. If I don't respond, she will email or call again. I will never be able to forget her if she keeps bugging me. I just have to figure out what I want to say. Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 No ,dont call her . Silence is best. You think she had your feelings in consideration when she cheated, lied ,and backstabbed you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 Its human nature but from exp Its best to not lament over txt,voice mails or letters. All these questions will come up in your head that will never be answered. Its like , you can get to your driver seat from getting in your car through the back seat. Just because you can do it doesnt mean its right:confused: He said he knows for sure that he doesnt want her.... So why read it and analize it ? Your right about thinking about it too much. I just wanted this so much for the first 2 months and now I get it and I really don't want her anymore. It is kind of sad in a a way but she brought this whole friggin thing on herself. Had she came to me and said let's work on making things better instead of jumping in bed with another guy, maybe things could have been different. Anyway, I'm done with the what if bulls**t. I'm going to email her back and say not interested, don't contact me again. I just want her to GO AWAY!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 No ,dont call her . Silence is best. You think she had your feelings in consideration when she cheated, lied ,and backstabbed you? I just want her to stop. If I don't respond, I think she will call or come to my place. I don't want to see her again. As I said earlier, I will think about it before I do anything. I appreciate the advice, thanks alot. Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 No problem brotha. For me ,i would leave her in the dust. But different strokes for different folks. Since you know she will come to your job or pad, Best to politely tell her no thanks. Whos in you avatar Link to post Share on other sites
Peter_pan Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 if you reply she will reply, she will have the last email. there is always a come back, you responding to her is giving her a chance to speak... you dont want that. silence is better. Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 If she doesnt get the hint from silence I dont think she will listen to you when you ttell her to stay away. ...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 No problem brotha. For me ,i would leave her in the dust. But different strokes for different folks. Since you know she will come to your job or pad, Best to politely tell her no thanks. Whos in you avatar The two guys from the movie swingers. It is one of my favorite movies. Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 The two guys from the movie swingers. It is one of my favorite movies. It's the big Winner Mikey and Trent!!! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Hi everyone, I just thought I would keep you all up to date on my situation. You all know about the emails and calls and then her finding me in the coffeeshop, well she emailed me again today saying she wants to leave the new guy and try and make it work with me again. She said she knows how bad she hurt me and she really wants to work on it and give it another try. She went on to say, he wasn't the one for her and she thinks I was. She also said that she was confused and that I was giving her mixed signals and she thought maybe I wanted out. She said that he means nothing to her and if I will give her a chance, she would like to move out of their apartment and move in with me. Folks, I am sitting here in total disbelief!! The email was very long with her mentioning things we did together and special times we had. She also mentions crying while typing it and thinking about me everyday, even while making love to him!!! SHE IS SO FULL OF SH*T!!!!!!!!!! Dude, DON'T YOU DARE BUY THAT LINE!!!!!! EVER!!!!! If she thought you wanted out, she should have talked to you before just rushing off and BOINKING another guy!!! And the fact she talks about sex with this guy to you --BARF!! DON'T BUY IT!!! I REPEAT DO NOT BUY IT!!! After reading it 5-6 times very slowly, I still can't believe it. This woman has some serious mental problems if she thinks she can write me an email and I will then get a moving truck and everything will be roses. Obviously, things with Rob the new guy can't be very good. She needs another branch to swing from before letting go of the one she is on but I am not a f**king branch!! I have not responded yet but rest assured people that I will never take her back, NEVER. Good man. She's a liar and a cheat and can not be trusted. Let her be someone else's problem, NOT YOURS! Should I respond or just let it go ? I think if I don't respond, she will contact me again. I feel sick in my stomach, I need a drink. I have to be honest, I don't feel like crying, screaming or punching anything. I just feel sick and tired of feeling bad. I don't want her, I don't want to work on things, I don't want anything from her but silence. I won't do anything until I have thought it through. I await your opinions. Thanks everyone. I am sorry that I have to keep asking for advice about this woman, it is getting old, I know. I am at the end of my rope as well.:sick: Say nothing. The opposite of love is not hate but INDIFFERENCE. Not responding to her is indifference. Keep strong man, you deserve way better than her! Link to post Share on other sites
nopainnogain Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Word! My friend showed me that movie when I had just broken up . Now I reference points of my life ......before swingers (bs) or after swingers (as) lol. That movie ruled. Sarah marshall was cool except for the frontal. But in the end,sarah marshall is ****ed lol. "your pimp and you dont even know it" Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Word! My friend showed me that movie when I had just broken up . Now I reference points of my life ......before swingers (bs) or after swingers (as) lol. That movie ruled. Sarah marshall was cool except for the frontal. But in the end,sarah marshall is ****ed lol. "your pimp and you dont even know it" Your'e money and you don't even know. You are like this big bear, with fangs and claws and she is the bunny. Speaking of that, Fox, You are the Bear and YOU BEST stay away from your EX BUNNY!!! Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 It's extremely touching that she cried over you while screwing the other guy. What a great gal. Ignore, ignore ignore, she'll go away. It may take a little while but with or without her dignity, she will move on if you keep ignoring her. I've read your posts, you've come along way. Too far to let a crazy chick bring you down. Link to post Share on other sites
sunshinegirl Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Fox, this is unreal!! I am getting a lot of vicarious enjoyment out of your ability to dump the dumper! Sorry, I know it doesn't feel that way to you. Don't email her. Why do you think that will stop her? In your email a few weeks ago you said don't call/talk to me again. In the coffee shop you said don't call/talk to me again. You think doing it a third time will stop her? Time to try something different. I vote for silence and if she finds you again, you calmly inform her that you will get a restraining order if she contacts you in any way again. Okay, that's my mean side. But still, sending YET ANOTHER email isn't going to do the trick. Remember, you were convinced after the coffee shop incident that you wouldn't hear from her again because you were SO CLEAR about wanting her to leave you alone. (((hugs))) Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted July 27, 2008 Author Share Posted July 27, 2008 Hi everyone, I just drove over to talk to my best friend and after talking to him and listening to everyone here, I will not repond to her. Not now, tomorrow or next year. We are done and nothing she can say or do will change that. I deserve alot better GF than her and I won't settle for anything less. F**K HER AND THE HORSE SHE RODE IN ON. She made her decision and now I am making mine.Thanks everyone, I feel alot better. Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Hi everyone, I just drove over to talk to my best friend and after talking to him and listening to everyone here, I will not repond to her. Not now, tomorrow or next year. We are done and nothing she can say or do will change that. I deserve alot better GF than her and I won't settle for anything less. F**K HER AND THE HORSE SHE RODE IN ON. She made her decision and now I am making mine.Thanks everyone, I feel alot better. That's what I am talking about right there!!!!!!! Good for you. You know something Fox, YOU AND I ARE BOTH GREAT GUYS!! This is a beautiful example of what happens when you take advantage of that guy!! May she be in more pain than she can possibly bear because of the hurt and pain she served you on a cold dish!! Link to post Share on other sites
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