She emailed me again!! I can't believe it!!

[foxh1234]

I had my first real relationship at the age of 23, it started in nov of 06 and we were exclusive until July of 07, during this time I went away & my ex had sex with her ex & went on 2 dates. It turns out she kept seeing the guy & had sex with him, eitherway I didn't know and the relationship carrired on until Feb of 08 when her BF told me that she had moved on.

 

This explains why the relationship never matured & why my ex started to bevome really nagful & bitchy, eitherway I wish I had the option of her coming back & me deciding what I want to do with her.

 

At times, I am lonely during the night & I want nothing more than to be with someone, I don't even remember her now, I just remember what I had & that was someone whom I could talk too and someone whom I could sleep next too. I don't have that anymore, I miss that & right now I get lonely sometimes.

 

I wanted so much to get her out of my life & now she's out of my life & know I kind of wished we would of worked it out. I don't really think its about being a wuss or a man in regards to taking her back or not but I do admire your courage to tell her to **** off. If my ex decieded to come back, I honestly don't know what I would do. Deep down though, I want her back despite what she had done.

 

I guess what I'm trying to say is I feel envious that you had the opertunity to deciede what you wanted to do in regards to your ex. I don't think I will have that chance in this lifetime.

 

On another note, its sad that your ex betrayed you in that manner & just expected you to take her back, Its also sad that her life had become so bad, I guess she didn't know things would turn out the way it did, but I guess now she has learn the hard way. It looks like you thought her a life lesson in regards to what cheating can do to a relationship.

 

So whomever the next man is, She probably won't cheat on him, eitherway it doesn't matter as you two are not together & you moved on.

 

Hi, thanks for the kind words. I felt the same way as you when I found out she had cheated on me. Over the first month or two I often dreamed of getting her back despite what she had done and I thought we could work on things. In reality, what kind of relationship could we have without trust ? Ask yourself this question and things will become clearer for you. What we all miss is the fantasy of our ex's, the illusion of the perfect person that really doesn't exist anymore, if it ever did. In my situation, there was no going back and once I accepted that, it became alot easier to move forward.

 

Tale a real hard look at yourself and your ex now. Would it ever work again ? Would you trust her ? Do you really want her back, or do you just want someone to take away the loneliness ? Good Luck in the future and Stay Strong.

[foxh1234]

Awww thanks guys!!! I just saw these posts..lol

Cali is that your pic? If so........HUBBA HUBBA!!!!

Fox..I hope your date goes well!!!! Keep us posted!!!

 

Great date!!! great girl!! going out again this week.

[CHANTRESS]

Awwww..that's awesome Fox!!! I hope things work out for you. After everything recently, you deserve it!!!

[BackonTrack]

 

Tale a real hard look at yourself and your ex now. Would it ever work again ? Would you trust her ? Do you really want her back, or do you just want someone to take away the loneliness ? Good Luck in the future and Stay Strong.

 

 

I hear what your saying, I don't think I can trust her. Thats not true, I still think I can trust her, call me a fool but she put up a really good image.

I just want someone to take away the loneliness, someone whom I like as well. I haven't found that person yet, thats probably why I am still thinking about what I had before because I haven't found that again.

 

I think it can work again, I forgive her, wow this is sad that I am writing these words. I really need to find someone new soon before I do something stupid like call her. I think I am becoming desperate.

 

I've tried talking to about 7 girls, 3 of them I had sex with, 4 of them were quality females. Of the 3, I didn't want any of them, of the 4 I wanted any one of them. One moved away, one wants me to make her cheat on her BF but I moved to slow & now i think she lost respect for me, the other 2 I messed up on, wasn't confident enough.

 

Man this is getting bad, I never had any trouble finding a women in the past, times has sure changed. It appears I am not the man I thought myself to be but yet I am am, something is not right with either my approach or the way I am carrying myself.

 

I don't know what it is as of yet.

[foxh1234]

I hear what your saying, I don't think I can trust her. Thats not true, I still think I can trust her, call me a fool but she put up a really good image.

I just want someone to take away the loneliness, someone whom I like as well. I haven't found that person yet, thats probably why I am still thinking about what I had before because I haven't found that again.

 

I think it can work again, I forgive her, wow this is sad that I am writing these words. I really need to find someone new soon before I do something stupid like call her. I think I am becoming desperate.

 

I've tried talking to about 7 girls, 3 of them I had sex with, 4 of them were quality females. Of the 3, I didn't want any of them, of the 4 I wanted any one of them. One moved away, one wants me to make her cheat on her BF but I moved to slow & now i think she lost respect for me, the other 2 I messed up on, wasn't confident enough.

 

Man this is getting bad, I never had any trouble finding a women in the past, times has sure changed. It appears I am not the man I thought myself to be but yet I am am, something is not right with either my approach or the way I am carrying myself.

 

I don't know what it is as of yet.

 

Sounds to me like you are putting too much pressure on yourself to meet someone and start a relationship. Just relax and be yourself. The right one will fall right into your lap in no time. Trying too hard shows and it doesn't attract women, imo. Just be relaxed and confident, have a take it or leave it attitude and you will have more women talking to you then you can handle. In my experience, looking needy and uptight is a big turn off to women. Just my opinion though. What do I know, I have been out of game for 8 years. I have to be honest, it is really fun dating again. I forgot how good I was at it. ;) Hang in there.