She emailed me again!! I can't believe it!!

[wareagle]

HaHa there it is again Car, the ol Silence Sandwich, hahahahahahahha!!!!!!!!

[foxh1234]

Wow Fox! When I grow up I want to be just like you lol! Seriously though, you're doing what so many of us daren't/can't/won't and reading your posts just now has certainly given me food for thought AND strength.

Well done and thank you Xxx

 

Hi Daisyloo. I'm not doing anything that special. I am just doing what I have to do to get through this and get better. There is no going back for me and once I realized that, it became alot easier to move past her. Thanks for the kind words.

[foxh1234]

Hey Fox.....as a woman I have to say I do respect your stance.You have endured a LOT...your ex has a lot of nerve to do this to you..but you are dealing with it like a man..

not like a P whipped little boy.

Good for you.You deserve SO much more.....Maybe you will be the one person in her life who DOESN'T take her sh*t!!

 

Thanks Chantress, It has not been easy, but it has been necessary.

[tinke]

well Foxh,

when you get a grip on things, maybe you can enlighten us on how it feels to be on the other side of things.

I know I made my pleas early on, nothing for quite some time now.

I know how it is to be the one attempting...but, now you can share firsthand what the situation feels like on your side.

Did you ever believe YOU would one day be the on the receiving end of her attention to win you back? And now YOU are the one disallowing her advances?

 

Hurt/disappointment are very powerful. I can understand your stance of mistrusting her.

peace to you.

[ioncebelieved]

HaHa there it is again Car, the ol Silence Sandwich, hahahahahahahha!!!!!!!!

 

I wonder just how that sandwich is tasting right about now???? Is it sour, bitter, or just plain different since she is not used to it!! If I owned a sandwich shop I would have to make that sandwich.

[foxh1234]

well Foxh,

when you get a grip on things, maybe you can enlighten us on how it feels to be on the other side of things.

I know I made my pleas early on, nothing for quite some time now.

I know how it is to be the one attempting...but, now you can share firsthand what the situation feels like on your side.

Did you ever believe YOU would one day be the on the receiving end of her attention to win you back? And now YOU are the one disallowing her advances?

 

Hurt/disappointment are very powerful. I can understand your stance of mistrusting her.

peace to you.

 

Hi tinke, Right now all I feel is sadness. This is the person that I thought would be with me forever. 6 months ago we were so happy ( or so I thought ) and then 2 months later everything falls apart. I don't feel like a winner or like I showed her. I just feel terrible with how things turned out and that the person I trusted and told I Love You, could do this to me. Telling her I didn't want her anymore when we were in the coffeeshop was the hardest thing I have ever done. I thought that would be it and now this today. I can't take anymore sadness and rollercoaster rides.

 

She wanted this and I had to accept that over the last 4 months and move past the crying, wallowing, hurting, anger, depression, and everything else that comes with this. Now when I get a handle on things, she wants me back, what the f**k!!! I want to stop this crazy game and get my life back. She is still calling me!!! The phone is ringing right now as I type.

 

Who in their right mind would expect me to forget everything and say, it's OK babe, grab your stuff and move in. Let's play house again and act like nothing happened. No one could do that. She knows me and she knows I will never change my mind. So why keep bugging me, for f**k sake stop calling me.

 

I'm going to sleep, I will feel better tomorrow afterI get her blocked on my phones. What pisses me off the most is that she is still hurting me even when I am rejecting her. Good Night everyone. Thanks

[Daisyloo]

Hi Daisyloo. I'm not doing anything that special. I am just doing what I have to do to get through this and get better. There is no going back for me and once I realized that, it became alot easier to move past her. Thanks for the kind words.

Er - YES. What you are doing IS special. You're respecting yourself, standing your ground AND doing it with dignity not scorn and degredation. Things are hard of course but knowing she wants you back has to give you a little strength because many other (normal, kind and caring) women will want you too. Don't dismiss what you're doing here. You're exhibiting strength even when you don't feel it - and THAT'S special. Big love Xx

[JustinWolf]

Hi tinke, Right now all I feel is sadness. This is the person that I thought would be with me forever. 6 months ago we were so happy ( or so I thought ) and then 2 months later everything falls apart. I don't feel like a winner or like I showed her. I just feel terrible with how things turned out and that the person I trusted and told I Love You, could do this to me. Telling her I didn't want her anymore when we were in the coffeeshop was the hardest thing I have ever done. I thought that would be it and now this today. I can't take anymore sadness and rollercoaster rides.

 

She wanted this and I had to accept that over the last 4 months and move past the crying, wallowing, hurting, anger, depression, and everything else that comes with this. Now when I get a handle on things, she wants me back, what the f**k!!! I want to stop this crazy game and get my life back. She is still calling me!!! The phone is ringing right now as I type.

 

Who in their right mind would expect me to forget everything and say, it's OK babe, grab your stuff and move in. Let's play house again and act like nothing happened. No one could do that. She knows me and she knows I will never change my mind. So why keep bugging me, for f**k sake stop calling me.

 

I'm going to sleep, I will feel better tomorrow afterI get her blocked on my phones. What pisses me off the most is that she is still hurting me even when I am rejecting her. Good Night everyone. Thanks

Damn, man. I feel for you, I understand how this must be tough on you and how you must feel. I think that girl deserves a big punch in the face but she can regret this all she wants, she did do you wrong. Just stay strong, you've been stronger than a lot of people here. Props to you. Keep your heads up, I see the sun coming.

[CaliGuy]

Dude, just remember that she BETRAYED you. Your love, your trust, everything. She betrayed you. That is all you need to remember to know that you should never go back to her. I know the hurt and pain you feel, but if someone can do that to you, you have to wonder if they ever really loved you.

 

You certainly deserve better! And I am sure she is out there. Keep the faith!

[Angel1111]

if you reply she will reply, she will have the last email. there is always a come back, you responding to her is giving her a chance to speak... you dont want that.

 

silence is better.

 

Good point but he can always get around that by ending his email with something like: "....and please do not respond to this email because all of your emails will be automatically deleted from this point on."

 

I would have to respond to an email like that, too. I couldn't leave that one alone. She actually thinks she can move in and work on the relationship....???? Is she on the really hard drugs???

 

Good for you, Fox. We're all proud of you. And, even though you don't want her back, doesn't it feel good to know she realizes her mistake? Poetic.....

[Keridan]

I just wanted to add my best wishes to the many that have been expressed here. People are rallying because we understand how hard it is to go through something like this. We have so much respect for you and the strength you are showing.

 

I hope you feel free to continue coming here and vent while you are going through this. Not even just for you, but for everyone else, too. A lot of people are going through similar pain and find strength when someone else shows it can be handled correctly.

 

Keep your strength. Get her blocked. Move on with your life. We're all here to listen to and support you. All my best wishes again! You're doing great!

[jcrew]

Wow, I'm really impressed by you, Fox. Not just for sticking to your guns, but because you're also not shying away from admitting how much this still hurts you. People here are giving you a lot of (deserved) praise and giving you a lot of opportunities to act cocky, but you're just being honest and humble about it. That speaks pretty highly of your character.

 

You seem like a really good guy, and I hope things get better for you and that you someday meet someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve!

[JustinWolf]

You know when times will get hard, just flick your testicles and remember about this whole thing. You will laugh and feel strong. Just don't flick them too hard.

[nopainnogain]

All this testicle talk lol. I just saw step brother. Funny movie. The step brother "tea bags " the other step brothers drum set lol. Anyways, stay strong fox. You doin a great job. Crazy how the script flipped. Now she will probably find this coping section and post . Without you knowing it you will give her advice,not knowing its her:laugh:

 

Stay silent.

[carhill]

I wonder just how that sandwich is tasting right about now???? Is it sour, bitter, or just plain different since she is not used to it!! If I owned a sandwich shop I would have to make that sandwich.

Best served in the vacuum of space. Why? Think about it

 

 

absolute zero and no sound is possible

 

She experiences the vacuum of space you formerly occupied. Sucks, doesn't it?

[Crestfallen_KH]

Good for you, Fox. I just want to weigh in here on the "say nothing" side.

 

If you respond, then all you'll teach her is that sending a weepy e-mail and calling 50 times will get you to respond. By teaching her that nothing she does will get a response, she'll be forced to give it up.

 

Just stay strong. It's ok and normal to also be sad...just do the best you can.

[borelandkaren]

Fox, u da man!!!! Good on ya, honey. No need to be rude, nasty or any of the above. Dignity is a wonderful thing. Maintain this, along with NC and everything will turn out fine. Eventually she will leave you alone and life will get back to the normal you were starting to live. All power to you, darlin'. Stay strong and maintain your resolve. We're right behind you.:)

[Chrome Barracuda]

Keep it moving Fox. your on te right track. I've never taken a bitch that backstabbed me like yours did. never!!!

[tinke]

I would suggest differently IF you did not have the direct face-to-face contact at the coffee shop, but you did express your feelings then.

Having said that....she cannot wonder what is on your mind, she should know.

She will most likely come to an end with the contacts eventually, deleting her and blocking your phones will reiterate your stance.

 

Tough situation, but keep in mind..she did this! We know the pain of rejection, betrayal and the search for some solid ground. Funny, most wish for this moment, and time and time again...it is not at all what one thought it would be.

 

From your posts, you seem like an honorable man , I admire your strength and self-respect.

You must have been on her mind as things were not going smoothly with the other, but still, I have to say...what IF things did go well, I doubt she would have been contacting you at all. She probably wouldn't even think about the pain YOU went through, or how you were coping, etc. Sometimes I cannot believe the insensitivity of others. Her mind was on someone else and I am sure your regards were not considered when she left. It amazes me that some just don't get the depth of the pain caused! And yes, I understand your words of feeling differently IF she wasn't with him, it adds a whole new dimension.

 

Of course your feelings are your own, but I can tell you that I did return to someone who found greener pastures...and history repeated itself!

It's one thing that he became interested in someone else, but the deep pain was that it was so easy to betray me, dismiss me.

 

As you are pondering all this in your head, remember to think of YOU and YOUR needs.

She gave up that right to occupy your thoughts when she left.

 

It's hard to respect someone who doesn't have the decency to sit down and talk about "problems" in the relationship prior to leaving.

 

peace will come.

[foxh1234]

Hi everyone, I just dragged my butt out of bed, lol. I took the day off and I need it. I got very little sleep last night. I called Rogers and blocked her # so no more calls, thank God. To say that I appreciate everyone's kind words and support would be a huge understatement. You have all given me the wisdom and strength to stay strong even when it seemed impossible. This whole thing has really torn me apart inside and I have learned alot about my feelings and my resolve. I will not look back any longer. Ths last nail is in the coffin and this chapter of my life is closed.

 

I can now look forward, I have a couple of golf trips planned to the U.S. with friends and I am going to Europe in November. I think I will also look into buying a motorcycle. I used to ride when I was younger and have wanted to buy another one for years now. First things first though, I need to clean this place, lol. What a friggin mess, lol. I think I need professional help with this one. I think Molly Maid is needed,lol. OK, clean house, get a haircut, go downtown and look at bikes. Today is the first day of the rest of my life. I will move on and stay strong. Peace

[Crazy.S]

That is good for you. I am really happy that you persevered and starting the next chapter of your life. I am hoping my next chapter starts soon, because this is getting too old. I am also looking for a bike. Most likely I won't get one till next summer.

[bish]

Should I respond or just let it go ?

 

You let it go. She does not deserve a response. And if you do respond, it should be on the lines of "LEAVE ME THE #$%# ALONE!!!"

[CaliGuy]

Hi everyone, I just dragged my butt out of bed, lol. I took the day off and I need it. I got very little sleep last night. I called Rogers and blocked her # so no more calls, thank God. To say that I appreciate everyone's kind words and support would be a huge understatement. You have all given me the wisdom and strength to stay strong even when it seemed impossible. This whole thing has really torn me apart inside and I have learned alot about my feelings and my resolve. I will not look back any longer. Ths last nail is in the coffin and this chapter of my life is closed.

 

I can now look forward, I have a couple of golf trips planned to the U.S. with friends and I am going to Europe in November. I think I will also look into buying a motorcycle. I used to ride when I was younger and have wanted to buy another one for years now. First things first though, I need to clean this place, lol. What a friggin mess, lol. I think I need professional help with this one. I think Molly Maid is needed,lol. OK, clean house, get a haircut, go downtown and look at bikes. Today is the first day of the rest of my life. I will move on and stay strong. Peace

 

 

Fox, I knew you and I were a lot alike. IF you come to California, let's play a few rounds together. I also race motorcycles so I can brief you on what to do to keep yourself safe on the road.

 

Keep up the good work. You are inspiring a lot of people here!!!

[CHANTRESS]

You coming to Florida Fox?? <wink wink> LOL

[tealeafbud]

Fox, only a complete idiot would take her back. And I know, there are a bunch of idiots out there. But you have the LS network (Kinda like the Verizon network) behind you.