CHANTRESS Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Wow Fox.....as a woman though, it had to take a lot of guts to put herself out there like that. Maybe you will be the person to teach her this tough lesson...and it's a shame you had to go through so much in order to get where you are. But the positive is you learned something as well. Especilly about yourself!! Anyway...best in all to you. I'm sure someone will be very lucky to have you!! Link to post Share on other sites
TrustInYourself Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Reply back with this. You made your bed. Lie in your bed bitch. LIE DOWN, YOU MONKEY ASS BRANCH SWINGING HUSSY! Link to post Share on other sites
CHANTRESS Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Reply back with this. You made your bed. Lie in your bed bitch. LIE DOWN, YOU MONKEY ASS BRANCH SWINGING HUSSY! Hmmmm..somehow I can't picture Fox saying this. Just a guess... Link to post Share on other sites
TrustInYourself Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Is Fox too kind and rational for such a statement? Link to post Share on other sites
CHANTRESS Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Well....he seems to be. Just not something I can picture him saying, that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
TrustInYourself Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Chantress....that's like some Dungeons and Dragons stuff isn't it? Call me up for some table top gaming. I got the 12 sided dice, yo. Link to post Share on other sites
CHANTRESS Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Sorry, that went way over my head. Blonde moment I suppose.. Link to post Share on other sites
TrustInYourself Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Haha. No comment. We are hijacking this thread, you minx. Fox. Blame her, not me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted August 1, 2008 Author Share Posted August 1, 2008 I know that makes sense. It makes sense to me. It's what I would do if in her shoes, thinking like a logical man....oops...she's not a man My bet is she has no cognitive sense of what she's doing and is operating on pure emotion. She may, looking back, see this period as completely blank...."What was I thinking?".... Just be prepared. Oh, how did the game go? I'm not an avid golfer but played in my younger years. So peaceful Hi, I shot 82. I normally shoot high 70's low 80's. It was a pretty good day on the course until I hit the parking lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Keridan Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Fox, I just wanna say again that you are one strong guy! It takes incredible strength to stand there and deal with someone the way you did. To not be a jerk, but still be firm in the crying face of someone you love. Wow! I am impressed again. It sounds like you got some closure out of it. I'm glad for that. Most people in your situation never even see that much peace. I hope things continue to get better for you! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Hi, I shot 82. I normally shoot high 70's low 80's. It was a pretty good day on the course until I hit the parking lot. Return often. It helps the handicap and I recall the tanned legs of the ladies walking the course to be quite memorable Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted August 1, 2008 Author Share Posted August 1, 2008 Fox, I just wanna say again that you are one strong guy! It takes incredible strength to stand there and deal with someone the way you did. To not be a jerk, but still be firm in the crying face of someone you love. Wow! I am impressed again. It sounds like you got some closure out of it. I'm glad for that. Most people in your situation never even see that much peace. I hope things continue to get better for you! Thanks Keridan, I really appreciate the kind words. I hope this is the end and I can get on with living my life again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted August 1, 2008 Author Share Posted August 1, 2008 Return often. It helps the handicap and I recall the tanned legs of the ladies walking the course to be quite memorable Yesterday was my 56th round since the middle of April. I should get 120-130 rounds this season. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 Hi everyone, just to keep my LS friends up to date, she found me at my golf course yesterday. When I came off the 18th green she was waiting by my car. I have been a member at this club for 9 years, so it was easy for her to find me there. Anyway, we talked for 20 minutes or so, no crying by me, but lots by her. I tried to explain my side to her and explain that too much had happened between us for it to work. She seemed to get it and she apologized a bunch of times for everything, not only the cheating but things that happened years ago. She looked terrible and looked like she hadn't slept in a week. I hate to say this, but I felt sorry for her, she has really screwed herself. She doesn't know what to do or where to go. It is not my problem anymore, but I still don't want to see her in a ditch or homeless. She has moved out of the apartment she had with the other guy and is living with a friend. I held myself together very very well and I actually just talked to her like I would any other person. Very matter of factly. I told her that I didn't want her to contact me again and If I wanted to contact her, I would let her know. She said she was sorry for coming to the golf course, but she knew she would find me here and she really wanted to see me and find out for sure that we had no chance. Guys, this has been such a learning experience for me. I have learned never to put all my eggs in one basket. I put all my emotional eggs in her basket and when it ended, I had nothing, no where to go, no point of reference. I loved her too much, gave her too much of myself, too much attention, too much of my time and I neglected my friends, family, interests, etc.... I really thought that my life was complete with her, when actually, I was missing out on doing alot of things that I enjoy, just to be with her. The last 2 weeks, I have been doing things I want to do, going places I want to go and spending time with who I want to be with. I will find another person and hopefully fall in love again, but I will never forget who I am and I will not put myself second. We each have to do our own things away from the relationship to be whole, complete people. I thought all I needed was her and we would be happy. I was so very wrong. She understands now where I am at, and she fully understands why we are done and won't be getting back. I told her I wish her luck and I hope she finds hapiness with someone. I also told her to take a deep look at herself and ask herself why she did what she did to me. I have learned alot from it, I hope she does as well. She said goodbye as I did and then got out of my car and was gone. I don't expect to see her again and that makes me sad. Even after all she has done and all the pain she has caused me, I still love her. I won't be with her and again, but I will always care about her. Wow Fox, that is some crazy stuff. Amazing isn't it? That people think they can take you for granted, that they can cheat on you and toss away unconditional love so easily and then expect to get it back just as easily? Wow. Just freaking wow. I'm like you, man. Once you burn that bridge, you can not come back. You can't just expect things to go back to the way they were and all will be forgiven. It's good to forgive but one never forgets. And I'm amazed she still hasn't apologized for all the cheating. She's just looking for a place to shack up until she finds her next target. Good on you for showing her tough love. That's what defines a man and a wuss. A wuss would caved in and given her everything she asked for. A man tells her what you did. What's done is done and can not be changed. Since you made this mess, you clean it up. It's not my job to fix YOUR problems. Good on you, man. Link to post Share on other sites
sfsassy Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 I know that makes sense. It makes sense to me. It's what I would do if in her shoes, thinking like a logical man....oops...she's not a man My bet is she has no cognitive sense of what she's doing and is operating on pure emotion. She may, looking back, see this period as completely blank...."What was I thinking?".... Just be prepared. Oh, how did the game go? I'm not an avid golfer but played in my younger years. So peaceful I was that girl. (More emailing and phoning than stalking places he went. Especially as lazy bones just stayed at home, wasn't going to be arrested for tresassing, lol.) Anyway, yes, now I think "What was I thinking". It was pathetic. Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted August 2, 2008 Author Share Posted August 2, 2008 Wow Fox, that is some crazy stuff. Amazing isn't it? That people think they can take you for granted, that they can cheat on you and toss away unconditional love so easily and then expect to get it back just as easily? Wow. Just freaking wow. I'm like you, man. Once you burn that bridge, you can not come back. You can't just expect things to go back to the way they were and all will be forgiven. It's good to forgive but one never forgets. And I'm amazed she still hasn't apologized for all the cheating. She's just looking for a place to shack up until she finds her next target. Good on you for showing her tough love. That's what defines a man and a wuss. A wuss would caved in and given her everything she asked for. A man tells her what you did. What's done is done and can not be changed. Since you made this mess, you clean it up. It's not my job to fix YOUR problems. Good on you, man. Thanks CG, I hope this is the end. I just want to move forward and put this whole thing behind me for good. Link to post Share on other sites
CHANTRESS Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 Hey Fox.....are you planning any more blind dates? If you do, you GOTTA let us know about it.....LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted August 2, 2008 Author Share Posted August 2, 2008 Hey Fox.....are you planning any more blind dates? If you do, you GOTTA let us know about it.....LOL No plans for any at the moment. That was a night I won't forget, lol. She was quite a lady for sure. I did meet a couple of women at a BBQ last week. One called me 2 nights later to see if I wanted to get together sometime. I thought it was pretty cool that she called me. I might do something with her on Sunday or Monday. I'm not in a hurry to meet anyone really, but sex would be nice:p:p It has been awhile and it is soooooooooo much fun. Link to post Share on other sites
CHANTRESS Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 That's awesome!!!!! Let's HOPE she's not crazy like the other chick!!! LMAO I would have paid admission to see that!!! You handled it MUCH better than I would have!!! For sure!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted August 2, 2008 Author Share Posted August 2, 2008 That's awesome!!!!! Let's HOPE she's not crazy like the other chick!!! LMAO I would have paid admission to see that!!! You handled it MUCH better than I would have!!! For sure!!! Hi Chantress, there is no chance this woman could be as crazy as her, lol. This one seemed quite normal and didn't complain about her BBQ food at all. I set up a date with her tonight at 8, I can't wait. She looks alot like you from what I can see in your picture- Blonde and very very beautiful. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 Chantress is hypnotizing me with those photos too, Fox Wait....what were we talking about??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author foxh1234 Posted August 2, 2008 Author Share Posted August 2, 2008 Chantress is hypnotizing me with those photos too, Fox Wait....what were we talking about??? They are all beautiful for sure. I'm not sure what I was talking about anymore. Wish me luck on my 8pm date, I will probably need it. Link to post Share on other sites
justaman99 Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 You stood your ground and handled yourself with strength and respect. I admire you for how you took care of it. Well done, Just Link to post Share on other sites
CHANTRESS Posted August 3, 2008 Share Posted August 3, 2008 Awww thanks guys!!! I just saw these posts..lol Cali is that your pic? If so........HUBBA HUBBA!!!! Fox..I hope your date goes well!!!! Keep us posted!!! Link to post Share on other sites
BackonTrack Posted August 3, 2008 Share Posted August 3, 2008 Wow Fox, that is some crazy stuff. Amazing isn't it? That people think they can take you for granted, that they can cheat on you and toss away unconditional love so easily and then expect to get it back just as easily? Wow. Just freaking wow. I'm like you, man. Once you burn that bridge, you can not come back. You can't just expect things to go back to the way they were and all will be forgiven. It's good to forgive but one never forgets. And I'm amazed she still hasn't apologized for all the cheating. She's just looking for a place to shack up until she finds her next target. Good on you for showing her tough love. That's what defines a man and a wuss. A wuss would caved in and given her everything she asked for. A man tells her what you did. What's done is done and can not be changed. Since you made this mess, you clean it up. It's not my job to fix YOUR problems. Good on you, man. I had my first real relationship at the age of 23, it started in nov of 06 and we were exclusive until July of 07, during this time I went away & my ex had sex with her ex & went on 2 dates. It turns out she kept seeing the guy & had sex with him, eitherway I didn't know and the relationship carrired on until Feb of 08 when her BF told me that she had moved on. This explains why the relationship never matured & why my ex started to bevome really nagful & bitchy, eitherway I wish I had the option of her coming back & me deciding what I want to do with her. At times, I am lonely during the night & I want nothing more than to be with someone, I don't even remember her now, I just remember what I had & that was someone whom I could talk too and someone whom I could sleep next too. I don't have that anymore, I miss that & right now I get lonely sometimes. I wanted so much to get her out of my life & now she's out of my life & know I kind of wished we would of worked it out. I don't really think its about being a wuss or a man in regards to taking her back or not but I do admire your courage to tell her to **** off. If my ex decieded to come back, I honestly don't know what I would do. Deep down though, I want her back despite what she had done. I guess what I'm trying to say is I feel envious that you had the opertunity to deciede what you wanted to do in regards to your ex. I don't think I will have that chance in this lifetime. On another note, its sad that your ex betrayed you in that manner & just expected you to take her back, Its also sad that her life had become so bad, I guess she didn't know things would turn out the way it did, but I guess now she has learn the hard way. It looks like you thought her a life lesson in regards to what cheating can do to a relationship. So whomever the next man is, She probably won't cheat on him, eitherway it doesn't matter as you two are not together & you moved on. Link to post Share on other sites
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